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To think you shouldn't have to work in the office on Christmas Eve?

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oliverwe · 11/11/2024 20:40

I work in an office environment. Some people work from home fully remotely, most people are in the office 3-4 days a week. My manager has decided that we must come in 5 days a week. That is minus him and other managers of course, who usually go to their country houses for long weekends.

My folk live in Cornwall and I'd like to go and see them for Christmas. It's about 6 hours on the train or driving.

Manager has told me he expects me in the office on Christmas Eve. I can't take annual leave as other people are. AIBU to think I shouldn't need to be in the office? I can and used to work from home so it's just grinch behaviour.

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Botanybaby · 16/11/2024 22:33

Tricky to answer if we don't know what you do for a job

But it is usually needs of the business

If you wanted to see family book the day off in advance

And I very much doubt all managers own country houses that they swan off to every weekend ... Perhaps a caravan in Wales but you are stretching

sharpclawedkitten · 13/11/2024 07:45

anniegun · 12/11/2024 19:58

Why did you not book it off as annual leave if it was important to you?

It might be because the WFH policy changed in the meantime. I would book leave because I'd struggle to work from my mum's house (though she does have a summer house I could potentially use :) ) but it would be much easier for me to simply take the day off.

But if peoples' relatives have larger houses where they can get the requisite peace and quiet, and a decent internet connection, I can't see the issue. There might even be co-working spaces open on Christmas Eve, too, at least for the morning.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 12/11/2024 22:52

LlynTegid · 11/11/2024 20:47

Manager lost my sympathy when asking you to do something he doesn't do. And also as a second home owner.

Look for a new job in the new year if not already, and when you leave, make it very clear why.

I agree, if he wants you to do this, he needs to lead by example.

Where I work, which is public sector, people don’t piss take wfh (contrary to Daily Mail headlines) but managers don’t ask lower grade staff to do anything they won’t do themselves. No way would higher grade people be doing “long weekends away” (we can’t afford second homes in the country anyway!) and expecting other staff to be in the office every day.

It often seems to be to be pure delight in making people’s lives harder!

I can see why managers might want to make sure people are working on those days if they aren’t on A/L but that doesn’t need to be in the office.

UpTheAnte · 12/11/2024 22:46

Potentiallyplausible · 12/11/2024 22:04

Yes. Most jobs cannot be worked from a random train, hotel or spare room, even if they are WFH jobs. I WFH and can’t work from any of those places. I have to work from a designated place on a designated PC with multiple screens and complete silence all around me.

That sucks for you but why would your very specific set up have any bearing on where I or OP work?

I see it all the time on these WFH threads, people with tunnel visioned and can't grasp that there are different roles with different requirements.

Maybe the OP could work from her parents house just like I could, and is a little peeved that her boss is on a power trip.

Potentiallyplausible · 12/11/2024 22:04

UpTheAnte · 12/11/2024 20:27

And this is a good example of people who don't WFH completely misunderstanding.
Does it really matter to you whether I work on a train, from a spare room at my parents' house or a hotel?

Yes. Most jobs cannot be worked from a random train, hotel or spare room, even if they are WFH jobs. I WFH and can’t work from any of those places. I have to work from a designated place on a designated PC with multiple screens and complete silence all around me.

MellersSmellers · 12/11/2024 21:50

It's not a right to WFH. As you've left it too late to book leave, you'll just have to suck it up.

How are you going to get to Cornwall and do a full day WFH on Christmas Eve?

UpTheAnte · 12/11/2024 20:27

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 11/11/2024 21:04

This exactly. The OP is a good example of why employers are being made to go back into the office. She's swinging the lead. No way can she drive to Cornwall, and do her job as well. Not helping the argument for 'working from home' @oliverwe Wink

And this is a good example of people who don't WFH completely misunderstanding.
Does it really matter to you whether I work on a train, from a spare room at my parents' house or a hotel?

mondaytosunday · 12/11/2024 20:11

People don't seem to read the thread!
OP if the managers are allowing themselves the flexibility then it is unreasonable to insist that you work in the office if your job can be done remotely. If there is a reason, like the office needs to be at least minimally staffed by someone, then it's the luck of the draw and maybe next year you won't have to.
The fact your family lives so far away is annoying, but not their problem.
My son is the only one in his work place whose family lives a ferry and train away. They are still not giving him more than Xmas Day and Boxing Day off (retail). It means he will only be home for 36 hours and a three hour trip each way. He accepts it. Next year he hopes to go abroad (where the rest of my family lives) so he thinks he works this year and gets next one off.

