Anybody had an older parent when growing up?

I suppose in this day and age what I’m about to say isn’t “old”
but I’m 33, my mom n dad are 69/70. They had me much later than my siblings

i am always afraid of losing them.
I wouldn’t know how to cope.

they are my full time childcare but I’m also very conscious always that they are getting old too. So I try not to burden them.

i will have both my children by the end of this year and both in my early thirties.
I am very conscious they may feel what I’ve felt my whole life, but for me, this is a way to 1- become the best healthy and fit version of myself to help increase my chances of a longer healthier life and 2- set them up so that if anything ever did happen to me they would be safe and secure in themselves and know how to cope.

My parents were 39 (mum) and 42 (dad) when I was born (only child). Sadly my mum died a few years ago, nothing to do with her age but an autoimmune condition. I've just had my first baby and I know she would definitely be helping out if she were here and well physically. My dad is healthy and well but like most men of his generation, not really into taking care of infants. He will watch her briefly but I couldn't leave her with him for a few hours while I went out. I think he will enjoy her more when she is walking and talking, fingers crossed.

To be honest I was kind of self conscious of it growing up. My mum was very glamorous and always dressed well with perfect hair and makeup but I could see she was 5-10 years older than my friends mums and it felt like there was much more of a generation gap between me and my parents vs my friends parents. It's much more common to have kids in your late 30s/early 40s now so I wouldn't worry.

Why should they upset her, unless people try to pin all their dissatisfaction on their parents' ages. There's always something to do that with if you really try.

Dad was 42 when I was born. Didn't make a ha'porth of difference growing up. I was 40 when he died.
Helped with childcare a bit but distance was the real issue.
DSis had all hers after 39, they still live with her in their 20s. Seem to get on well.

Will the answers be useful to you given you’re already pregnant.

They potentially will make you feel really bad