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DD being petulant over DGP visit (18yo)

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Norzilla · 11/11/2024 01:25

So I invited DGP over ( 78yo ) for Christmas this year. They went to DB last year. If they don't come here they will be alone this year. DD is outraged to have them here despite no real reason for it. She is 18yo at uni locally and still at home.
Tonight I had a huge row, explained DGP might only live another 15 years and least she can be is kind and empathetic to me and them. Much stropping ensued! DGP have their own room but will use the bathroom. I told her she was being rude and a brat. AIBU?

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HolyPeaches · 11/11/2024 02:41

There must be more to the story here of DD throwing a strop “for no reason”.

How many days/nights will they be staying?

Is DD sociable? Or more reserved?

Are the GP’s overbearing at all? Treat her like a
child rather than an adult now?

Any type of fallout/situations in the past?

Are they the type to be non-PC/rude/racist? (Because my 80yo GP’s can be at times, as much as I love them)

Codlingmoths · 11/11/2024 02:38

Umm what is her problem?? Every meal time would be sharing a story about grandma from now on, and say I hope you have some of these that your rude ungrateful child doesn’t want to hear. I hope she pulls her weight with chores and strips her own bed etc too, she would be now in my house.

letthemalldoone · 11/11/2024 02:36

Maybe she needs to move out? Talk about selfish! My kids would have loved to have their gps but they'd lost my parents by the time the eldest was 9!

What is actually wrong with her??!

Sheri99 · 11/11/2024 02:19

What a great daughter you are to the grandparents! Bless you.
Ignore her, refuse to discuss any longer.

Then if she keeps up the arguing, Tell her you "have half a mind to invite them to stay longer"! When she says "You wouldn't!!" 😭 Say to her: "Try me!" Then follow through.

LikeARunnerHo · 11/11/2024 02:15

15 years?😳

TiredHippo · 11/11/2024 02:13

@295bkq you knew the poster meant, stop being so pedantic. And yes, some 78 year olds can survive another 15 years, many have done before.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 11/11/2024 01:57

Is there a back story?

Is DD ND and needs routine and predictability? Have DGP rubbed DD up the wrong way? Will she be expected to give up a room for them? I feel like her reaction is OTT but need more info really.

Pemba · 11/11/2024 01:45

That's very unkind of DD. Your parent (M or D?) would probably love to spend Christmas with their beloved DD and DGD.

Unless there's some problem with the grandparent that you've not said?

avignon1234 · 11/11/2024 01:43

Definitely not. Your DD should catch herself on. It is definitely not normal to have this attitude. I've got 5 kids aged 19-27 and although it impinges a bit on "normal proceedings" mine are in their 80s, one with dementia, and yeah, unless there is a backstory, this is brattish and entitled in the extreme. 18 year olds can be difficult and want things their way, so some slack is needed, but actually just no. If she can't bear to see her GP at Christmas, she can spend it with a friend (who will probably have their GP around). xx

MartinCrieffsLemon · 11/11/2024 01:40

Does she think she'll have to stay home and spend time with them she'd rather spend catching up with school friends who are home from Uni/hanging out with B(or G)F, going clubbing?

And 15 is very optimistic. 5-10 is closer.

mdinbc · 11/11/2024 01:39

You are not at all unreasonable. She is being very selfish, and you are right to tell her off.

295bkq · 11/11/2024 01:37

Is it usually a bathroom only for your dd?

295bkq · 11/11/2024 01:36

Did you mean that a 78yo might only live another 15 years? It might have been more accurate to say only another 5 years. 15 is very optimistic (sorry). Elderly people can die pretty suddenly as well.

Is there a problem with him/her using the bathroom? Is it usually

Ohthatsabitshit · 11/11/2024 01:35

☕️ that sounds extremely annoying.

AutumnLeaves24 · 11/11/2024 01:33

What?

Why is she being like this? What is her issue with DGP?

username7891 · 11/11/2024 01:31

Just ignore her.

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