FloofyKat · 12/11/2024 20:01

I don’t see it as a right that people should not have to work in an office on Christmas Eve. In all my previous jobs it has always been expected of you unless you have booked leave or are ill. You could have booked holiday a long time ago if having the day off was so important to you. Other people managed it!

anniegun · 12/11/2024 19:58

Why did you not book it off as annual leave if it was important to you?

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 12/11/2024 19:54

WhatASadLittleLifeJayne · 12/11/2024 14:38

So you’re saying you’d work on the train rather than from home? Seems reasonable tbh. Sounds like your company could allow it, just won’t, and that’s the kicker.

If you’re saying you’d work from home and then travel, then you can work from the office and then travel, surely? Or you’d travel down at the weekend and work from Cornwall? Fair enough.

Thinking of my friends and family, everyone is off Xmas Eve to new year. It’s not unusual. Nor is working over Christmas, but it obviously depends on what job you’ve chosen.

Edited

travel down night before and work from parents

Hateam · 12/11/2024 17:09

buffyspikefaith · 12/11/2024 13:36

@Hateam mouse jugglers don't work in my job

I'm just pointing it out because I'm fed up of people saying that call centre staff are skiving. You can't. Not without getting sacked

I start work by logging on. If I'm not logged on by my start timeI have to explain why
When I log on, calls come through automatically, you can't stop them and you don't choose to answer them
When I finish a call, it gives me another one (depending on how many calls are waiting or not)
My manager can listen live or to the recordings after

If I need the toilet I press a button which makes me unavailable, that time is monitored as a total over the week
I have to go for my lunch as scheduled or it affects my adherence which is also monitored
If I go over my lunch time I have to explain why
If the doorbell goes I ignore it as I can't step away to answer it because a call would come through and I would miss it (which is tracked)

Every day there are statistics sent out
This shows how many calls I answered, how long I was unavailable (toilet/drink time), my adherence, everything compared to everyone else

There is also a screen which my manager monitors which shows if I'm available or on a call or in the toilet or doing emails or coaching someone

I doubt call center workers can skivE

They are not the only job where people WFH.

NameThat · 12/11/2024 16:44

SleepyHollowed84 · 11/11/2024 21:22

I think people deserve to be with their families on Christmas though?

if it’s the difference between being in the office on Christmas Eve and spending Christmas alone, or WFH on Christmas Eve and getting to be with family, I think you’d be a pretty heartless boss to opt for the former.

I don’t really understand this country’s obsession with working to the absolute bone. Most office jobs would be absolutely fine with Christmas Eve-Boxing Day closed. It should be the norm.

I don’t really understand this country’s obsession with working to the absolute bone.

That used to be the case. I would argue that now the opposite is true. Many people want to work the bare minimum, wfh and whinge about having to earn a living, citing every possible reason why they should not have to.

(Am not including me or my NHS inpatient colleagues in that!)

KillerTomato7 · 12/11/2024 16:31

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 11/11/2024 21:09

LOADS of places don't. How naive!

Have you ever considered not being awful, or am I naive to ask?

DieStrassensindimmernass · 12/11/2024 15:53

ilovesooty · 12/11/2024 15:50

You have no way of knowing what the people who have a different viewpoint to you do in terms of their employment.

Indeed.

CloudywMeatballs · 12/11/2024 15:52

It's not a holiday. If you haven't taken the day off then if course you need to be there.

ilovesooty · 12/11/2024 15:50

Mlanket · 12/11/2024 15:16

I bet most of them don’t even work!

You have no way of knowing what the people who have a different viewpoint to you do in terms of their employment.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 12/11/2024 15:30

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 12/11/2024 15:24

Lol! Agreed.

When I was running a business, I found that goodwill made the world go around.

I didn't want the angst of going in on snow days, I didn't want staff shivering and whining about the heat and I didn't want to work Christmas eve any more than they did. I ran the company like I'd like to work there.

Once I started running the company that way, people stopped leaving! Productivity was brilliant. Profits went up.

And it's also sensible management, if you know you're in the sort of field where people are going to end up not doing much on Christmas Eve, not to pay for that. It makes more sense for you to let them take it as leave, instead of otherwise taking a day where they'd get much more done.

