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To dislike the increase in dogs in shops/cafes

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amymel2016 · 10/11/2024 18:07

I’ve recently noticed a huge increase in non-service dogs in cafes and shops. I was in Joules earlier today and there were 3 in there, two of which were barking and growling at each other. I was in a cafe last week with 2 in there. Surely it can’t be fun for the dog having to sit under a cramped table?

I’m very allergic to dogs and the smell absolutely sets me on edge. I don’t understand why they are allowed in? I’m not about to walk in with a cat or a rabbit so why dogs? It’s also the attitude of most (sweeping generalisation!) dog owners which annoys me, no, I don’t want to talk to your dog or about your dog. I don’t care if you say he’s friendly I don’t want it anywhere near me.

Goes without saying that service dogs are bloody amazing and they should absolutely be welcome everywhere.

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YeOldeGreyhound · 13/11/2024 13:51

Mh67 · 13/11/2024 12:49

I wonder if it's like smokers they don't notice the smell. I agree all dogs smell not nice when your eating

I might not notice my own dog smells, but I notice other people's. It depends on the breed. Some breeds smell more than others.

MrsB74 · 13/11/2024 13:30

Tutorpuzzle · 10/11/2024 19:43

Oh, I didn’t know Costa allowed dogs! Excellent, thanks for that, I love their espressos and now I can take my fur baby in too😊.

It’s a recent change. I’m all for it - I love dogs (and their smell).

EmilyA187 · 13/11/2024 13:14

Our local shopping centre has become dog friendly. Not all stores inside are though, my mums a dog owner and it’s so frustrating that she has to bring the dog absolutely everywhere with her. It means a lot of her not wanting to go in certain shops or hanging around outside waiting for me. It’s a pain in the neck and sometimes I just want to spend time with her without her constantly fussing about the dog!

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 13/11/2024 12:57

Surely it's only unhygienic if the dogs are in the kitchen, on the surfaces, licking utensils etc.

I don't see how a dog sitting on the table next to you affects the hygiene status.

ClaredeBear · 13/11/2024 12:51

I take my dog into John Lewis regularly and the Apple Store just recently. Both very dog friendly. The Range is also dog friendly now. Please note that I said dog, not "fur baby"🤮🤮🤮

Mh67 · 13/11/2024 12:49

amymel2016 · 10/11/2024 19:02

Sorry but all dogs smell, all dog owners houses smell, all holiday cottages that allow dogs smell

I wonder if it's like smokers they don't notice the smell. I agree all dogs smell not nice when your eating

SpanielsSunflowersSand · 13/11/2024 12:47

Dog lover/ dog owner perspective - I understand not wanting to be approached by a dog or in any way inconvenienced by one. Under no circumstances will anyone be approached, tripped over, sniffed or anything else by my dog. He is unlikely to look at you because we have been able to train him to behave in a well mannered way because we have had access to busy places like cafes and shops to practice in.

The dog owners who walk their dogs on an flexi lead in shop aisles/ cafes and small spaces are disrespectful. You can get very nasty injuries from a flexi lead.

I was confused by the smell comment as you support service animals but also say that all dogs smell.

I think there is a balanced discussion to be had rather than an outright “all dogs should be banned from public settings” versus the “but your bratty children get food all over the table and chairs and scream their heads off so they shouldn’t be allowed” type comments.

Maybe if all dog owners could be more respectful, peoples view would be different. I have witnessed a dog steal a sausage from a nearby tables plate! That is unacceptable and if a dog cannot settle on his place mat for the duration of the meal without barking/ lunging/ growling or bothering someone then the dog shouldn’t be in that setting. Equally, people need to look at the dog they have and really understand if they have a dog who enjoys that setting or not. The amount of dogs you see with a halti over their face being dragged through a busy crowd looking so uncomfortable is awful.

In short, I think there is room for everyone and if we all show some respect, I think it’s a wonderful thing to have the opportunity to eat out with the dog in tow. Especially when you have a campervan and staycation often!

Welshmonster · 13/11/2024 12:42

If the dog is quiet and under a table out of the way in the pub/cafe then I don’t mind. Thankfully no allergies here. But I’m fed up of owners that let their dogs roam around freely while I’m eating and they sit and beg. Unlike annoying children who you can send back to their parents.
I’m Fed up of the he’s friendly. I was bit badly whilst out running by a friendly dog and the owner openly admitted the dog had no recall.

dogs aren’t needed in clothes shops, supermarkets etc. people have had dogs as pets for centuries and dogs survived at home but now we have dogs with mental health issues. Separation anxiety etc. It’s owners who haven’t trained their dog properly.

during a pub quiz, the dog was barking all the way through. Everytime someone walked past. It was ridiculous. Spoke to manager who said he couldn’t ask them to leave. So because we were drunk, every time the dog barked, we barked. They kept giving us dirty stares and eventually left.

Seasidelife1 · 13/11/2024 11:36

We wouldn’t dream of taking our dog to the shops, but when we are on holiday we do like to go to cafes. We do walking holidays and we take her with us, we have a blanket for her to lie on so she settles and if she were to make a noise(which she doesn’t) I would take her outside so she wasn’t bothering anyone. We are equally happy sat outside if the weather is ok and would never go in somewhere unless they state on the door dog friendly or we ask first. I fully respect that not everywhere wants dogs and not everyone wants dogs in their vicinity, but there are plenty places to accommodate all likes/dislikes.

