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To think that people who don’t like pets shouldn’t be judged as “cold”?

310 replies

ByMellowScroller · 11/11/2024 22:44

Not everyone loves animals, yet people think it’s a red flag. AIBU to think it’s just personal preference and nothing more?

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SabreIsMyFave · 11/11/2024 22:57

I agree OP. It's ridiculous to think people are 'cold' because they don't like pets/don't want pets. Quite honestly, a lot of people who do have pets shouldn't bloody well have them!

NukaCola · 11/11/2024 22:57

Yanbu but you see it so often - people who don’t like animals can’t be trusted, are psychos, something wrong with them.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 11/11/2024 22:57

I don't hate all dog owners. But I do hate the ones who leave their dog's shit everywhere and let their dogs run/jump up at me. Which isn't as small a minority as you might hope.

XenoBitch · 11/11/2024 22:56

I love pets, and have my own. I don't see it as a red flag if someone doesn't like them. But I do see it as a red flag when someone spouts shite about people who do have pets.
Looks at any of the million threads about hating dogs on here, and you will see plenty of examples. Crap like dog owners only have dogs because they want something to control, or dog owners are socially lacking somewhat. No one in those threads can leave it as "I don't like dogs"... it always descends into vitriol towards people who actually have dogs. And that is a huge red flag.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 11/11/2024 22:53

Wanting to harm an animal would be a massive red flag, but simply disliking an animal? No.

I love cats. I don't have one, but I love them. Will always stroke one if it wants me to.

But I can't stand dogs. I don't wish them any harm, but I don't want them anywhere near me. A bit like tarantulas - I wouldn't hurt one, but don't expect me to enjoy having one jump on me or run at me.

Lots of pet lovers eat meat, so they're not actually "animal lovers" - if they were they wouldn't condone their slaughter on an industrial scale. So they are just as selective about the animals they like as I am. (Although I'm a veggie, so I don't eat the animals I'm not keen on.)

GreenGrass28 · 11/11/2024 22:53

@sprigatito not liking animals enough to have them as pets, doesn't mean that people don't care about animals at all. I personally wouldn't have any pets, but I still feel disgust at people who abuse animals. I don't like dogs enough to pet them, but I'd intervene or call the police if I knew one was being mistreated and I'd help a lost or injured animal too.

Most people who don't have pets don't hate animals, they simply don't like or enjoy them enough to have them living in their home.

kitkat2024 · 11/11/2024 22:52

YANBU. I don't hate animals but I don't love them in the way that everyone else seems to. I'm indifferent really. Don't get me started on advent calendars for cats/dogs etc...

Wendolino · 11/11/2024 22:50

YANBU.
I like some animals, I don't like others. I wouldn't want an animal that I don't like to be hurt, though. I've no idea why I don't like certain animals and I don't think it makes me cold.

LetsRedecorate · 11/11/2024 22:48

Ahhh there have been so many similar posts lately. I’m a huge animal lover, but I do appreciate not everyone feels the same. It’s what makes us human - we all like or dislike different things . Personally I think there’s a lot more worrying things going on in the world to be concerned about. Let the pet lovers enjoy their furry friends, and let the people who dislike animals do so, and let’s just not shove it down each others throats.

I love my dog, and my cat, but I don’t expect anyone else to love them.

sprigatito · 11/11/2024 22:46

It is a red flag, though. It's not like disliking pickled onions or motown! Having no feeling for the other living creatures we share the world with isn't normal, and it isn't a good sign. Sorry.