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To ask what we SHOULD have done during the COVID pandemic

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tunainatin · 10/11/2024 05:48

So I realise the government made mistakes at the time of COVID. They also acted completely immorally by not following the rules they imposed on everyone else.
However, I suspect any government in this country would have been criticized whatever their response.

I was mulling over the rules and restrictions and trying to work out which ones were actually worthwhile. Some rules seemed so petty (e.g. the one a day walk) but there has to be a line drawn somewhere, otherwise the parks would have been full of people.

Once we were allowed to attend things with restrictions in place, I went to an event which was meant to have masks and social distancing but everyone kind of got carried away and forgot about. Everyone got COVID, including me, badly, and one person was hospitalised.

So if you were the government what would you have done during the pandemic. Which of the bizarre rules we followed do you think saved lives, and which just causes stress or distress?

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Lwrenn · 10/11/2024 20:31

Aggie15 · 10/11/2024 18:41

Don't mix social issues with Covid. UK has very high incidence of DV and child abuse anyway. Covid exacerbated already existing issues everywhere around the world not just in the UK. Had the UK listened to the WHO advice in time and locked down when it should have and completely, it could have been like in NZ. Short lockdown, testing and isolating new cases straight away. Life could have returned to normal sooner.

I understand your point. I am discussing the pandemic from an entirely social aspect but it's important to me it's discussed. And they are different beasts, covid its self/the non medical havoc it caused.
But more children died utterly harrowing deaths than would have had these children had social worker visits and school in place. There was also a rise in people shaking up with new partners at the beginning of the pandemic and who knows how much child abuse that is responsible for, it was definitely responsible the death of Lola James, the wee girl who was murdered by her mums new partner who was a monster.
I don't live in the greatest area and I know more people during the pandemic who would access drugs than normal people could access toilet roll. Genuinely. People did more drugs, drank more booze and lads I know who did work that saw them laid off ended up broke, relying on alcohol and feeling like they were struggling with everything which in turn made them more volatile and violent on occasions which is a side they'd controlled until the pandemic.
As i agreed, you're of course correct I'm discussing the social aspect to the pandemic and yes we have a staggering number of abuse and DV cases, but locking up people with their abusers was a disastrous choice, the consequences were devastating.
I lost people to covid, I have friends who lost parents to cancer due to lack of available treatment during the pandemic and all the side effects of lockdown but I personally can't believe now that we locked children, knowing statistically how many men are peadophiles, in homes with no escape knowing the likelihood in a pressured environment such as covid, children would be abused.
It's barbaric.

We fucked up on every level, we ignored good advice and the repercussions of the long lockdown will be seen for years to come with the children who missed out on education, socialising, having a place to go when their homelives weren't stable.
I'd never ever again advocate locking away children, they're too precious to risk.
I hope you understand why I feel so strongly and that I do appreciate what you've said.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 20:25

I think maybe allowing one household at a time to meet in a garden or outdoors would have been OK, and people should have been able to drive further afield for outdoor activities (not that I think they ever really stopped people, but I remember a sense for the first 6 weeks or so that you weren't to go on long drives or anything). At the end of the day, you were never going to catch it outdoors by just walking past someone unless they were infectious and literally coughed or sneezed in your face (dense crowds outdoors were another matter).

One benefit of this would've been that some socialising that was pushed indoors due to fear of detection could instead have taken place outside. With lower risk.

Echobelly · 10/11/2024 20:23

I think maybe allowing one household at a time to meet in a garden or outdoors would have been OK, and people should have been able to drive further afield for outdoor activities (not that I think they ever really stopped people, but I remember a sense for the first 6 weeks or so that you weren't to go on long drives or anything). At the end of the day, you were never going to catch it outdoors by just walking past someone unless they were infectious and literally coughed or sneezed in your face (dense crowds outdoors were another matter).

I thought from early on that small, local non 'essential' shops should have been allowed to open, although I guess there is a question of how you'd define 'small' and 'local', but when I think about places like a local flower shop, or bed shop, they would only ever have a handful of people in them at once, and wouldn't have been a hotbed for infection.

But hindsight is a fine thing. It was a novel virus and they had to act on the assumption it was as transmissible as possible and as dangerous as possible rather than going 'Meh, it probably won't be that bad'.

freedohm · 10/11/2024 20:19

I work with children 1-5, our nursery/preschool was open as usual (it’s basically free where I live) so I worked. We had a great time. After 3-4 weeks after sending home anyone with a slight sniffle as adviced, we basically had a full group of healthy children every day. None of us got sick. It was amazing.

