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Kneebonefuture · 2024-11-09T22:27:53+00:00

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that. I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

Cerealkiller4U · 10/11/2024 16:42

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 02:43

Inflating testicles with saline? Buuuutttt....... whyyyy?! I saw a TV programme a few years back about a poor American man who had some kind of extreme health condition whereby his testicles just grew absolutely enormous. Considerably bigger than a football, iirc - a lot bigger, actually, I think. He had to wear a jumper as trousers and had great trouble walking and doing pretty much anything easily that most of us take for granted. Why anybody would ever actually choose something like that, just for sexual kicks, is insane (and likely very dangerous).

I've also heard on the grapevine of men who get off on women who inflate their bellies with air - not sure how they'd even do it, though; maybe by putting the hoover in reverse and sticking it in one or more orifices? Gross - and must be very harmful.

Not forgetting the classic MN thread that haunts me to this day, which featured a man (milkman? postman?) who went to a woman's house each morning and lay underneath her glass-topped coffee table to watch avidly and 'respond' accordingly whilst she squatted and curled one out into a Pyrex bowl on top of the table.

If you have a man for whom seeing you in a sexy matching underwear set in the bedroom is the pinnacle of his wildest desires, you probably need to at least count your blessings to an extent!

I’m on a medical gore page and I’ve recently seen someone who did this and it went very very wrong

apparrntly men want them big. Feels like a man if they do so

i remember the comments from women on the picture going but why? I don’t even look at a man and say oh big bollocks. Soooooo sexy.

it’s true? I mean if any women on here say they think big balls is the sexiest thing ever then I’ll eat my hat!

Melroses · 10/11/2024 16:40

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 16:05

Right ok. So many different names for things! I feel far too old and tired to be putting that much effort into getting your rocks off.

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There is always more to it than you are first told, and it always escalates.

Well done on dodging the bullet 👍

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 10/11/2024 16:37

It's really bothering you and you don't sound as if you want an intimate relationship with this man, OP. Best not go there.

Mamabearsmile · 10/11/2024 16:20

You do know how to word it, you just did above..."I'm not into that thanks". Sometimes people choose those whom they feel they can ease into their kinks, if it's not your thing say so and yes move on if it's becoming a thing. You deserve a warm loving person to raise your confidence not someone who wants to manipulate your gentle soul into an area of discomfort. It's a short life, don't waste it, I wish you your best life.

BettyBardMacDonald · 10/11/2024 16:20

He sounds pretty disgusting.

It's not the kink per se,it's the pestering, the pity party about how he's low and weird, the bringing it up at inappropriate times. It's not your responsibility to make him feel good/normal about his sexuality, nor is it your responsibility to gratify his fantasies.

He really sounds like a loser and I bet this is the TIP of the iceberg. Bin, bin, bin.

Nchanged89 · 10/11/2024 16:19

CustardySergeant · 10/11/2024 16:16

What reveal post?

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OP hasn't revealed.

CustardySergeant · 10/11/2024 16:16

Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 16:09

Didn’t see the reveal post till now , lol, whatever you do don’t let him piss in your mouth, or your coochie! I wish all the best for you, you gave me a good chuckle, thank you.

What reveal post?

SquirrelSoShiny · 10/11/2024 16:15

I still don't know what it is. Crossdressing? Cock cage? Gimp mask? Someone spell it out for me!

Whatever it is the thread made me cackle 😂

Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 16:09

Didn’t see the reveal post till now , lol, whatever you do don’t let him piss in your mouth, or your coochie! I wish all the best for you, you gave me a good chuckle, thank you.

Quintette · 10/11/2024 16:07

He likes wearing skirts.

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Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 16:05

TheAutopsyOfMNCorpus · 10/11/2024 15:59

They are probably referring to Sissification AKA forced feminisation. It is a hardcore humiliation fetish. It relates to AGP.

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Right ok. So many different names for things! I feel far too old and tired to be putting that much effort into getting your rocks off.

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TheAutopsyOfMNCorpus · 10/11/2024 15:59

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 15:32

What's the sissy stuff? Think I'm drawing a blank on that one

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They are probably referring to Sissification AKA forced feminisation. It is a hardcore humiliation fetish. It relates to AGP.

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Yerroblemom1923 · 10/11/2024 15:48

It's the baby thing, isn't it? He likes wearing nappies.
I'd be more concerned as to what has led to this "kink". He might be better seeing a therapist.

Imbusytodaysorry · 10/11/2024 15:46

Oops ignore me I am far too late to the party

Nchanged89 · 10/11/2024 15:38

Adult baby and nappies?

Imbusytodaysorry · 10/11/2024 15:34

I think from your original post. It’s unfair to put blame on him .
I re read and you weren’t clear that you didn’t like it. You laughed it off and didn’t seem too phased .

