This is going to be long so i apologise in advance!
An old friend got in contact with me in November 2021, asked me to meet up for a coffee so i did, enjoyed his company etc. We went on a few dates or so we thought but it never developed into anything so we both eventually stopped speaking, no hard feelings. fast forward November 2022 same thing happens he asks me to meet for a coffee, I was single, he was single. we met up a few times and would kiss goodbye. That's it. That was the extent of the relationship. Texts every now and then the odd meal. I didn't know where i stood with him if he saw me as just a friend even after we chatted and he said he wanted more. Anyway September 2023 i met someone else and entered into a relationship with him. This old friend kept messaging me and saying "he was ready to give me everything" he had bought me xmas presents which i thought was odd as we hadn't spoken for months. he was unaware that i was in a relationship anyway he wanted to be with me. (The attraction with him is he has a really good co parenting relationship with his children's mum, he is very active with his children's lives, he works doesn't drink or take drugs and i found them to be good qualities.) At the time my then boyfriend had been caught out messaging someone else on social media a number of women and i ended the relationship. The old friend and I hadn't spoken for a while he was on dating sites because he matched with a friend of mine and she showed me. He messaged me again asked me to meet up and we did we had a talk again..... basically he said he feels like i can get anyone i want and that he isnt anyone special and that I would just leave him in the end anyway like his ex wife did that I am too good for him! This really annoyed me i told him i like his qualities i find him physically attractive etc but he wanted the relationship to go further so i invited him to my house. We slept together it was terrible over in a minute. The next day he asked me to meet up with him for a walk and when i got there we walked round the park like mates no hand holding, no kiss nothing/1 it felt weird. So i told him if you just see me as a friend then tell me. Weeks went by he kept saying he liked me etc then again it fizzled out. Again he pops back up. asks me to meet him i did he took me for food and i slept with him again (in the car) his mum has moved in with him and he has his children every other weekend i cant go to his and my house is not always free if i need a babysitter then she will look after my child at ,my house. Or my child goes to her dads one weekend a month. On our weekend off which means neither of us have children he doesn't ask to meet up. just in the week after work. we go for food and then he wants to have sex in the car! anyway that happened twice and i thought this has been going on since November 2021 and i still do not know where i stand with this man I'm not doing it anymore. So last time we met up was two weeks ago, i told him its my birthday soon, hoping he would say lets do something. He went quiet he didnt ask me when it was or what day it fell on, so i didnt tell him. although i have told him in the past when it was and just to be clear i know when his three childrens birthdays are his birthday and he even told me when his ex wifes birthday is because he got her a gift off the children. So he asked to meet up on Thursday eve and i didn't want to because i knew what he would want so i made an excuse and didnt go my birthday was Saturday. On my actual birthday he sent me a good morning message and asked me what i was up to etc so i said its my birthday today! he just said happy birthday. then later tried to call me but i was with family so didnt answer. AIBU to be annoyed about this. I cant speak to him i havent said anything. He will send a message and if i dont reply he wont message again for weeks and I have had enough of it. Someone please give me some clarity on this. What would you feel/do?