Lost weight, now losing friends!

They want to put you in your place, and they dare to talk about the patriarchy! 🤣

They're bullying you over your weight. You need to get rid of them.

@Artistbythewater It really does say more about them than about you OP. You have revealed all their insecurities about themselves and your weight loss might even be experienced as a dig at them even without comment from you. Look, I could do it, why can't you?
I would try to talk to them as a group and tell them that you chose to do something for your health. That you weren't able to do it without medical help and that you're happy about it but it doesn't reduce who you are as a person to just being slim. That you are happy to answer questions for those interested in doing the same but that you are not judging anyone who choose not to. And that you find all the remarks about what you are eating tedious. They all know you are on appetite suppressant medication so obviously you are less hungry than before. Can we please now move on to talk about more passionate subjects?

This is it. They judge you for taking the medication. It's such a weird phenomenon. It's almost like we are morally failing for taking a medication that helps us. Your 'friends' are quite shit really. It's a surprise when you find out things like this.

@Artistbythewater genuine question about your experience with weight loss jabs. Do you have to remain on them or can you wean off slowly and still maintain that weight loss?

Also, their response is a reflection of how they see themselves. Maybe they feel that society treats them badly about something they can't change. You actions have made them realise that it is possible and therefore they feel "betrayed". It is sadly nothing about you, or that you can fix. Sorry you had to find out this way.

Nothing will open yours eyes more than gaining loads or losing loads of weight

People treat you completely differently

Well, it does seem like you still have got some weight to lose: friends who aren't really friends. Keep those who are happy for you, ditch the rest.

Most people don't understand that with weight loss jabs that you still need to put in the work to get healthy and maintain weight loss.

This is probably a thread in its own right, but I wish the term “weight loss jabs” hadn’t caught on. It’s made many people incorrectly believe that these are somehow magic fat-blasting injections; that you can still lose the weight without putting in the effort. It’s not like that! Appetite control jabs would be far more accurate a description.

That's horrible. I've heard others say this before. All I can say is they can't be very good friends. Maybe if they're overweight themselves it could be a bitter reminder that they should try and get healthier themselves. If they're slim then I don't know why they wouldn't just be happy for you.
Unless you are boring them with endless diet and weight loss chat?

Also it doesn't matter how you lost weight. Jabs, surgery, whatever. It's always a long hard road to get there. Jabs and surgery make people think they can still be superior to you. They don't understand the mental strength it takes even with that bit of help. I did it without surgery or jabs but it wasn't more difficult. People have a very strange mindset about others losing weight. It threatens them in some way

WOW! 😳

I realised a few years ago after losing 7 stone some people who you regard as good friends define you by your weight. They aren't the people who are openly hostile about it. They seem nice but they really are as bad as those who are outright nasty. Worse actually. Their attitude changes when you lose weight. I started to understand to most of my friends I was just Squillonaire. To some I was fat Squillonaire. Later fat Squillonaire who lost weight. The fat adjective in front of my name made a difference. That is what they thought of me. Don't keep up a 'friensdship' with anyone who cares about your weight. The only time they should is if they are a very close friend and you are so overweight it is affecting your health and they love you and don't want you to have health problems.

People who he have an issue with how much someone else weighs are generally insecure and unpleasant.

It will do you no good to keep being friends with people like that. I speak from bitter experience. Xxx

I lost a lot of weight after being diagnosed with diabetes type 2 a couple of years ago. I did this by changing my diet (cut out most sugar and carbs) and I am on metformin which also aids weight loss, I think, but it’s not like a weight loss jab. A good friend of mine recently asked me if I was having weight loss jabs. She said it was “suspicious” that I’d kept the weight off for so long when I struggled to lose weight before. I told her the truth then said, “You’re looking very slim too, but you’ve always been lucky to have a good figure.” She angrily snapped back, “There’s no lucky about it. I’ve worked very hard to be slim.” I reassured her that I believed her and I had just expressed myself badly, but I privately thought her annoyance was quite revealing. She definitely doesn’t like the fact that people are losing weight using these jabs because she doesn’t think they deserve to be slim.

@IdaPrentice thank you! 😊💜💜💜

And similar to going out and not drinking alcohol when the group very much are - it makes them feel threatened, as if me not drinking is an implied criticism of them.

That's phenomenal, well done you! Yes you should be able to yell it from the rooftops.

Jealousy is an ugly emotion and can grow into a monster if several feel it. Some of your 'friends' may be building resentment of your 'easy' weight loss between them.
Send generic friendly messages to all of them and give it a bit more time to see which ones keep in contact.

Yes, I had that one too - "Don't lose any more."

I think this is exactly right. I've lost over 90lbs this past year through various dietary changes due to gallstones and some other health issues. I have had comments from various friends and work colleagues telling me they've noticed I've lost weight but can I make sure I don't mention it as it makes them feel bad. I don't mind as such, but equally I haven't brought it up in the first place. It does seem that weight loss brings out the insecurities in people which is a shame. I'm now a size 8/10 after starting as a size 20/22. I've very nearly reached a BMI of 25 for the first time in about 25 years, yet I'm not allowed to mention it in case it makes other people feel bad. It's annoying cos I want to yell it from the rooftops cos I've worked bloody hard at it and without any weight loss jabs.
Not a dig at anyone for using them, do what works for you, but it's also annoying that people around me are presuming that's what I've done too. Well done OP (and everyone else) on your losses!

Real friends are ment to be happy for you.
Make new friends.

im having similar always been very over weight tried very hard lost 3 stone 1 stone to go, all i get is you look ill dont lose any more weight, usually a thin person saying it i think we were ok as the fat friend but they dont like thin person competition.

Have you changed? Talked about it too much?
I can’t imagine why they would distance for no reason.

There’s maybe an element of group think/group justification too?

Like if your group of friends were all smokers then you stopped - everyone knows smoking is unhealthy, but being part of a group of smokers helps justify it or everyone is ignoring the dangers together? So maybe people aren’t being preachy/holier than thou but by not partaking anymore it’s perceived that way?

Ignore the weird friends and try to spend more time with the friends you said are not giving you a hard time. And congrats on the accomplishment