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Am I old or has shite behaviour become normal behaviour?

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WishItWasDifferent25 · 10/11/2024 21:42

Ok. Fully prepared to be told I am unreasonable but I’m nearly choking from clutching my pearls here….

  1. on a plane last week. Child with iPad on full volume. No attempt to reduce volume and no headphones in sight. No one except me seemed to be bothered so I quietly seethed.

  2. in John Lewis today. Cafe. Quiet and calm except for parents entertaining toddler by playing baby shark over and over. I felt I had to leave. No one else seemed to even flinch.

  3. the gym yesterday. Watching greys anatomy with my headphones on. Still had subtitles because the noise from spin was a LOT. Guy gets on the one next to me and sticks a programme on full volume. I went for pointed look but not up for confrontation tbh. He moved around the gym with his super loud programme following him.

IS THIS NORMAL. Or am I turning into cranky old bint. Am only 46. Didn’t see it coming.

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SisterAgatha · 10/11/2024 22:01

I’ve played equally loud music before. Some trash metal. You only have to play it for a matter of seconds before the other person looks up and you can say “oh, I thought seeing as you were being rude and inconsiderate, I would too”. Followed by sweet smile.

Years ago I connected my Bluetooth to someone’s phone and played Barbie girl (I don’t think you can do this now)

i threw a mint at someone on the train once and stared him dead in the eye.

the trick in life is ALWAYS be the crazier person. Talk outloud to yourself if need be “anyone gonna turn that facking noise down”

it’ll be a funnier existance. And you let your inner seething out.

HaddyAbrams · 10/11/2024 22:01

Didimum · 10/11/2024 21:59

Teenagers have been doing this forever, to be fair.

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Have they? We didn't when I was a teenager as we didn't have anything to play music on in public. Unless we carried around a boombox.
And whilst I saw people with them in the park, no one played them on the bus.

CockerMum · 10/11/2024 22:00

Yanbu

username7891 · 10/11/2024 21:59

You're lucky that you've only just noticed that people can be really inconsiderate.

Didimum · 10/11/2024 21:59

HaddyAbrams · 10/11/2024 21:47

YANBU.
I was on the bus recently. 2 girls sat near me, both with videos/music playing on their phones. But chatting rather than listening.
2 people on speakerphone/video calls.
Plus other music/videos playing.

Totally unnecessary.

Teenagers have been doing this forever, to be fair.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 10/11/2024 21:57

Yanbu op, people seem more selfish than ever before

My dd sometimes has the tablet but the volume is as low as possible

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WishItWasDifferent25 · 10/11/2024 21:52

I do tend to think to myself that, when the places are public, it is somewhat inevitable they will be frequented by members of the public and, generally, the public are awful. And I can move away. But not so much on the plane.

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Allfur · 10/11/2024 21:52

I always ask them to turn it down etc, the only time i say nothing is if i think they could be dangerous

Pickandmixmood · 10/11/2024 21:50

YANBU OP.
People are getting more and more inconsiderate and selfish.
Also, people are getting more entitled and don’t take responsibility for their own lives and choices.

HaddyAbrams · 10/11/2024 21:47

YANBU.
I was on the bus recently. 2 girls sat near me, both with videos/music playing on their phones. But chatting rather than listening.
2 people on speakerphone/video calls.
Plus other music/videos playing.

Totally unnecessary.

shockeditellyou · 10/11/2024 21:47

I just tell people to turn it off. I fantasise that if they don’t I’ll play porn or ultra hammer horror at full volume, but I’d probably just scuttle off.

DifficultQuestion2 · 10/11/2024 21:45

I think that sensory overload is becoming the norm unfortunately. There seems to be no escaping it unless you are prepared to stay home and pretend it's still the 80s. (That's what I'm doing.)