Lost weight, now losing friends!

@CrikeyalmightyI am sorry but you don’t need willpower with WLI as you cannot eat even if you wanted to due to the full feeling. It IS the easy way out and if someone has to work super hard ro lose weight as they cannot use WLI, it is natural for them to feel
envious. However if you have friends that prefer the fat version of you so for whatever reason they can feel
suoerior, that’s another story.

Thing is even if you have lost it using WLI - it still requires a lot of willpower and calorie controlling - it doesn’t simply make felt just melt away - it just makes you feel rather full ( and in my case rather sick a fair bit) so you don’t always fancy eating much and stops that urge to snack for many .
I suspect OP it’s just that they had you in the role of lovely fat friend ( well fatter than them) I suspect once they get over it mentally they will be fine.

I fear you may have their Fat Friend.

One of my work colleagues told me she'd been having injections to lose weight and, aside from me asking few questions, we went back to normal chat.
I manage weight through willpower as don't like feeling over full and get bored eating larger meals, but I know most people enjoy eating larger meals.
If your friends struggle, the green-eyed monster in them is no doubt surfacing and until they're used to seeing you slim it may not calm down.
They'll eventually get bored of fussing about it or you'll see more of your friends who like you whatever size you are?

Bring honest it’s very annoying when you work hard to stay slim and people then just use weight loss jabs as an easy way out. It’s worse when they fib about it and put it down to “discovering Pilates” like my friend has.

But also OP, you aren't the friend that will tuck into plateful of mashed potato, pie and cake now are you? They can't enjoy that kind of 'indulgence, sod the world, we'll eat what we like,' companionship you anymore. Because nobody can and remain healthy, especially as we get older. You have learned the benefits of changing your eating habits, however you've done it. Well done you glad you are seeing the benefits

That's really shitty.. you'd literally achieved what you were all aiming for.

sounds like envy. You must be looking good.

@lilkitten they were never friends.

I had lots of friends at Slimming World, until I hit my target weight (and had the problem of continuing to lose weight past where I wanted to, as my body was used to it). Suddenly I didn't have friends there anymore, it was very helpful when we were all encouraging each other but they didn't want to know once I'd actually lost the weight

Had something similar when I first lost weight, many years ago now. Went to Slimming world and lost not only 3 stone, but a husband as well! He started acting really oddly when I began to lose weight and we split up a few months later.

Say exactly that to them! Tell them your friendship shouldn’t be based on your size! Make them realise what disgusting bullies they’re being!! In fact next time someone is being horrible I’d make a dramatic exit to the toilet and stay in a cubicle for ages… telling anyone who comes after you that you need space as are sick of being bullied for YOUR life choices!

pure jealousy!
its sad…. Just keep making it very clear that you didn’t loose weight for anyone except yourself and be clear and firm that actually you feel 100% healthier and AM proud of your weight loss!
I think I’d actually state when they happy you should be happy no matter your size that ‘I AM PROUD…. And I’m happy with the size I am… I wish you could all just be happy for me rather than berating me for becoming healthier !!’

loosing weight is nothing to do with feminism… it’s everything to do with adding years into your life though, as well as reducing your chance of type 2 diabetes and cancers!!

Well done! Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for doing good…. And good luck keeping it off ….

Id love to know what you did as I have about 6 stone to loose!!!

Exactly.. they're not easy, they're hard in a different way. Side effects and not enjoying food as much.
Just less having to control cravings.
I wish people would stop judging others, it's all so pointless

So true...." Very much as "know your place fatties"

My sister was so jealous she tried to suggest I had an eating disorder when I lost 3 stone.
I was eating 3 meals a day.
It's funny what weight loss does to others peoples views and how they see themselves . . . When others around them change.

Ignore them.
It's their issue not yours.
You've set yourself and behaviours ip to improve your health - anyone who loves you will share and be proud only our success!

Fascinating! My husband and I were both slim when we got together, and although I've put in a few stone since having our kids, I still somehow see myself as a 'slim' person (though I'm definitely not!) so I don't feel our power dynamics have shifted. What you are saying makes a lot of sense though - I'd never really thought about it.

Hi op good on you pity about the friends situation but you know now,
I've been considering them but not sure where to start. Can you lose belly fat from them and how much does it cost if you don't mind sharing please. Thank you.

I was for a while susceptible to being upset if someone I knew suddenly got thin by using injections.
It’s sort of like we’re both doing an exam but I’ve studied hard every day while they’ve been out partying, but we get the same grade. There’s no recognition for the hard work and discipline needed for a healthy weight.

Trust me, it isn’t sudden and there’s still plenty of hard work. These injections are NOT magic fat blasters that let you eat what you want. They help you stay fuller for longer, with a smaller amount of food, but anyone expecting to be able to eat what they please and still lose weight will be sorely disappointed.

It takes hard work and determination with the jabs. So maybe you’re still in the susceptible bracket. There is no award for doing it what you perceive it to be the hard way,there is no reward. No prize. It isn’t a competition.

She acted as if I was now part of her 'slim club' and would now wish to join her in slagging off those that " look like they enjoy a pudding or two”

I’d rather be friends with the people who eat pudding than someone this bitchy.

I am surprised how badly it has affected your friends…but I guess in a way I also get it. I’m not saying it’s right at all, but having spent the last few years trying to get to and maintain a healthy weight, I was for a while susceptible to being upset if someone I knew suddenly got thin by using injections.

It’s sort of like we’re both doing an exam but I’ve studied hard every day while they’ve been out partying, but we get the same grade. There’s no recognition for the hard work and discipline needed for a healthy weight.

However, a) I never voiced these thoughts, b) I realised it was/is important for me personally to get there through getting fitter/stronger/better food habits and c) from the previous point I’ve also realised there are different measures of success other than weight loss, like how far you can run or being able to complete a push up. Weight in itself is just one fraction of the very big picture.

I hope your friends manage to overcome
their insecurities and your relationships recover.

Me too, they obviously feel bad about themselves and know how that feels but then make others feel bad too with comments like that.