YeOldeGreyhound · 13/11/2024 11:21

Pickandmixmood · 12/11/2024 23:58

I really don’t understand why it is unhygienic. The dogs are not anywhere near the food or drink.

Plus the establishments are still maintaining their hygiene ratings despite allowing dogs.
It might have been on another thread, by one poster was saying how unhygienic it was to have dogs in hair salons. The logic of that one defied me.

KimberleyClark · 13/11/2024 11:03

gannett · 13/11/2024 09:26

Always feel the need to chime in on these anti-dog threads, as a dog-lover who doesn't own a dog, that meeting all these very good boys and girls in cafes and shops is very much appreciated here and I'm happy to make a fuss of them if their temperament and owner permit. Meeting a dog always brightens up my day.

This.

pizzaHeart · 13/11/2024 11:02

Pickandmixmood · 12/11/2024 23:58

I really don’t understand why it is unhygienic. The dogs are not anywhere near the food or drink.

Because often they are.
I don’t mind them being in a pub garden it’s natural but not inside.

PontiacFirebird · 13/11/2024 10:42

There are NO cafes near me anymore that don’t have dogs allowed. So that’s not much of a choice…

gannett · 13/11/2024 09:26

Always feel the need to chime in on these anti-dog threads, as a dog-lover who doesn't own a dog, that meeting all these very good boys and girls in cafes and shops is very much appreciated here and I'm happy to make a fuss of them if their temperament and owner permit. Meeting a dog always brightens up my day.

Tapthisscreen · 13/11/2024 09:23

My annoyance is people thinking that because you take your dog to a cafe that accepts dogs it’s equal to treating your dog like a child. Parents need to do better if that’s the case.

Pusheen467 · 13/11/2024 09:17

Swivelhead · 11/11/2024 07:02

I do get the impression some people delight in fixating on their hatred eg. of dogs or cats because spouting racist abuse or targeting disabled people is no longer socially acceptable.

They just seem to take such vicious pleasure in the actual hating.

I absolutely love dogs and will always make a fuss of a friendly dog but I still think they shouldn't be in certain places based on principle.

I think for a lot of people (myself included), the annoyance isn't directed at the animals but the way some people think they are their children and that they should be allowed to bring them everywhere.

DiscoBeat · 13/11/2024 00:16

PotholesAnonymous · 10/11/2024 19:36

It makes me gag when they touch your leg with their face as they walk by and leave slobber over it.

The smell of steaming wet dog when eating a fry up is gag inducing too.

I now avoid eating anywhere that allows dogs.

I find a fry up does that for me, not the dog! (But I respect your issues).

DiscoBeat · 13/11/2024 00:11

I have a dog and love to get the opportunity for dog cuddles out and about but I don't think they should be allowed everywhere. Locally here it's only garden centres and pet shops that allow them, or pubs (our local pub allows them everywhere and the local restaurant allows them on the flagstone floor area of the bar so the restaurant is out of bounds to dogs). I think that's fair so that dog lovers and non are catered for.

Pickandmixmood · 12/11/2024 23:58

pizzaHeart · 12/11/2024 23:51

I agree with you OP. It’s absolute madness that non working dogs are allowed in shops and cafes.
I personally avoid such places, it’s very unhygienic.

I really don’t understand why it is unhygienic. The dogs are not anywhere near the food or drink.

BitOutOfPractice · 12/11/2024 23:53

StandingSideBySide · 12/11/2024 23:30

Tescos says online only assistant dogs are allowed.
Owner obviously sneaked that one in

Edited

Yep.

pizzaHeart · 12/11/2024 23:51

I agree with you OP. It’s absolute madness that non working dogs are allowed in shops and cafes.
I personally avoid such places, it’s very unhygienic.

Mnetcurious · 12/11/2024 23:43

LlynTegid · 12/11/2024 18:45

I welcome well behaved dogs and well behaved dog owners. Not otherwise.

Small businesses are struggling enough as people restrict spending given recent inflation, so to refuse anyone with a dog could mean the difference between being in business and not.

Actually I think now that everywhere accepts dogs, your business would have more of a USP if you didn’t. If we had a decent local cafe that was NOT dog friendly, I’d choose it every time. There are clearly loads of us on this thread who put up with dogs when there’s no real choice but would prefer to go somewhere dog-free!

loubielou31 · 12/11/2024 23:38

Prescottdanni123 · 10/11/2024 20:30

@PotholesAnonymous

Zefferellis in Ambleside, Grasmere Garden centre.

Mary Mount Hotel does technically take them but puts dog owning guests in a seperate building to the ones who don't. I mention this one because I know the food and service is really good here too.Or there is diamond Lodge in Ambleside which doesn't take dogs at all and is quite central for places like Keswick, Grasmere, Windermere and Kendal.

Edited

I found this post after I had asked. Thanks

Mnetcurious · 12/11/2024 23:35

mitogoshigg · 12/11/2024 19:25

Wetherspoons don't allow dogs, that's a huge number of pubs that are dog free. Costa don't allow dogs either.

I found plenty didn't allow dogs when dog was alive!

Our Costa does allow dogs. Who wants to eat/drink in a crappy Wetherspoons just because it’s the only place that’s dog-free?!

loubielou31 · 12/11/2024 23:32

Prescottdanni123 · 10/11/2024 19:52

@ButterMints

I live in Lake District too. I can think of plenty of places that don't take dogs.

Can you list them please? We are visiting soon and this would be really helpful.

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