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What is it about men ? ( in swimming pools)

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Ramblingnamechanger · 11/11/2024 16:34

Another argument in the pool today. Several lanes available to share…one with 2 guys , ours with 2 women and one mixed. The man who arrived later chose ours. Nearly headed into me at 50 mph. I challenged him and suggested he moved into the lane next door with faster male swimmers. He said that he did not want to swim in the lane with the side of the pool. I said my preference was to swim in peace with other women and why was it that my preference was seen as not as important as his . He insisted that he would stay . I told him it was a macho view and we women should have our views and wishes given the same weight. So fed up that again an entitled male pushed it even when challenged.

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Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 23:04

Superworm24 · 11/11/2024 23:03

You are not a victim lol. You are a nasty bully.

Says the disgusting, nasty bully herself.

Do you say anything else other than "lied and backpeddled"

You must have one other word in your vocabulary!

Superworm24 · 11/11/2024 23:03

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:58

Oh here you are popping up again. Why are you getting involved in someone else's argument. It's nothing to do with you.

I never understand people getting involved in someone elses argument.

I could point out that you are far from an angel yourself . There you are criticising others, when you have been rude nasty and a victim blamer yourself.

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You are not a victim lol. You are a nasty bully.

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 23:00

chickennoodless · 11/11/2024 22:59

You can add pools to the list below….

carparks
cycle lanes
Supermarket aisles

Yes I agree.

chickennoodless · 11/11/2024 22:59

You can add pools to the list below….

carparks
cycle lanes
Supermarket aisles

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:59

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:52

Okay for those at the back. If it doesn't work as a business model where you have a million people it won't work elsewhere. That's how Ireland is.

And I know this may come as a surprise but I am up and down the country a lot. Ireland is small. I live in Dublin now I've lived and travelled all over. So I am very confident in my opinion. But by all means make inaccurate statements about another country.

Jesus. You don't own Ireland. A lot of peolle live there.
I lived in Ireland for a long time. And I've worked for several large Irish companies. I know the place very well.

A lot of my friends there went to female only gyms

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:58

Superworm24 · 11/11/2024 22:53

@Sylviacrystal it's never you who is wrong is it lol. You called me rude for pointing out your disgusting misandry earlier, then you lied and tried back peddling. Then you told another poster to grow up for pointing out you were wrong. Then you've been called out for lying again. Do you not get tired?

Oh here you are popping up again. Why are you getting involved in someone else's argument. It's nothing to do with you.

I never understand people getting involved in someone elses argument.

I could point out that you are far from an angel yourself . There you are criticising others, when you have been rude nasty and a victim blamer yourself.

Superworm24 · 11/11/2024 22:53

@Sylviacrystal it's never you who is wrong is it lol. You called me rude for pointing out your disgusting misandry earlier, then you lied and tried back peddling. Then you told another poster to grow up for pointing out you were wrong. Then you've been called out for lying again. Do you not get tired?

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:52

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:48

There's more places in Ireland than Dublin...Marblesbackagain

Okay for those at the back. If it doesn't work as a business model where you have a million people it won't work elsewhere. That's how Ireland is.

And I know this may come as a surprise but I am up and down the country a lot. Ireland is small. I live in Dublin now I've lived and travelled all over. So I am very confident in my opinion. But by all means make inaccurate statements about another country.

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:48

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:46

You said there were loads of women only gyms I am in the capital newsflash there aren't. There simply is a teeny tiny few.

You made an inaccurate post and were called on it. So now you are sensitive to language... 🤦‍♀️

There's more places in Ireland than Dublin...Marblesbackagain

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:46

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:43

Every one of your posts has been aggressive not assertive.

First of all you said "it's bloody marketing".

Then you said "I lied " when I didn't lie.
There are loads of female only gyms in Ireland.

I'll stand up for myself.

I think we've said all we need to say haven't we. Unless you want to add anything new

You said there were loads of women only gyms I am in the capital newsflash there aren't. There simply is a teeny tiny few.

You made an inaccurate post and were called on it. So now you are sensitive to language... 🤦‍♀️

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:43

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:40

😂😂😂😂 to literally told a woman to calm down 🤦‍♀️the irony. Eh nope.

There is feck all women only gyms in Ireland Google isn't exactly accurate.

I think you are mistaking assertiveness for aggression.snd it's posting not talking .
Honestly the fecking irony, hilarious

Every one of your posts has been aggressive not assertive.

First of all you said "it's bloody marketing".

Then you said "I lied " when I didn't lie.
There are loads of female only gyms in Ireland.

I'll stand up for myself.

I think we've said all we need to say haven't we. Unless you want to add anything new

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:40

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:34

What are you on about I lied. And why are you so aggressive? Try to talk calmly

There are loads of female only gyms in Ireland. Do a quick online search

😂😂😂😂 to literally told a woman to calm down 🤦‍♀️the irony. Eh nope.

There is feck all women only gyms in Ireland Google isn't exactly accurate.

