AIBU - Mother in Law's dress at my wedding.

Showed the picture to my DH who laughed and said 'someone is desperate to upstage the bride!'

Bloody hell. Is your MIL Sophia Loren?!

Or was it Raquel Welch that tried to upstage the bride at her son’s wedding?

is she winding you up? I know someone who this … all the I’m wearing black blah blah … not with train lol. All along she planned to surprise her friends by wearing pink. Bloody stupid and attention seeking.

For those who haven't read all the OPs posts - this is a picture of the actual dress OP posted earlier

It's not fair to you or your mother. Stupid attention-seeker needs to tone it right down.

She asked, you answered.

it's definitely inappropriate for a wedding , even if it wasn't black, it's an absolute showstopper and might be perceived as a deliberate attempt to upstage the bride.

Is she Spanish by any chance? I know that wedding guests at Spanish weddings dress much more formally than we Brits do. Full on evening glamour rather than the very smart day dress styles we are more used to.

She's had plenty of notice that the dress isn't on the right lines so she's got time to reflect, get over any disappointment and look for something more suitable.

And I hope she gets another chance to wear that beautiful dress. If you are having a rehearsal dinner maybe she could wear it then?

Black dress fine for Mil but it having a train also is too much. Especially as she has said she wanted to get a dress similar to yours. That's not good.
I would advise not to go too much on everyone in bridal party only wearing certain colours.
Have been to weddings where this had been done with different shades of colours / colour themes and it can look quite bland.
Your mother & mil wearing different colours such as black / navy / red / etc will break up the monotony of of the beige / yellow etc.

I think maybe you’ve overdone it with the whole “making her feel included in everything”idea and now she can’t see past trying to look as amazing as possible, regardless of actually looking like a try-hard idiot in the heat! Is she trying to compensate for something she missed out on in the past or hoping people will think she’s the main character or could be a bridesmaid?

Even if that dress was in a different colour, you need to be clear that the style is not appropriate.

A black dress with a train for your summer wedding. She must hate you OP. I'd tell her no she can't wear it or won't be invited.

Ok so I assumed by OPs title she was on a MIL bashing rant but my goodness
Black with a train.

Is it like this OP

For some people, photos are important, for others they aren’t. Obviously in this case they are, so your question seemed a bit unnecessary imo

Yabu. As long as it isn’t white, it’s ok. You can’t be this controlling. That’s what she wants and is comfortable in.

The train sounds a bit of a faff for a Continental summer wedding. Black for your son's wedding - definitely not. Agree with PP that black still has very funereal significance in Spain.

I see wedding photos on FB all the time. I guess people who are not on social media send the best ones to guests, friends and family or print and frame a selection.

My sister wore an awful boxy shirt skirt suit, probably some designer made thing, in off white to my nephews wedding,

I was horrified on her behalf.

The mother of the bride wore cream, perhaps to counter act my sister.

who knows?

The bride looked beautiful

If you can find some wedding photos of families with a similar theme to yours - summer colours+ similar venue setting, you can screenshot and send them to her to say this is what you have in mind and dark colours will be contradictory.

I can't believe she chose black. I was expecting to read 'royal blue/ navy' and would still say she's being U.

I would say that the top is more inappropriate at the age she must be (my age or older.

But I reiterate, dark including black is common

Do they? That's why I was asking. There's always an enormous fuss on here about "what it will look like in the photos"? How often do these photos get looked at?

Sounds better than orange! Is she inviting Trump to continue the colour scheme?

She's going to look like the ghost of a jilted lover. i'm cringing for her.

Your future MIL wants the MOB style experience she didn’t get from her other sons’ weddings. I think this is the time to be really clear that she isn’t going to get this experience in that dress. You are supposed to be the one standing out and in a unique dress. She should not and cannot wear the mourning version of your dress. It is incredibly rude. She’s obviously somehow got carried away and needs to be reined in.

Haha pull the other one!😂

That is just weird and pretty horrible of her. Can’t her son or someone have a word and tell her she’s being unreasonable? People will gasp when they see her and probably laugh. And I imagine you, at half her age, are going to look better in that style of dress however good her figure is. What was she thinking? Has she been watching too much Rivals??😃

I wouldn't think that. I'd just think "awful dress" because I think that sort of pseudo Hollywood fake glamourous dresses are awful.

Why wouldn’t they