Boyfriends kink

Is it anything that involves hamsters

If part of his fetish is being degraded or breaking a taboo with shame connotations then he's getting off on messaging you about it.
Either he thinks you are into it to and he's excited.
Or he thinks you are repulsed by it. And he's excited by that.
Or a combination of both.
Either way he's really not thinking about you as much more than a prop or facilitator.

Yes, that's definitely what it sounds like.

He/she/they/them/fido are enjoying it?

But why are you still talking to this man? He's manipulating you, knocking down all your boundaries, sending you photos that you find repulsive, taking no notice of your reaction... Why are you putting yourself through this?

This - no need to make it into a drama, if it is a simple misunderstanding. But if he keeps pushing, you may need to end contact.

Agree.

Embarrassed on an anonymous forum. Nah.

So him saying he was "ashamed" was totally BS. He is not ashamed. He just wanted an opening for the topic and now he has created one, he will just keep pestering you untill you give in.

I'd say, dump this manipulative asshole.

This would piss me off, mainly becuase I eould be thinking ffs I have enough to do without managing your penis as well. Manage your own bloody penis.

This is a toxic situation, OP. Please end it.

Make it clear you don’t consent to these communications.

Is it a cock cage? That’s the only thing I can think he’s wearing which you’d be embarrassed to name…

Op you need to be totally blunt. Tell him straight. My long term partner has some political views I disagree with and when the subject come up I stright say ' I will not talk with you on this topic. I do not agree with your views although you have every right to hold them as an individual and talk to someone else about them. Just not me as ai do not want to talk with you about this'. You have to be direct. Set your boundaries with no grey areas. You are currently being coy around this with him and he might be thinking you are playing some weird catch me if you can game with him. The longer you drag this out the worse it will get. Message him and ask him if you can speak in the phone then say exactly what you mean to him. No grey areas or saying, Im not 'sure' im into that, or I dont 'think' im into that. No grey areas.

Re suicidal threats, it's his responsibility to keep himself alive not yours. Forget the softly softly approach and tell him to FUCK OFF!!!!

You can't give him hints. Consent - whether to pictures, sexts or intimacy - to people like this is the absence of No, not the presence of Yes. That is not your fault, he is coercing and manipulating you into his kink, but now you know that you need to be blunt with him. He is going to bulldoze over anything else, because the only thing that matters to him is his own gratification. He is not your friend.

Sigh

Oh i can answer this one, it's where you just lay there while your partner does all the work 🤭🤭

Kind of like laying back snd thinking of England, except you enjoy it

He's pushy and he's not going to forget about this. He only cares about what he wants. Tell him he's put you off.

He wants to recreate Bone-Knee M doesn’t he.

Be brave op? Just Say No. No more - mention it again once and we are DONE

@Lavenderfarmcottage what’s pillow princess sex - don’t want to google

These people need mental health professionals.

He is Stefonknee mark II? 😧

https://archive.ph/lAtbf

Since last night, you now have 14 pages of responses. I trust that most women have steered you in the right direction!

Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos

its not exactly gentlemanly behaviour and is ignoring my signals

This is what a fetish is OP. It's a type of fixation that almost goes beyond sexual gratification.

It's not gentlemanly behaviour, because he is in a cloud of fantasy right now. He thinks he doesn't have to inhibit himself around you, and it's probably heightened by the fact he might even think he has a chance to do his kink with you on a regular basis given that you both were thinking of getting together.

Run for the hills OP. With your personality, do not knowingly put yourself in a position where you are likely going to get ground down by this or guilt tripped into it. The fact that you thought of yourself as some kind of bitch in one of your posts is alarming and further sign that you should steer very clear of him.

Stay away from him even if he suggests that you two can still be together but he'll never bring it up again. I can guarantee that he will, even if he didn't do so previously as now he knows that you know. He will get resentful that you won't cater to his needs one day, or he will pay for someone who will.

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