I think you are mistaking assertiveness for aggression.snd it's posting not talking .
Honestly the fecking irony, hilarious

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:37

ClippyMuldoon · 11/11/2024 22:23

I am in a women only gym. Not out of fear or a need to be protected, but because I prefer the atmosphere. Not as many performance grunts and stares, and so far not a single unrequested suggestion of how to improve my form. It's very small and I love it. I'd go back to a regular gym if I had to but would look for one with women only sessions now. There are more of them here than a few years back, partly cultural, partly safety and partly women like me.

You said you don't go out of a want to be protected.

But then you said you go - to avoid male stares and to avoid unwanted men talking to you

That IS going to protect yourself from men.

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:34

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:21

You literally lied, oh there's loads of women only gyms I was I Ireland 😂.

They were always set up as a marketing ploy. The fact the majority of them went to the wall tells you there's poor demand.

So maybe people should be less shouting for women only business spaces and transport, that's nuts to be honest and actually cop on and figure out how to bloody get on together with cooperation.

Honestly a lot of people could do with some Sesame Street training.

What are you on about I lied. And why are you so aggressive? Try to talk calmly

There are loads of female only gyms in Ireland. Do a quick online search

ClippyMuldoon · 11/11/2024 22:23

I am in a women only gym. Not out of fear or a need to be protected, but because I prefer the atmosphere. Not as many performance grunts and stares, and so far not a single unrequested suggestion of how to improve my form. It's very small and I love it. I'd go back to a regular gym if I had to but would look for one with women only sessions now. There are more of them here than a few years back, partly cultural, partly safety and partly women like me.

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:21

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:17

Well maybe just speak for yourself. You don't want female only spaces, fine.

Other women do. And that's also fine

You literally lied, oh there's loads of women only gyms I was I Ireland 😂.

They were always set up as a marketing ploy. The fact the majority of them went to the wall tells you there's poor demand.

So maybe people should be less shouting for women only business spaces and transport, that's nuts to be honest and actually cop on and figure out how to bloody get on together with cooperation.

Honestly a lot of people could do with some Sesame Street training.

SiobhanSharpe · 11/11/2024 22:20

We obviously don't know both sides of the story here but I do see some men going rather too fast in the medium speed lane, and even in the slow lane (where the culprits are mostly older chaps.) Not necessarily excessively speedy but noticeably faster than other swimmers in those lanes.
Not nice for the other users, men and women.
I also notice how badly some men swim, thrashing their heads from side to side, kicking erratically and letting their arms splat heavily onto the water. It's like they learned to swim via a correspondence course or 'just picked it up as they went along'.
Women tend to be neater swimmers in general IME and less prone to just power through everyone else like the Splatty McSplash-faces do, with their 'make way - man coming' attitude.

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:17

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:14

Eh no they are set up as a bloody marketing ploy and there are very few I live in Dublin the capital.

There was a chain that went out of business years ago.

I find being told I am in danger in a gym due to being a woman as insulting. The majority of women are absolutely fine thanks.

Well maybe just speak for yourself. You don't want female only spaces, fine.

Other women do. And that's also fine

rwalker · 11/11/2024 22:17

The worst at our pool is older women who breast and backstroke and don’t give a fuck about anyone else

tbh swimming is no different to driving you just pass when you’ve got the chance
I can’t see the issue with slow and fast swimmers in the same lane as long as fast ones pass respectively and the slowed ones left you pass at the end off the lane

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:14

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:04

There are a lot of female only gyms in Ireland too. I've lived in Ireland.

Female only gyms were set up for women's safety.

Eh no they are set up as a bloody marketing ploy and there are very few I live in Dublin the capital.

There was a chain that went out of business years ago.

I find being told I am in danger in a gym due to being a woman as insulting. The majority of women are absolutely fine thanks.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 11/11/2024 22:07

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:00

Look at the statistics

Men sexually abuse women, much much more than

women sexually abuse women.

It's a huge percentage more.

But it happens

And the point is claiming women are some how amazing and safe to other women is incorrect

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:04

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:02

Fine that's a business model, clever.

But offering segregation to me public screams to me women being minded by the state. Nope. That seldom goes well.

I will stick with the norm in Ireland thanks.

There are a lot of female only gyms in Ireland too. I've lived in Ireland.

Female only gyms were set up for women's safety.

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 22:02

Fine that's a business model, clever.

But offering segregation to me public screams to me women being minded by the state. Nope. That seldom goes well.

I will stick with the norm in Ireland thanks.

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 22:00

MartinCrieffsLemon · 11/11/2024 21:57

I'm sorry but women can and do overpower other women

They can also touch other women inappropriately

They can also be catty and cruel and really mess up someone's mental health to the point they want to take their own life

Look at the statistics

Men sexually abuse women, much much more than

women sexually abuse women.

It's a huge percentage more.

Sylviacrystal · 11/11/2024 21:58

Marblesbackagain · 11/11/2024 21:45

Well then go there, honestly I would have more concern about country who segregates women. I have never seen them treat women well.

I dont know if you missed this part. But i had a choice to be segregated or not in the country I was visiting. It wasnt forced. It just gave me more choice. And it was amazing

The UK also segregates women (by choice),

if you hadn't realised.

The UK has lots of female only gyms