But now it’s back as usual, and we have all got a cold all the time. 😂

TheKeatingFive · 10/11/2024 20:16

crumblingschools · 10/11/2024 20:10

In the early days parents were pulling children out of school before they closed. So not sure early on parents would have been happy with that proposal and in the January lockdown how would have that worked?

Parents complained about having the windows opened all the time

The second lockdown, parents were falling over themselves to get their children into school.

TheKeatingFive · 10/11/2024 20:15

EasternStandard · 10/11/2024 20:05

Much better than being stuck isolated for two terms

I agree with this.

crumblingschools · 10/11/2024 20:10

In the early days parents were pulling children out of school before they closed. So not sure early on parents would have been happy with that proposal and in the January lockdown how would have that worked?

Parents complained about having the windows opened all the time

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 10/11/2024 20:10

I think any family with a child at primary school should have had a right to either have one parent furloughed or a school place.

I don’t think it was at all fair on children to have a parent trying to home school them and work simultaneously. It’s obviously impossible to do two things at the same time to any kind of standard.

stargirl1701 · 10/11/2024 20:05

@crumblingschools

More than half, I would estimate. You'd never get 100%. The longer it continued, the more children who be attending.

EasternStandard · 10/11/2024 20:05

crumblingschools · 10/11/2024 20:02

@stargirl1701 how many parents would have agreed with that?

Much better than being stuck isolated for two terms

LindorDoubleChoc · 10/11/2024 20:02

I think people have short memories. The UK should have locked down sooner. The many children who were damaged by having their education paused, and the hospitality businesses the same, would have been way more damaged by losing their loved ones to death by covid, as individuals.

I'm finding it really odd to read about people talking about testing and PPE who seem to have forgotten this was not available for the crucial first 3 months!! maybe longer.

Maybe every single person in the world was affected in some way by this global pandemic, but that's the thing about global pandemics! It wasn't a local virus that could be contained.

My children 1) had to come home from University 6 months into their first year and then was pretty much locked down for her second year away from home.

  1. didn't get to sit his GCSEs and then missed most of his first year of 6th form.

They fell short changed, as we ALL do by having to put our lives on pause for 18 months/2 years to some extent - but we move on? We are grateful not to have lost friends, relatives, or been affected by long covid. It was a collective trauma and we comforted each other. We are the lucky ones.

crumblingschools · 10/11/2024 20:02

@stargirl1701 how many parents would have agreed with that?

TheKeatingFive · 10/11/2024 20:00

I expect their test and trace programme was a success largely because it wasn’t being run by Matt Hancock’s friend, but by competent people motivated by running a test and trace programme rather than by lining their own pockets.

No. it was a success because their government's access to personal data is much more comprehensive than ours.

Their Track & Trace had access to moline phone and bank card data as well as having control of all CCTV. They were also able to publish the addresses of those diagnosed with Covid on the internet.

stargirl1701 · 10/11/2024 19:54

Primary Schools should've moved outdoors. We could have kept children busy even if we could not have covered the entire curriculum.

The risk of transmission outdoors in very small and children were not massively at risk. Any at risk teachers could've been furloughed whilst the rest of us cracked on.

Parker231 · 10/11/2024 19:47

Hufflemuff · 10/11/2024 19:37

Those at risk stay home, everyone else just get on with life and work.

How would you have managed to find enough hospital beds for all the extra Covid patients requiring treatment if you’d let Covid run unstopped through the population?

BrieHugger · 10/11/2024 19:41

HooverIsAlwaysBroken · 10/11/2024 06:48

Kept primary schools open like Sweden did. The learning impact was huge on children, as was the emotional impact.

This I totally agree with. Secondary schools and universities too. Teenagers and young adults did not come through this unscathed; there are a hugely higher proportion now suffering mental health issues and a lack of emotional resilience.

I doubt any government would have done well with it though - unprecedented times, unprecedented measures. And we certainly weren’t the only country implementing similar rules.

2010Aussie · 10/11/2024 19:38

Supersimkin7 · 10/11/2024 07:51

Everyone I know secretly agrees with me on this.

Rate the sacrifices of the young as much as the rights of the aged and dying.

Schools stay open, children not sacrificed on the altar of the old.

Why? We don’t have the right to ruin children’s health and education to - possibly - prolong the existence of invalids who’ve already had a find old life.

Wow! So why don't we just kill everyone off when they reach a certain age or have severe disabilities? I think Hitler did that, didn't he?