A lot of us office monkeys probably have stories of having to work days over the Christmas and interim period where we clearly did so little that our presence was a net loss. I had to work the 28th once, because of a boss who was a tit, and there was absolutely fuck all needed doing. So I didn't.

mitogoshigg · 12/11/2024 15:25

It's a normal working day, I'm working too. The fact you didn't put an annual leave request in early enough isn't your employer's problem

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 12/11/2024 15:24

GermanBite · 12/11/2024 08:46

It never ceases to amaze me how half of the posters on mumsnet turn into Victorian workhouse owners on every employment thread.

I think we're all aware that some people do need to work as normal/ perhaps even harder over Christmas, but presumably op isn't in one of those jobs.

Most office workers do a lot less on Christmas Eve and some are given it as a bonus day off.

Sensible employers understand give and take - if you are happy to be flexible with them, they will be with you. This has always been my experience.

And managers should not be asking you to be in if they aren't prepared to do the same.

Lol! Agreed.

When I was running a business, I found that goodwill made the world go around.

I didn't want the angst of going in on snow days, I didn't want staff shivering and whining about the heat and I didn't want to work Christmas eve any more than they did. I ran the company like I'd like to work there.

Once I started running the company that way, people stopped leaving! Productivity was brilliant. Profits went up.

Mlanket · 12/11/2024 15:16

I bet most of them don’t even work!

Mlanket · 12/11/2024 15:15

It never ceases to amaze me how half of the posters on mumsnet turn into Victorian workhouse owners on every employment thread.

😆

LoveBluey · 12/11/2024 14:44

Who are these people who are so insistent on following the rules to the bloody letter. I know that when I'm older looking back I will remember the christmases spent with my family more than the dutiful logging in and working my exact hours on Xmas Eve.

I work from home and over Christmas there is less work to do so I absolutely make the most of it and enjoy a more leisurely pace.
Equally at our busiest times I make myself available outside of normal working hours and travel to customers in my own time.

It has to go both ways.

WhatASadLittleLifeJayne · 12/11/2024 14:44

buffyspikefaith · 12/11/2024 13:36

@Hateam mouse jugglers don't work in my job

I'm just pointing it out because I'm fed up of people saying that call centre staff are skiving. You can't. Not without getting sacked

I start work by logging on. If I'm not logged on by my start timeI have to explain why
When I log on, calls come through automatically, you can't stop them and you don't choose to answer them
When I finish a call, it gives me another one (depending on how many calls are waiting or not)
My manager can listen live or to the recordings after

If I need the toilet I press a button which makes me unavailable, that time is monitored as a total over the week
I have to go for my lunch as scheduled or it affects my adherence which is also monitored
If I go over my lunch time I have to explain why
If the doorbell goes I ignore it as I can't step away to answer it because a call would come through and I would miss it (which is tracked)

Every day there are statistics sent out
This shows how many calls I answered, how long I was unavailable (toilet/drink time), my adherence, everything compared to everyone else

There is also a screen which my manager monitors which shows if I'm available or on a call or in the toilet or doing emails or coaching someone

Jesus, the micromanaging! Nightmare! How infantilising. Giving me flashbacks to my callcenter days 😭

WhatASadLittleLifeJayne · 12/11/2024 14:38

oliverwe · 11/11/2024 20:40

I work in an office environment. Some people work from home fully remotely, most people are in the office 3-4 days a week. My manager has decided that we must come in 5 days a week. That is minus him and other managers of course, who usually go to their country houses for long weekends.

My folk live in Cornwall and I'd like to go and see them for Christmas. It's about 6 hours on the train or driving.

Manager has told me he expects me in the office on Christmas Eve. I can't take annual leave as other people are. AIBU to think I shouldn't need to be in the office? I can and used to work from home so it's just grinch behaviour.

So you’re saying you’d work on the train rather than from home? Seems reasonable tbh. Sounds like your company could allow it, just won’t, and that’s the kicker.

If you’re saying you’d work from home and then travel, then you can work from the office and then travel, surely? Or you’d travel down at the weekend and work from Cornwall? Fair enough.

Thinking of my friends and family, everyone is off Xmas Eve to new year. It’s not unusual. Nor is working over Christmas, but it obviously depends on what job you’ve chosen.

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