Did I completely F up with the guy I’m seeing?

And Urban Dictionary has the opposite interpretation: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=All%20the%20best

And why would you get your mates to do it? It’s really odd at best.

He said he didn't mean all the best like that, so did he explain what he actually DID mean? And what all his friends meant?

Still don't think you were in the wrong. I'd find it weird he had all his friends involved when you don't know them. They all seemingly knew what he meant even though you didn't.

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/all-the-best

I'd have just taken it to mean he was sending good wishes. Which is indeed one of its meanings.

But why would anyone send a random 'all the best' message to someone they are dating when they are out drinking with friends? All the best with what exactly? Doesn't make sense

I would read "all the best" to be sending good wishes to someone, the equivalent of "have a good time," not as saying goodbye. When I read your OP I assumed he had wished you a good night out, you had wished him a good night out, then he had got his mates in on it to trump your good wishes. I would have taken it as slightly drunkenly funny, and meant well. I was confused by your interpretation and empathised with his confusion. But reading all these posts it seems I'm by far in the minority on that. So who knows. But whether one of you had your wires crossed, or whether he was being a prick as most people seem to think, it's probably not salvageable.

Have a bit of empathy. Dating apps are a cesspit. Men spending weeks leading women on, only to unceremoniously dismiss them or ghost them is so commonplace. Dating today can be really soul destroying. OP liked this guy, she got her hopes up and so when thought he was binning her off and then sending her a video with his friends mocking her she was disappointed. I think "going apeshit" is a bit much, she sent a shirty message that's all.

It means both things, OP however automatically chose the ‘break up option’ without stopping to question herself.

Well a lot of people on here also think it can mean goodbye, me included. It's not because I'm sensitive or overreacting, it's because that's what it means to a lot of people.

I find it unrealistic when people say they wouldn’t have replied!

If you’re young and dating and receive a message at the weekend from your love interest… why on earth would you ignore it? Assuming you are both employed, the weekend would be prime communication/hang out time? When I was young(er) and single the weekends were when all the exciting and transformative experiences happened- including unexpected messages and flirtations and meet ups. So, no, it’s natural you replied even though you’d had some wine. And I agree that it’s reasonable to feel you were out of the loop of some sort of joke. Maybe you did (or did not) get the wrong end of the stick - but he was certainly being odd, rude even. He should be the one to pursue reconciliation and if he doesn’t then please don’t think you’ve lost a good one. A decent grown up (respectful) person would apologise rather than expect you have played along (how stupid). If you’re looking to be with an eternal teenager or joker then maybe he’s the one.

I agree, Unfortunately there’s some very fragile egos out there.

I think it’s the OP who is the bad at communication by going apeshit without knowing what was going on.

It’s bizarre to me that so many think saying all the best is someone breaking up with someone they’ve met for a date twice 🤣

They were both drinking. I’d assume he meant all the best as in enjoy your night.

I may be so wrong here but I wonder if he and his friends were doing silly challenges through the night like “everyone text the last person you texted and see who gets a response first, last one to get a response takes a shot” or something like that. But it’s badly backfired on him and caused loads of confusion! I do imagine if this was the case he would’ve just explained it, but that was my first thought when I read what he’d done!

It’s been two dates. There was no need for you to be so defensive but the whole thing gives me the ick.

Is his native language English? Does he know that 'all the best' is what you say to terminate a conversation, and in isolation, a relationship in general. I'm hoping he was just drunk and silly.
Hopefully he'll get the message not to say stuff like that again. If you want to you should give him another chance of a date maybe...

Mmm he is 32 and still sending drunk messages with his friends

I think he was being a twat and now has had second thoughts

until the next time….

Yeah, I’m weeping for a man who is so poor at communication he repeatedly sent messages that made someone think he was breaking up with them.

Dear God. Don't do this. The olive brand is not yours to extend.

I would remain silent and if he messages, and it had better be stellar grovelling and some arse kissing gesture of repentance, then you can see fit to respond and forget about it

However, he's shown himself to be a dick and I'd also interpret this as the gang taking the piss out of you. 32 years old and he does this? It ain't the father of your kids and soulmate, is it?

All the best to me is goodbye but your reaction was really over the top.

I would have asked what he meant before going apeshit.

I’ve no idea how I would have interpreted the message from the friends, but I would think it was weird and annoying.

Bunch of dickheads. Probably did it as a drunken dare or a prank. This behaviour is beneath most intelligent people. He'd be dumped anyway.

It was a strange message but you went in a bit heavy with the outrage.

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I agree with this. I think he'd had a few beers and was just being a bit silly, larking around. I wouldn't have assumed he was ending it!