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No house, no job, single mum. Help.

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Forgotthat · 11/11/2024 14:24

I need help and advice but really have no idea where to turn.

I’m going to try and bullet point to make it as simple as possible.

Going through a divorce
There has been physical abuse
(courts don’t care)
Offer has been put on marital home
STBEXH made himself bankrupt during divorce
I’m looking for a full time job
5 year old girl at school
Ex doesn’t help with DD
(So no after school care or pick ups or drop offs to school)
I have no money as ex took it all before he left (courts don’t care)
With the house sale I’ll have around 20k
Rent for 2 bed flat/house is £1.2k-1.4K a month where I live
I’d need to earn around £35k a year (haven’t been in work as I was a SAHM) to live and pay all bills
Finding a 35k job feels impossible.
One that’s remote (I need that or hybrid or extremely flexible hours) as even with after school clubs and care, the latest I can collect my DD is 5:30pm, so I’d need to leave work by 5pm - where finishes at 5 nowadays??

I feel like I haven’t got a hope.

Once the house is sold, we have no where to go, I’ll have to use the 20k for rent until I get a job, then what?

I’m terrified and I don’t know how I can better my situation. I know there’s lot of people worse off but I can’t see how I can get a place and a job that fits all the above criteria.

I feel so unbelievably down and can’t fathom how I’m going to do this all. The entitled to website doesn’t really help me because I have no idea what my circumstances will be.

OP posts:
Chocolateorange22 · 11/11/2024 14:30

Have a look at jobs that are term time, you'd possibly be eligible for benefit top ups of some kind (UC maybe?). Also is STBEXH working? Get that CMS against him sorted ASAP.

Usedtobeslummy · 11/11/2024 14:29

Find out what benefits you're entitled to. There's a calculator at Turn2Us I think. Good luck.