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To break with my boyfriend over MAGA?

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pinkbolacha · 11/11/2024 20:21

Name changed for this.

Been with my BF for aboout 18 months, we don’t have kids together and don’t live together.

He is American and since we met he has been to the US 3 or 4 times

Everytime he goes he asks me if I want anything and I always tell him I want a original MAGA hat

He always refused saying he did not want to give money to Trump’s campaing or enter his cards details on his website or go to a rally.
I tell him to do eBay or Walmart but he refuses - every single time

I have just asked again now that his next trip is close but he sent me the vomit emoji

Now, I’m not MAGA and never been right wing, I do laugh at Trump but I’m well aware of how dangerous he is. I’ve supported Biden and Kamala from day one. I was very sad at the results.

Before the election I wanted the hat for me to wear on Halloween as I had a scary costume in mind

Now after the election I want one so I can send to my 80 years old aunty who lives in Brazil and loves Bolsonaro and Trump.
She has health issues and will not last much longer. She is the only one in the family who has this politics and has been feeling increasingly lonely and isolated. She is not going to change and maybe never vote again.
I don’t care about her politics, she has always been very supportive of me and there for me always and throughout all my hardships.
She has everything she needs. She can buy whatever she wants. That hat, bought in the US and given as a gift would mean a lot to her.
I know. She is delusional.

AIBU to break up with my BF is he doesn’t give it to me? Why can’t he take it as a joke? He knows I’m not MAGA.

I will not break up but I’m very disappointed.

OP posts:
Whyherewego · 11/11/2024 21:30

Maybe just ask him for a KKK hat instead ?

BunnyLake · 11/11/2024 21:29

For his sake leave him. You can probably get one on the internet if you’re that desperate.

Barmy thread.

Enchente · 11/11/2024 21:28

Had this thread been reported as absolute bollocks yet?

EmBear91 · 11/11/2024 21:27

He should break up with you tbh. Would you find it funny if he asked you to buy him some nazi memorabilia?

Eyesopenwideawake · 11/11/2024 21:26

Grow up.

Justcallmebebes · 11/11/2024 21:26

I've just looked on Amazon and there's loads of them. Can't you order one for your aunt?

Edenmum2 · 11/11/2024 21:24

Multiple people have given you the link to buy one yourself.

Have you broken up with him yet?

Mumsgirls · 11/11/2024 21:24

Day after the election, saw an idiot in our Lancs village striding along in a TRUMP 2024 tee shirt. It was freezing so he was obviously showing off his stupidity. Sadly as I drove past there was no convenient puddle

Enchente · 11/11/2024 21:24

pinkbolacha · 11/11/2024 21:20

I know but she obviously can't see this

She is multi mixed and brown and latina - she thinks everything negative about Trump is fake news - she is too far gone like so many other people

So tell us again why you can’t get one yourself online?

volvovolauvont · 11/11/2024 21:24

I know it sounds bonkers.

Yes, it does....and unbelievable.

StampOnTheGround · 11/11/2024 21:23

He should leave you.

Ponderingwindow · 11/11/2024 21:21

im in the U.S.. we don’t even wear red hats anymore because someone might mistake us from a distance for a MAGA supporter.

it’s not a difference of political opinion. We are scared that we are witnessing the beginning of a totalitarian regime.

how would you feel if he asked you to pick him up some Taliban merch?

Genevieva · 11/11/2024 21:20

Buy one yourself online and get it posted to her address?

pinkbolacha · 11/11/2024 21:20

Furrzu · 11/11/2024 21:17

Even if this was real, it sounds nuts. Trump could be the end of Ukraine/Palestine. He is a sex offender. Just why? I'm black and if someone asked me to buy something abroad for their aunty that would benefit a racist I'd tell them to fuck off. I suspect this imaginary DP would feel the same.

I know but she obviously can't see this

She is multi mixed and brown and latina - she thinks everything negative about Trump is fake news - she is too far gone like so many other people

OP posts:
Furrzu · 11/11/2024 21:17

Even if this was real, it sounds nuts. Trump could be the end of Ukraine/Palestine. He is a sex offender. Just why? I'm black and if someone asked me to buy something abroad for their aunty that would benefit a racist I'd tell them to fuck off. I suspect this imaginary DP would feel the same.

SacreBleugh · 11/11/2024 21:17

Yeah he should definitely LYB

Edenmum2 · 11/11/2024 21:16

Surely if you feel this strongly just order from the trump store and get it sent to her. Not that she'll ever know the difference.

If your partner is American, I'm assuming the result actually matters to him in more than a Halloween/racist grandma kinda way, so I totally understand why he would refuse to buy one for you.

He sounds great. You sound abysmal.

Enchente · 11/11/2024 21:15

Politics aside - how are you unable to source this via eBay yourself?

Ilovelifeverymuch · 11/11/2024 21:13

pinkbolacha · 11/11/2024 20:48

I want the original thing - not a fake off amazon

When I wanted for halloween it didn’t really matter that much - it started as banter when he asked me what I wanted from the US for the very first time way before the election campaigns

But now I would love to make my aunty happy and make her feel like somebody accepts her and gets her - even if I don’t agree with her politics.

Her father had two families, she is the oldest of her sibilings and half sibilings, grew up in poverty, work her ass off since very young, put herself through Uni and built her career - always helped her whole family financially, emotionally.
Never married, never had kids. Her family is her everything.
Now she is isolated.

I think Bolsonaro and Trump are some kind of super hero fantasy of hers. A frustrated or repressed symbol of a man who would help her through life. Many women project that way.

Since she built her career and made her money, she likes to buy original things, good things, expensive things, maybe to compensate from her early struggles. I can give her a fake. I know a MAGA hat is crap from China, but there is something about it being bought in the US and brought back by an American. I know it sounds bonkers.

Hahaha ok this has got to be a troll 😂 😆 Thanks for the laugh.

Furrzu · 11/11/2024 21:12

I'm calling it

Edenmum2 · 11/11/2024 21:12

Are you quite well?

twomanyfrogsinabox · 11/11/2024 21:11

If you are not a Trump supporter what are you going to do with the hat? Wear it to annoy your BF?

Alalalala · 11/11/2024 21:10

You’re super controlling OP.

Ilovelifeverymuch · 11/11/2024 21:10

You're joking right? 😂

Why not order the hat online if you're so desperate to get one.

Newsenmum · 11/11/2024 21:09

PandoraSox · 11/11/2024 21:06

Just buy one from here:

www.trumpstore.com/#menu

There we go. Op can stop playing games now.