DS made racist comment at school

This is about children my son suffered racism at his school when he was in year 1. The school dealt with it sharply. When I did talk about it I did not mention any names. I spoke to the mother and that was the end of it. I think it's appalling when adults thinks it's okay to gang up against a child it's abuse.

The worst thing is is that these wannabe parents will use their children to abuse ops child.

IMO the terms has been used on this thread in a reductive manner. I am not telling you how you should I identify. I am telling you that I have been told that the term 'disabled' used as their primary descriptor is considered reductive. They prefer their disability to be acknowledged by its name ie autistic spectrum disorder/asd or adhd or social communication disorder etc. You do you. You don't speak for all people with disabilities any more that I speak for all ethnic minorities.

You say your son is ASD and is becoming emotional when questioned about this. If it's something that has been said out of character I wonder if it has been influenced by someone else ..
I would ask where he's heard this from or maybe his reasons for saying it if he could write it down if possible

Mountain out of a molehill is my reaction. Take him out for a happy day to take his mind off his indiscretion..

WTAF

This needs to handled by the school. Do not initiate contact with the parent or child until you’ve contacted the school.

Ellie09
Commenting on the posts in this group is hardly going to calm down the row is it? Getting involved yourself and then seeking the school's help is ridiculous. The best thing is to be the adult and report the situation to the school so they can sort it out.

@ellie09 I suspect some posters are just after a reaction. Ignore them 😊

Are you not bored of twisting everything the op has said yet? The child is 7! He's been educated by his mum and even punished. What exactly would you like the op to do to make you shut up saying the same drivel over and over again. You're so delusional your making stuff up and insisting the op is the one who has said it. You must no that's not normal.

As for your latest ableist rubbish regarding asd, you obviously have zero experience with a non verbal child still in nappies. Their parents do everything they can to help them to reach their full potentional, it doesnt make them not disabled. Some children with asd are very much disabled whether you or your friends like it or not. How people wish to identify is up to them, not you.

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a) I’m talking about the OP’s child, not the OP. Her child has autism, which is a disability, and requires reasonable adjustments both legally and socially. Of course he needs to learn what is and isn’t acceptable, but he also needs understanding of his own challenges.

b) I have autism, I’m disabled. Don’t tell me how to identify myself, please!

c) you may not be aware, but many disabled people see the argument you’re making here about the term ‘disabled’ being reductive as similar to the racism-related ‘i don’t really see colour or race’ argument. Saying disabled people aren’t disabled doesn’t make us less disabled or reduce ableism. You may want to be aware of that as someone who clearly takes privilege and oppression seriously. I’d suggest making sure you’re aware of your own privilege (we all have it, in one way or another) before you pass judgment on others, as I’m sure you wouldn’t want to appear to be speaking for me as a disabled person or labelling me in a way that I don’t identify with.

Once you have educated yourself more broadly you will know what more you can do for your son and what this issue is with your current approach/way of describing things. There are lots of resources available.

This whole thing / thread is now beyond the point of being blown out of proportion

I'd ignore certain posters, you've been marked as a racist now so anything you say is going to be used as proof of that.

My children are brown, if this situation had happened to them I wouldn't be bitching about a 7-year-old child on WhatsApp groups, I'd have been contacting the school to deal with it. These grown women are bullies.

Ad yet the OP said they have not said anything on the group chat about the incident.

Its not ablest to expect the OP to do better on the subject of racism with her DS. Everything she has written here suggests she does not have the skills to do that herself. She is obsessed with getting back at the WhatsApp group, yet here she is calling them out rather than focusing on the girl who was affected and how she can help her son learn from this. As for the son, he in on the Autistic spectrum but this does not mean there should not be reasonable expectations or consequences. The opportunity to learn on this occasion is being squandered

On disabiliy. So many people calling him a disabled 7 year old. None of the individuals I know like to be reduced to just being called 'disabled', it's reductive. They and their parents have fought hard for them to be able to reach their potential and be included when their ASD was being used to restrict their growth and make their world smaller. So don't @me about disabilities when you are being so reductive.

So he is also a victim of racism?
This school sounds like it has significant issues with bullying based on skin colour, and disability.
I wonder why this child didn't report your sons comment to a teacher OP? Or maybe she did and was ignored as school staff are not taking bullying seriously.

Are the bullies parents in this whatts app group OP?

People worry far too much about things children say.