1dayatatime · 10/11/2024 19:37

usererror99 · 10/11/2024 05:58

Anyone in at risk categories - anyone in receipt of old age pension or CEV should have been told to stay home and the rest of us should have got on with it

Best suggestion of the thread.

You could add to this for example having the supermarkets giving prioritised free delivery slots (or if necessary paid for by the Government) by delivery drivers that daily had to produce a negative COVID test ( in return for a small bonus).

Instead we went for mass hysteria.

Hufflemuff · 10/11/2024 19:37

Those at risk stay home, everyone else just get on with life and work.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 19:35

User79853257976 · 10/11/2024 19:30

I don’t propose to know everything about how the country functions but just letting people fly in from all over the world was stupid. We know it wasn’t handled well. Unless you think it was?

But if you're going to come out and say in absolute terms that there were ways to make the UK response work like New Zealand's did, you do actually need to know enough about the country to explain how.

It sounds like you're referring to a ban on flying into the UK here, either full or partial. That's only one part of the picture, since we have a land border and we're also extremely reliant on supplies brought in from abroad by other humans. So there needs to be much more.

EasternStandard · 10/11/2024 19:35

Aggie15 · 10/11/2024 19:26

How do they stop the spread of other pathogens like foot and mouth? By stringent testing and barrier measures. Lorry drivers and those handling the goods would have had to wear PPE, some stock could have been parked for 72 hours etc. it was not beyond the wit of man. But of course UK got rid of the PPE stock just before the pandemic and the Tories favoured friends and family for PPE supply instead of UK manufacturers who were ready to manufacture PPE in the UK. They let Mone, the pub landlord of Matt Hancock's local and the likes to bulk order from Temu largely completely unusable crap. They never tested people who arrived into the country by plane. They could have restricted travel to essential etc. NZ and Australia imports stuff as well. It's immaterial what way it comes in. Most important the measures you put in place to mitigate the risk.

It would still spread, PPE doesn't stop that.

You are underestimating the spread of the virus, even Melbourne with incredibly strong quarantine ended up in long lockdowns as it was very tough to control

PPE would do almost nothing on that front

And the sheer numbers would make it very hard to do the same as Melbourne

That's why Whitty said it wasn't feasible, not sure why anyone would doubt him really, he would know

SnakesAndArrows · 10/11/2024 19:34

R053 · 10/11/2024 19:26

What about high density Asian countries that have land borders such as South Korea, Thailand, China? They were still able to close their borders and introduce quarantine rules like Australia and NZ. South Korea didn’t even need to have lockdowns as their track and track and testing system was so good. China had a lockdown early and then lived normally for a long time before their extreme one at the end, which was a waste of time because it was omicron.

Edited

Well with regard to South Korea, its only land border is with North Korea. So it doesn’t quite have the same issues with thousands of trucks crossing the channel and then - crucially - relying on the same drivers to distribute.

I expect their test and trace programme was a success largely because it wasn’t being run by Matt Hancock’s friend, but by competent people motivated by running a test and trace programme rather than by lining their own pockets.

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 19:33

nietzscheanvibe · 10/11/2024 19:26

Again, not arguing, there is a debate to be had about the merits of decisions made (and I'm most definitely not an apologist for Johnson, Hancock, et al). But, again, my point to the pp was that their comment was borne purely of bloody-mindedness and ignorance, whilst they imagine that they are somehow more informed than others because they are not "a mindless sheep". The refusal to comply because many others are complying seems pretty mindless - and no other justification was given, other than that the majority were "mindless". I stand by my initial criticism.

To be clear, I'm not addressing your initial criticism at all. If you think another poster is mindless, that's up to you. My interest is in the hypotheticals you created.

EasternStandard · 10/11/2024 19:31

User79853257976 · 10/11/2024 19:23

Fine - lying is possible seeing as there was such corruption in the operation. However, I respect Chris Whitty; it doesn’t mean he is right about that though. There would have been ways to make it work, we just didn’t take it seriously until it was too late.

He is right about covid entering via people in lorries. You only need a few cases entering a day to make avoiding lockdown not feasible.

And it'd likely be more than a few cases

User79853257976 · 10/11/2024 19:30

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 10/11/2024 19:28

There's a massive gap between is possible and did happen, though. And if this is simply because you disagree with him, applying Occam's Razor would mean him being honestly wrong rather than some big conspiracy.

Anyway, you say there would've been ways to make it work like Australia and New Zealand did, despite the massive differences between them and us. Like what?

I don’t propose to know everything about how the country functions but just letting people fly in from all over the world was stupid. We know it wasn’t handled well. Unless you think it was?

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