To wonder if obesity is unattractive to most men?

I don't think men will find obese women physically attractive. That said people tend to couple with people similarly attractive so will look for other qualities in a partner.

The clue is in the title. Obese. We’re not talking about a few pounds. Obese is more than being overweight and as much as people argue you can be healthy and obese, the statistics say that obesity causes so many health problems.

I would agree that obesity is unattractive to most men.

When women say they get attention from men, how does that attention look? And what do they mean.??? Is it being approached? Leered at? As a 40 something year old woman who is petite/thin I've honestly never been approached or looked at by men. I genuinely find it weird that all these women have xoerienced this and I've literally never ever had this. I would say am mostly confident,take pride in my appearance. Been told (very) occasionally by friends and DH that I look 'nice' when I get dressed up.

It depends whether you're talking "lusty glances from strangers" or "long term loving relationship". If men are looking at a woman purely as a visual object, I don't think fat looks good to them, no. But then I'd say that's true for women too. No one of either gender wants a pin up poster of an obese person or for their Hollywood idols to be obese, but in reality most people are happy to get in relationships with someone whose body is well below the standards they'd have for a purely visual sex object.

I'm obese and no one eyes me up in the street. I don't get the "pretty privilege" that slimmer people do. But I have had many partners despite being overweight my adult life. I now have a husband who loves me and as far as I can tell finds me attractive. I don't know if he just loves my other qualities enough to overlook the weight or if he genuinely doesn't mind it or does like it. But ultimately he loves me and he gives every impression of finding me attractive, which is what matters.

It's more about shape than weight. An overweight hour glass shape is considered very attractive to many. No matter how much I weigh though I would never have this and when i was younger, really let it get to me. So no being slim isn't always what's considered attractive. Having the right proportions though is.

There are as many obese men as there are obese women surely, and I imagine that gym-toned men may prefer gym-toned women, and that obese men prefer obese women? People look for people like theses in that respect? So not an issue? But maybe that logic does not work? Because people are not always logical 😁

Not at all. After 2 kids I’m heading towards 40 and bigger than I’ve ever been and still get attention.

I attract more men when I'm larger, but I'm an hour glass figure which may help.

But most women in the uk are average size 16 . There are a lot of overweight men about too . I guess preferring slim women and actually getting one are two different things .

I've seen loads of overweight women with men , I've no idea if they were like that when they first met . My NDN is overweight but she's never been short of a boyfriend. A lot of men are overweight too .

On some of these dating shows such as MAFS and Love Triangle the disappointment and entitlement when paired with women amazes me especially because these men are average looking and overweight too .

Yes.
That said, I no longer care about men, but definitely.

I didnt take it seriously, it was obvious it was a shit joke. But it was just a pointless stupid comment, when the OP has asked a relevant question.

59% of women in the UK are overweight and 69% of men are overweight so a lot of people aren't getting their preferences met presumably.

This.

Btw, @Thatsmefatty, I mistakenly married a man who kept telling me I was fat, too. I'm 5'7", had a 24-inch waist and was anorexic. These weaselly bullies don't actually care what the facts are. They just pick on something they know they can hurt you with.

I'm serious about complimenting yourself. Keep doing it, always find something lovely about you and tell yourself, like you would for an insecure friend. Works wonders!

Never talk to, or about yourself, worse than you'd treat your friends.

That's horrible, @Thatsmefatty (terrible username!) You deserve compliments, whatever size you are. Start with yourself.

Final album for now: Big women should cover up and look sorry for existing; they definitely can't wear bodycon (all dresses Pretty Little Thing)

I've been fat all my life and mostly unpopular and unattractive to most people nevermind men. Teased by my siblings and parents all my life.

In error I married a man who said clearly to me that I was too fat but for some reason he didn't have the balls to walk away. Just kept me in the marriage and letched over skinny young women wherever we went. I've gone up three sizes since getting married and divorced. Honestly I couldn't give a shit how I look to men.

You're so right. I mean, who'd give these women a second look?

You’ve answered your own question.

losing weight if your too big is a good idea all round.

Hopelessly unattractive (all dresses Selkie)

I think the poster was joking. I strongly suspect it was an exaggeration to make a point, but you and a couple of other posters took their comment seriously.

Anyway, OP. My friend is obese, beautiful and married to a male model who worships her.

Some pictures to cheer you up. I could do this all night!

Are you going off BMI though? Because I'm obese, exercise, lift weights, do regular 30-60 min spin classes
Just because I'm fat doesn't mean I'm totally unfit or sitting around stuffing myself with food

It's about confidence. I can't imagine a man not showing at least some interest in an intelligent, funny, woman who was a good conversationalist.

Have you considered "size up"? like them....would you?