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Boyfriends kink

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Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 22:27

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

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Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 15:15

Well excuse me for breathing! Obviously I’ve touched a nerve!!!

SamVan · 10/11/2024 15:14

Based on all the hints OP has dropped I’m pretty sure he wants to dress up as a female baby and wear a diaper. 🤮

Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 15:06

Lmao, you’ve got everyone trying to guess his kink. Including me. It’s hilarious. I don’t think you’re that shy using the word pricktease. I could never use that word on a girl. It’s a terrible thing to call a girl/woman. He wants to spank you doesn’t he?

VeritableChestnut · 10/11/2024 15:06

LeatherJacketWedding · 10/11/2024 15:05

Explains him being ashamed too 🤣

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LeatherJacketWedding · 10/11/2024 15:05

Didactylos · 10/11/2024 14:46

Its cycling, isnt it?
Whenever an OP posts a thread about a middle aged partners hobby/interest that is taking over his life and impinging on her time/boundaries/goodwill /their relationship, its always cycling, no matter how much she tries to disguise or anonymise the problem.

After viewing some of the suggestions on here, this is what I am firmly choosing to believe. Its cycling and the photo was of him in lycra, or his new brakes or waterbottle or something.

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Explains him being ashamed too 🤣

LeatherJacketWedding · 10/11/2024 15:03

VeritableChestnut · 10/11/2024 15:01

OP has described it as being an “out there” sexual kink. Riding around on a bicycle, whilst wearing dedicated sportswear, can hardly be described as such. Why is MN so anti-cyclist?

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VeritableChestnut · 10/11/2024 15:01

Didactylos · 10/11/2024 14:46

Its cycling, isnt it?
Whenever an OP posts a thread about a middle aged partners hobby/interest that is taking over his life and impinging on her time/boundaries/goodwill /their relationship, its always cycling, no matter how much she tries to disguise or anonymise the problem.

After viewing some of the suggestions on here, this is what I am firmly choosing to believe. Its cycling and the photo was of him in lycra, or his new brakes or waterbottle or something.

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OP has described it as being an “out there” sexual kink. Riding around on a bicycle, whilst wearing dedicated sportswear, can hardly be described as such. Why is MN so anti-cyclist?

HappyNewYear2027 · 10/11/2024 14:56

Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 14:48

He wants to spank you! lol. . It’s a very very common kink. For both men and women, believe it or not women love to receive it and dish it out! I got a little in it myself. And I’m very vanilla! TMI. lol.

We're interested in OPs ex friends kink, not yours

Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 14:48

He wants to spank you! lol. . It’s a very very common kink. For both men and women, believe it or not women love to receive it and dish it out! I got a little in it myself. And I’m very vanilla! TMI. lol.

Didactylos · 10/11/2024 14:46

Its cycling, isnt it?
Whenever an OP posts a thread about a middle aged partners hobby/interest that is taking over his life and impinging on her time/boundaries/goodwill /their relationship, its always cycling, no matter how much she tries to disguise or anonymise the problem.

After viewing some of the suggestions on here, this is what I am firmly choosing to believe. Its cycling and the photo was of him in lycra, or his new brakes or waterbottle or something.

User54614664 · 10/11/2024 14:41

OP if it's really the human baby scenario then that is often an indication of much deeper baggage then just a "kink". It usually means the person has experienced serious trauma at some point in their life, usually childhood. It's also an uncomfortable fact that not all trauma survivors break the cycle. Many end up perpetrating the abuse that was inflicted onto them, and by the sound of your description, this man already displays a lot of aggressive and manipulative behaviour.

This is a lot more than indulging a kink or respecting boundaries. This sounds like a very troubled individual with potential to do a lot of harm not just to you but potentially your children or grandchildren if you allow him to stay in your life.

Edit: Wanted to add that the Furry fandom is usually a bit more harmless but people with a fursona or fur kink tend to be neurodivergent. The percentage of ND people in the furry scene is much higher the general population (at least 80%). It's probably related to the neurodivergent experience of being to relate more easily to animals than humans. However just like the baby thing, more serious furries are usually also people who have gone through trauma or abuse and use their fursona to "split" into a different character. It's a coping mechanism of creating a new identity for themselves and also means that person requires a lot of emotional support outside of their 'kink".

YourRubyLion · 10/11/2024 14:33

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 14:01

I thought furries were more cosplay?

So its not furry, its either baby or cock cage!!

Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 14:29

Oh ffs, Never heard that one before, it’s cracking me up. Lmao!🤣

WellHelloScottie · 10/11/2024 14:19

Bitty anyone?

ThreeTescoBags · 10/11/2024 14:07

SpanielLarusso · 10/11/2024 13:58

Is he a furry, or does he want to dress up as an adult baby?

I do wonder if any woman has ever been turned on by the adult baby scenario. I realise it's kind if the point of a kink that it's something other people don't understand but I'd be amazed if any women were genuinely getting off on pretending to be a man's mum.

JimPanzee · 10/11/2024 14:01

LawyersWig · 10/11/2024 13:52

🤮

O.M.G. 🤢🤮🤢🤮

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 14:01

I thought furries were more cosplay?

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SpanielLarusso · 10/11/2024 13:58

Is he a furry, or does he want to dress up as an adult baby?

LawyersWig · 10/11/2024 13:52

🤮

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Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 13:52

oh,what’s his kink? More details please. Purely for informational purposes you understand….Only messing! 😊

sausagesforteaagain · 10/11/2024 13:43

But we mostly guessed baby versus furry versus cock cage ???

MumOfOneAllAlone · 10/11/2024 13:41

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 13:39

Sadly, most have guessed correctly.

Omg dressing up as a baby???

Oh My God Omg GIF by The Office
TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 13:40

295bkq · 10/11/2024 10:43

There is a fine line somewhere between kinky and perverted. He’s way over the line. I would get this ended now.

What's that old quote about erotically using a feather being kinky; whilst using the entire chicken is just perverted?!