AIBU - Mother in Law's dress at my wedding.

Just saw the dress. It is like a vampire wedding dress! Someone needs to talk sense into your MIL. I would tell her straight that if she is wearing that aberration, she is not in your wedding photos. I feel sorry for you OP. You are not being unreasonable at all.

I’m in Spain right now

its hot here and a black dress with a train will be boiling for her

her make up will melt.

Having seen the price, I suspect it will arrive and she will try it on and be disappointed with it. Then she will find something else.

Some of the suggestions on here are so unkind they are quite weird. Getting people to snigger at her? Cutting her out of the wedding? Unless there really is a back story then all this is about is a dress that isn't very appropriate.

I don’t think anyone is likely to see a black dress as ‘bridal’, train or no train, anyway.

I sure as hell would. That one definitely.
(And I'd add in all the other associations with the MOG wearing black to boot.)

She asked, you replied.... Leave her to it. My Mil chose something quite similar to my mums dress which I spent ages worrying about as I didn't want to upset either by pointing this out. In the end no one will be looking at her, they will be looking at you. Anyway, she'll regret it.... August in Spain in a black dress, she'll be sweating her tits off!

What does your fiance think of his mother's dress?.

I would uninvite her now. You do not have the relationship with her you think you do. She is doing this to cause trouble and upset.

In addition this is being done by her deliberately to get attention/supply at your wedding where the attention is on your husband and you. Narcissistic type behaviour like this should not at all be rewarded.

I agree with this

I’d be annoyed as it does look like a black bridal dress. I mean out of all the styles and colours she chose and she chose that?!

I’d be trying to get her son to change her mind.

“Well I’m not having you in my pictures wearing a black wedding dress Barbara, sorry. Maybe something a little more cheerful and less… wedding dress? Do you want to go shopping?”

Picture also taken in Seville, if I'm not mistaken!
The dress is a NO, BTW

So what if she's ordered it? She can send it back

I think absolutely the problem is that it's a bridal dress!

The colour scheme is a red herring, it's the fact she's coming in a wedding dress which is absolutely mortifying!

Have you seen the dress?!

it’s literally a wedding dress in black! She will look ridiculous

Ask her if she is grieving? 😂

@MumofHennHals - the issue is that she has ordered this dress, whether you like it or not (not as it turns out which is perfectly within your scope to not like her dress).

However, she has ordered it.

Did she mention to you before she ordered it, that this was the style she was looking to wear? Also you mentioned it's black, I wouldn't have said to her that it was to be less bridal in appearance, perhaps you may have had more success from her if you said that you didn't like it as it was too funereal in appearance??? ⛪☠⚰

I recently went to a wedding where the MIL was deliberately over-dressed to try and outshine the bride...she looked expensive, and over-done...and ridiculous. All the other guests could see what she was trying to do, and it did not go down well with any of them; she was noticeable for all the wrong reasons.

As the bride you will be naturally beautiful, shining with happiness and the centre of attention - if your MIL tries to compete with that she will end up looking shallow and pathetic. Either get your DP to say something, or even better just ignore it, certainly don't spend any energy stressing about it.

Oh, @MumofHennHals this is so bad it’s funny 🙈

It's an awful dress. She will look ridiculous.

OP if she insists on wearing it brief a few of your friends to very pointedly look at her and snigger. I'm sure they won't need any encouraging.

@MumofHennHals is she not British? I think in Southern Europe people do wear black to weddings. That dress is totally not on, though. I know you said you have a great relationship, but I wondered if she was, consciously or unconsciously, trying to compete with you?

OMG it’s literally described as a wedding dress. And that picture of the train from the back. Just no no no.

If it’s the black moonlight bridal one then yes, that train is nuts.

I think she is being passive aggressive and your only option is to tell her how much you love it as she is clearly trying to wind you up.

Say nothing more. Let her wear it - you gave your feedback. Her dress doesn't sound like it suits the venue or season. Her choice.

Make sure you take some photos that are what you want - and accept that there will be some photos featuring MIL that don't work so well.

Oh for goodnes sake she is going to make some tit of herself dressed in that.

Like some evil step mother hovering.

Sorry OP but it made me laugh.
She must be a bit dense to think that would fly.