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To break with my boyfriend over MAGA?

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pinkbolacha · 11/11/2024 20:21

Name changed for this.

Been with my BF for aboout 18 months, we don’t have kids together and don’t live together.

He is American and since we met he has been to the US 3 or 4 times

Everytime he goes he asks me if I want anything and I always tell him I want a original MAGA hat

He always refused saying he did not want to give money to Trump’s campaing or enter his cards details on his website or go to a rally.
I tell him to do eBay or Walmart but he refuses - every single time

I have just asked again now that his next trip is close but he sent me the vomit emoji

Now, I’m not MAGA and never been right wing, I do laugh at Trump but I’m well aware of how dangerous he is. I’ve supported Biden and Kamala from day one. I was very sad at the results.

Before the election I wanted the hat for me to wear on Halloween as I had a scary costume in mind

Now after the election I want one so I can send to my 80 years old aunty who lives in Brazil and loves Bolsonaro and Trump.
She has health issues and will not last much longer. She is the only one in the family who has this politics and has been feeling increasingly lonely and isolated. She is not going to change and maybe never vote again.
I don’t care about her politics, she has always been very supportive of me and there for me always and throughout all my hardships.
She has everything she needs. She can buy whatever she wants. That hat, bought in the US and given as a gift would mean a lot to her.
I know. She is delusional.

AIBU to break up with my BF is he doesn’t give it to me? Why can’t he take it as a joke? He knows I’m not MAGA.

I will not break up but I’m very disappointed.

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GoldCat255 · 12/11/2024 21:29

Even the most stupidest fucktard knows that you can get that hat in the UK. If it is not in ebay, then you can use one of those companies that offer customised marketing products.
This situation you are generating is a twisted slow-witted shittest with no goals other than to get your boyfriend to comply by employing the most abject emotional blackmail only for some kind of sickening satisfaction.

Enchente · 12/11/2024 20:57

We should set up a gofundme page so OP can buy herself one off t’interweb.

FutureFeelsBleak · 12/11/2024 20:19

Is it wrong that I am glad the non-existent Auntie is lonely?

IdylicDay · 12/11/2024 11:50

YABVVVVVVVU Why are you pandering to your aunty's MAGA views? I'd go NC with the aunty. Be thankful you've got a boyfriend with principles. I don't know how he hasn't broken up with you over your MAGA obsession. Apologise to him and never ever ever bring it up again, and go NC with you aunt.

MarvellousMable · 11/11/2024 22:51

We are all being goaded, then goading each other. Quite fascinating tbh.

MarvellousMable · 11/11/2024 22:50

VivX · 11/11/2024 22:36

This is hilariously bonkers from start to finish.

How do you even identify an "original MAGA hat"? Is there some sort of MAGA hat authenticity check? Would you interrupt, say, a riot to make sure your fellow rioters were genuine?

I think a 2016 made cap

VivX · 11/11/2024 22:36

This is hilariously bonkers from start to finish.

How do you even identify an "original MAGA hat"? Is there some sort of MAGA hat authenticity check? Would you interrupt, say, a riot to make sure your fellow rioters were genuine?

JaneJeffer · 11/11/2024 22:35

Fake news

Enchente · 11/11/2024 22:14

Edenmum2 · 11/11/2024 21:40

The behaviour of breaking up with your boyfriend because he refused to buy you a MAGA hat but it's not for you because you're a massive Kamala fan it's for your 80 year old Brazilian aunty who has a dictator fetish and needs to be wearing an ORIGINAL Trump hat while she fantasises about a threesome with Bolsonaro?

Oh yeah that Mumsnet classic

And I can’t buy it myself from any of the largest online retailers because…

outdooryone · 11/11/2024 22:12

I'm assuming the OP's post is fake for some reactions ?

MarvellousMable · 11/11/2024 21:59

Edenmum2 · 11/11/2024 21:40

The behaviour of breaking up with your boyfriend because he refused to buy you a MAGA hat but it's not for you because you're a massive Kamala fan it's for your 80 year old Brazilian aunty who has a dictator fetish and needs to be wearing an ORIGINAL Trump hat while she fantasises about a threesome with Bolsonaro?