He thinks you’re a safe place he can have those talks with .
Id spell it out to him but tbh you are probably out off him now .
Best to end this one

VeritableChestnut · 10/11/2024 15:33

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 15:30

Well I dont find using the word pricktease awkward or difficult. I wasn't calling another girl or woman it though was I? I was referring to myself in a mocking manner. Completely different to explain at length about someone else's kink/hobby/ fantasy that I dont fully understand. I've said most people have guessed correctly. I dont think there's any need to further explain than that.

I'm grateful for all the Helpful replies and I was laughing so so hard last night and it really lightened the mood, plus I've sorted it now. I won't dirty delete despite the posts claiming I'm a fatasist, because I still think most of the thread is hilarious.

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I’m guessing it’s not cycling then?

Nchanged89 · 10/11/2024 15:32

Cross dressing then?

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Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 15:32

katseyes7 · 10/11/2024 15:17

I met someone about twelve years ago.
He was gorgeous, and l knew from his social media that he was into cross dressing. To be honest, he did look good as his alter ego, he told me that he'd actually been in pubs with a group of female friends, some of his football mates had been at the bar next to them and none of them twigged.
I've been out with a couple of men who wore/wear makeup (musicians, and it was usually stage makeup, the first one was in the 70s when it was really full on), so I thought l was okay with that.
He was amazing in bed. Totally unselfish, just incredible.
Never as his alter ego, though, although l suspect that may have come up sooner or later, and l was a bit unsure about that. I'm straight and not interested in women, so l was a bit wary how it would be with him as that 'persona'.
BUT.... then he came up with the 'sissy' stuff. Sent me a few videos and quite honestly it gave me the creeps. Each to their own, if it doesn't bother you, but it did me. I hated it. So l called it a day. Which was a shame, he was lovely, but no, not for me at all.
If whatever his 'kink' is isn't for you, OP, walk away before you get involved.
I think you'll just get more and more uncomfortable as time goes on, or worse.
Also, if he's constantly 'pushing it' at you now, he's not going to stop. It's going to escalate.

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What's the sissy stuff? Think I'm drawing a blank on that one

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Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 15:30

Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 15:06

Lmao, you’ve got everyone trying to guess his kink. Including me. It’s hilarious. I don’t think you’re that shy using the word pricktease. I could never use that word on a girl. It’s a terrible thing to call a girl/woman. He wants to spank you doesn’t he?

Well I dont find using the word pricktease awkward or difficult. I wasn't calling another girl or woman it though was I? I was referring to myself in a mocking manner. Completely different to explain at length about someone else's kink/hobby/ fantasy that I dont fully understand. I've said most people have guessed correctly. I dont think there's any need to further explain than that.

I'm grateful for all the Helpful replies and I was laughing so so hard last night and it really lightened the mood, plus I've sorted it now. I won't dirty delete despite the posts claiming I'm a fatasist, because I still think most of the thread is hilarious.

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twentysevendresses · 10/11/2024 15:25

Courgettesandonions · 09/11/2024 23:48

This thread. Christ I feel so lucky that my partner just gets off on seeing my tits.

Same! A quick flash of my boobs and he's a very happy man 🥰

BrightYellowDaffodil · 10/11/2024 15:25

Didactylos · 10/11/2024 14:46

Its cycling, isnt it?
Whenever an OP posts a thread about a middle aged partners hobby/interest that is taking over his life and impinging on her time/boundaries/goodwill /their relationship, its always cycling, no matter how much she tries to disguise or anonymise the problem.

After viewing some of the suggestions on here, this is what I am firmly choosing to believe. Its cycling and the photo was of him in lycra, or his new brakes or waterbottle or something.

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katseyes7 · 10/11/2024 15:17

I met someone about twelve years ago.
He was gorgeous, and l knew from his social media that he was into cross dressing. To be honest, he did look good as his alter ego, he told me that he'd actually been in pubs with a group of female friends, some of his football mates had been at the bar next to them and none of them twigged.
I've been out with a couple of men who wore/wear makeup (musicians, and it was usually stage makeup, the first one was in the 70s when it was really full on), so I thought l was okay with that.
He was amazing in bed. Totally unselfish, just incredible.
Never as his alter ego, though, although l suspect that may have come up sooner or later, and l was a bit unsure about that. I'm straight and not interested in women, so l was a bit wary how it would be with him as that 'persona'.
BUT.... then he came up with the 'sissy' stuff. Sent me a few videos and quite honestly it gave me the creeps. Each to their own, if it doesn't bother you, but it did me. I hated it. So l called it a day. Which was a shame, he was lovely, but no, not for me at all.
If whatever his 'kink' is isn't for you, OP, walk away before you get involved.
I think you'll just get more and more uncomfortable as time goes on, or worse.
Also, if he's constantly 'pushing it' at you now, he's not going to stop. It's going to escalate.

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SquirrelSoShiny · 10/11/2024 15:17

Is it the baby thing? It would take over your life and he would keep demanding further compliance. Grim and sad.