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Boyfriends kink

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Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 22:27

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

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Cosmo676 · 10/11/2024 18:22

fourelementary · 09/11/2024 22:37

Hey Friend
a bit awkward, but I wanted you to know that -insert link here- isn’t my thing at all. I didn’t want you to feel bad and put yourself down about it when you first told me, as it’s up to you what you like and no harm is being done so each to their own. However this didn’t mean it was something I’d like to hear about or be involved in. No big deal though, just wanted to clear this up.
Speak soon… etc.

This! Great response. Clear and kind

Flavourful · 10/11/2024 18:21

If it’s giving you the ick thinking about it and him mentioning why the hell has he not picked up on your demeanour when he’s going in?
you really need to just say “stop” when he’s mid sentence, and then say I can’t do this, sorry, when you first said about this I was like well it takes all sorts , different people different ways, but the way you’re going on has actually made me see that’s not for me so I won’t be going there, it’s not a good idea, now please don’t mention it again.
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Laura95167 · 10/11/2024 18:10

I'm so curious - what is it?

I'd just say or text regardless, I don't think you need to be ashamed of liking it, but I don't and tbh if it's a deal breaker I think we're better staying friends.

Itoldyousoo · 10/11/2024 18:08

Don't tell me he was wanting her to change his nappies FFS? 😂

S4uk · 10/11/2024 18:07

violentovulation · 10/11/2024 17:33

Adult baby diaper lover, I'm guessing. Probably likes to dress as a sissy at the same time and piss himself inside out.

My guess as well!

2Sensitive · 10/11/2024 18:05

"It's not my thing but each to their own "

MattandNat69 · 10/11/2024 17:52

It depends how open your conversations are. My wife and I know that we can ask absolutely anything of the other (sexually or not) and we are both free to agree or disagree with the others request. If it's a yes we'll try it. If it's a no then we just move on with no drama at all. That's the kind of relationship you need. One where you know you can ask or decline a request with absolutely no problem at all.

Maybe we're just lucky?

Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 17:49

Now you’ve blocked him He’s just gonna have to piss in the toilet now like Normal people! 😂

Nchanged89 · 10/11/2024 17:49

SquirrelSoShiny · 10/11/2024 17:00

Maybe the OP is the kinkster and their kink is 'getting online strangers overly invested in an imaginary kink' Grin

Haha you never know!

violentovulation · 10/11/2024 17:33

Adult baby diaper lover, I'm guessing. Probably likes to dress as a sissy at the same time and piss himself inside out.

KookyAzureFish · 10/11/2024 17:24

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HeadacheEarthquake · 10/11/2024 17:13

I mean it's obviously adult baby stuff

SaffronMilkCap · 10/11/2024 17:06

SquirrelSoShiny · 10/11/2024 16:56

What is the kink?

She's still not saying. I don't know why? Is quite happy talking about kinks but won't name it. Bizarre.

SquirrelSoShiny · 10/11/2024 17:00

Nchanged89 · 10/11/2024 16:57

Yeah what is the kink, are you actually going to say?

Maybe the OP is the kinkster and their kink is 'getting online strangers overly invested in an imaginary kink' Grin

MumOfOneAllAlone · 10/11/2024 16:59

Cerealkiller4U · 10/11/2024 16:42

I’m on a medical gore page and I’ve recently seen someone who did this and it went very very wrong

apparrntly men want them big. Feels like a man if they do so

i remember the comments from women on the picture going but why? I don’t even look at a man and say oh big bollocks. Soooooo sexy.

it’s true? I mean if any women on here say they think big balls is the sexiest thing ever then I’ll eat my hat!

I think a nice, waxed, balanced pair is important - with a nice sized appendage in front of it

You don't want the balls to be too small though 🤭🤭🤭

Nchanged89 · 10/11/2024 16:57

Yeah what is the kink, are you actually going to say?

SquirrelSoShiny · 10/11/2024 16:56

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 16:53

Yes I think there is a lot of confusion, I think most people into it are the one who is the "baby" they don't want their partner to be the baby. And its usually to be taken care of, so a form of regression i think.

What is the kink?

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 16:53

Cerealkiller4U · 10/11/2024 16:47

No. They’re not doing it for that

its control. They’re usually in high powered jobs and want someone to look after tjem

my mother was a criminal psychologist.

Yes I think there is a lot of confusion, I think most people into it are the one who is the "baby" they don't want their partner to be the baby. And its usually to be taken care of, so a form of regression i think.

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Jfdomega · 10/11/2024 16:52

Idontgiveashitanymore · 10/11/2024 09:34

Just be honest and tell him that you’re not interested and it’s not your thing !

I just have to say it, i like your username. Very good! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Cerealkiller4U · 10/11/2024 16:51

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 11:18

Is that really what happens? I know someone's wife that does it and she's said the same, but I thought she was exaggerating 😬

Friend of mine met a man who she had a romance with and got married

shortly after the wedding he came out as transgender and she once confided in me how she wanted to leave and how she’d never wanted to marry a woman

so I’ve known it happen. Sometimes it’s just got to be a no.

Cerealkiller4U · 10/11/2024 16:50

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 10:45

I was literally responding to the comment about name changing?

Because my post isn't about the kink specifically, I just wanted advice on whether to just back off or call him out. I already know what the majority of people think about the kink and ive no interest in shaming people who are into at length. It's nothing illegal or abusive.

Thanks for your not so helpful comments, I find you quite rude. I won't be reading or responding to anymore of yours.

listen. As long is it’s not involving underage or animals and everyone involved are giving permission

then I don’t see a problem if it’s weird.

Cerealkiller4U · 10/11/2024 16:47

Namechangey23 · 10/11/2024 07:04

Eww. Do people really do this? It's sexualising babies and things to do with babies. So so gross. Surely it's one small step away from being a paedophile?! Surely any sane women not being paid or drugged to do this would run a billion miles from this? Just horrible!

No. They’re not doing it for that

its control. They’re usually in high powered jobs and want someone to look after tjem

my mother was a criminal psychologist.

Quintette · 10/11/2024 16:44

It’s PVC and latex.

Cerealkiller4U · 10/11/2024 16:44

kittensinthekitchen · 10/11/2024 03:14

Why are so many women unable to tell men that they aren't into something? How can you let someone you can't even have a conversation with put his dick inside you?
Is it fear? Is it the fear of what men will do if women say no?

100%

I agree. Someone once told me they found something off putting. It was something about either borrowing his toothbrush and how she thought it was grim and I said. But you kiss and have sex right?

I don’t understand why people won’t talk to people about stuff

you put yourself in the more incredibly vulnerable situation of having sex with someone but can’t talk to them? I don’t get it!

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