Oh yeah that Mumsnet classic

I did tell her off for having such thoughts so why are you having a pop at me?

Blinky21 · 11/11/2024 21:59

He should dump you

RosaMoline · 11/11/2024 21:56

Bullshit.

cestlavielife · 11/11/2024 21:55

Just buy one on amazon send to your relative.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 11/11/2024 21:53

Not even as a joke, OP.

We watched the news in horror as children were separated from their parents at the US border under Trump. See attached link noting over 1400 children are still not confirmed reunited. Further, as many were too young to identify themselves/parents didn't speak english, it wasn't possible to reunite them and many have been adopted and will never know their families again.

https://www.npr.org/2024/11/11/nx-s1-5186522/tom-homan-border-czar-trump

What to know about Tom Homan, the former ICE head returning as Trump's 'border czar'

Homan was the acting director of Immigration and Customs Enforcement from January 2017 to June 2018, where he was a key architect of the Trump administration's controversial family separation policy.

https://www.npr.org/2024/11/11/nx-s1-5186522/tom-homan-border-czar-trump

Hyperbowl · 11/11/2024 21:53

You sound absolutely draining. If you want a hat for whatever reason then buy one online and don’t drag him into your nonsense. Get over yourself.

Nanny0gg · 11/11/2024 21:52

How old are you fgs?

JWhipple · 11/11/2024 21:46

Tell you what, can you go and buy a Reform hat for him? Just for lols. Then travel with it in your luggage to take to him to America. So funny. Or a "I voted leave" hat. Go on! It'll be so funny. Go to a shop that sells right wing tat and buy it as a joke. I bet everyone who sees you do it will know it's all about the lols and not that you're a disgusting racist who secretly thinks women should be stripped of all their rights! Top bants. Lols.

Edenmum2 · 11/11/2024 21:40

MarvellousMable · 11/11/2024 21:32

This is mumsnet so such behaviour and thoughts are not permitted. Shame on you.

The behaviour of breaking up with your boyfriend because he refused to buy you a MAGA hat but it's not for you because you're a massive Kamala fan it's for your 80 year old Brazilian aunty who has a dictator fetish and needs to be wearing an ORIGINAL Trump hat while she fantasises about a threesome with Bolsonaro?

Oh yeah that Mumsnet classic

thepariscrimefiles · 11/11/2024 21:37

pinkbolacha · 11/11/2024 21:20

I know but she obviously can't see this

She is multi mixed and brown and latina - she thinks everything negative about Trump is fake news - she is too far gone like so many other people

Bolsonaro is responsible for the huge deforestation of the Amazon rain forests as well as being an all-round right wing cunt. Trump is a danger to women, immigrants, minorities and democracy.

Why on earth would you pander to her, even threatening to break up with your boyfriend if he sticks to his principles and won't buy a MAGA hat?

Heronwatcher · 11/11/2024 21:36

You sound completely politically naive and amoral.

Trump is a nasty woman hating narc and anyone who buys merch which represents him makes his vile ideas more mainstream.

I wouldn’t fancy anyone trying to emotionally blackmail me into buying a reform T shirt either TBH.

BigFatLiar · 11/11/2024 21:32

Get one of amazon

MarvellousMable · 11/11/2024 21:32

This is mumsnet so such behaviour and thoughts are not permitted. Shame on you.

User135644 · 11/11/2024 21:31

You're either insane or on a wind up.

Jom222 · 11/11/2024 21:31

pinkbolacha · 11/11/2024 21:20

I know but she obviously can't see this

She is multi mixed and brown and latina - she thinks everything negative about Trump is fake news - she is too far gone like so many other people

you don't have to support people in their insane thinking you know. One usually just stays noncommittal to elderly relatives who have lost their minds and souls to fascists. One doesn't buy them merch to support it LOL