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To break with my boyfriend over MAGA?

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pinkbolacha · 11/11/2024 20:21

Name changed for this.

Been with my BF for aboout 18 months, we don’t have kids together and don’t live together.

He is American and since we met he has been to the US 3 or 4 times

Everytime he goes he asks me if I want anything and I always tell him I want a original MAGA hat

He always refused saying he did not want to give money to Trump’s campaing or enter his cards details on his website or go to a rally.
I tell him to do eBay or Walmart but he refuses - every single time

I have just asked again now that his next trip is close but he sent me the vomit emoji

Now, I’m not MAGA and never been right wing, I do laugh at Trump but I’m well aware of how dangerous he is. I’ve supported Biden and Kamala from day one. I was very sad at the results.

Before the election I wanted the hat for me to wear on Halloween as I had a scary costume in mind

Now after the election I want one so I can send to my 80 years old aunty who lives in Brazil and loves Bolsonaro and Trump.
She has health issues and will not last much longer. She is the only one in the family who has this politics and has been feeling increasingly lonely and isolated. She is not going to change and maybe never vote again.
I don’t care about her politics, she has always been very supportive of me and there for me always and throughout all my hardships.
She has everything she needs. She can buy whatever she wants. That hat, bought in the US and given as a gift would mean a lot to her.
I know. She is delusional.

AIBU to break up with my BF is he doesn’t give it to me? Why can’t he take it as a joke? He knows I’m not MAGA.

I will not break up but I’m very disappointed.

OP posts:
InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 11/11/2024 20:34

Please, yes, break up with him, for his benefit.

Why don't you order one online instead of making him feel bad and coming up with multiple reasons why you just have to have one.

craigth162 · 11/11/2024 20:34

Might be a joke to you but not to lots.of Americans

DifficultProblem2 · 11/11/2024 20:33

This is bonkers.

CharlieDickens · 11/11/2024 20:32

I wouldn't break up with him over this. Respect that he's prepared to make a stand for the right thing.

Ginkypig · 11/11/2024 20:32

Ye I think you should break up with him, for his sake

Kangarude · 11/11/2024 20:32

Buy it yourself on eBay. I wouldn’t bring you one either

vodkaredbullgirl · 11/11/2024 20:30

😏

stargazerlil · 11/11/2024 20:29

He has strong principles, that a good thing. Maybe you should ditch the hat thing & hang onto him.

Shopgirl2 · 11/11/2024 20:26

Politics invokes strong feelings, it's a joke to you, not your bf. He may be wondering about the relationship too.

applestewing · 11/11/2024 20:23

What?