Am i the one who should appologise .....

I do think you are overreacting to her not posting on your FB post. That’s completely trivial.

But you have probably been under-reacting to all her stupid behaviour over time, because she sounds like a right nightmare in general.

She sounds incredibly petty and unreasonable! However it sounds like you’re following in her footsteps in being annoyed at her not congratulating you publicly on fb. That’s ridiculous! If she’s already said congratulations in person why on earth does she need to say it again for all to see? You’re both as bad as each other on this one.

Fair enough, if you choose not to discern between OP’s doing something you personally wouldn’t, and her mother’s deliberate malice.

I don’t think her not commenting is that big of a deal (unless she without fail comments upon other family members’ news she already knows?), but the other examples you gave make her sound unbelievably hard work, I absolutely see how that would grind you down!!!

Your mum sounds difficult.

HOWEVER I think you have an unhealthy relationship with social media. I genuinely wouldn’t notice if my mum or indeed anyone else didn’t interact with something I posted.

The point of the FB post was to announce your pregnancy. Your mum already knew for a LONG time previous.

Why do you need her to publicly engage with a FB post about it? Anyone with any common sense would know she already knew. I think this is indicative of an unhealthy relationship dynamic between you both. That is the issue - not the FB post!

The fb thing I'd say isn't a big deal. But it sounds like the constant complaining and finding drama is annoying. If you shouted at her you owe her an apology. I don't think though she's in the wrong for this she's generally difficult though and so it's difficult to address that.

Ops refusal to acknowledge how nuts it is on both sides makes her as bad as her mother.
We can agree to disagree.

OP, most people are pointing out the pettiness of this dispute, and while they're right on the surface of it, I wonder if you feel it more deeply because you're extra sensitive to how your mum expresses her love for you. And because she didn't acknowledge your post, it might feel like a rejection to you?

If so, going forward, is there a way to protect yourself from your mum's small rejections? Or lower your expectations of her/take what small victories you can get? I feel like you're not going to change her, but you can change your attitude toward her. Not a psychologist or anything but I know how small things can hit you hard especially during pregnancy.

As soon as i read that this was a Facebook not liking my post topic I lost interest, This is absolutely pathetic !

EXACTLY what I came on to say. I’m astonished either of you are old enough to procreate on the basis of this total nonsense…

@Atticus334 how old is your mum?? 5????

So sad for you … counting up your FB likes

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I disagree. OP isn’t going out of her way to be spiteful, inconsistent and difficult. Regardless of how you personally use Facebook, it’s clear that there are normal expectations and rules of operation in OP’s family and her mother is deliberately not following them because she has the huff. I am not a fan of social media myself and don’t use it but OP being sad at her mother’s deliberate snub doesn’t make her just as bad as the mother doing the deliberate snubbing.

This isn't really about responding on Facebook.

You have a bigger problem. Your mum wants to call the shots and tell you how to behave and do as she says. Then if you refuse, she 'punishes' you. It's all about control. Hers alone.

This is a classic narcissist mother.

Have you seen the 'we took you to stately homes thread' on the relationships board? You may find this a useful read.

From reading PP, OP hasn’t got a problem that her mum didn’t comment but because her mum is pissed off that she wasn’t tagged in the post. So because she wasn’t tagged she is having a strop and not commenting. Which is obviously petty. So I don’t think OP is as bad as everyone seems to think!

Op is no better.

Unless you really want this on repeat forever just ignore. Doesn't sound as if you'll miss her much

Yeah she is petty. Don’t turn out like her.

No she isn't.

You both need to stop living on Facebook. You both sound childish.

Ignore your other posts weren't loading.

As you were

This. Petty is as petty does.

What floors me is that the OP has posted here thinking that clearly she is right and her mum is in the wrong.

Also, why are you so dependant on having others see your mums congratulations post? Your mum doesn’t need to communicate with you through Facebook.

For the sake of your child I would learn to let small things go, put things in proportion, not be so dependant on social media for happiness, not look for petty things to be angry with your mum about and focus on your pregnancy.

Surely you didn't let your mum find out via a Facebook post about her grandchild?

Surely surely not?

Grow up! She already knew! 🤦‍♀️

Are you 12?

Why do you need her to comment or like something on social media? It's just for the benefit of others isn't it.

Would you stand in the street. Declare your pregnancy. Then get offended your mum didn't gush over it in public? It's ridiculous.