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Boyfriends kink

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Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 22:27

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

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Pisssflapps · 09/11/2024 23:18

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MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:18

Pisssflapps · 09/11/2024 23:17

Come on OP!

Dresses up as Mr tumble and wants a spanking!!!

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Itdoesntendwellatall · 09/11/2024 23:17

French maid, complete with stockings and a wig?

I went through a similar thing with a male friend. I told him to stop. It's not my scene and is spoiling the friendship. I haven't heard from him since which is great as I wasn't looking forward to telling him to fuck off.

GivingitToGod · 09/11/2024 23:17

Spagettifunctional · 09/11/2024 22:33

If it’s not your thing then he’s not the one for you either for something casual or serious

just say to him you are not wanting anything at the moment - I wouldn’t really embarrass him or that but you could say you are on different wavelengths

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PickAChew · 09/11/2024 23:17

FFS, we don't need to know what it is.

Just make it clear that you're not interested, @Kneebonefuture and that he has mistaken your not being bothered that he has the kink with being actively enthusiastic about it so can he please stop for the sake of your friendship.

Pisssflapps · 09/11/2024 23:17

Come on OP!

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Lancastrienne · 09/11/2024 23:16

Agp

rayofsunshine86 · 09/11/2024 23:16

Is he a furry?

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:15

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:14

I'm not going to lie, its not that but he is into that aswel

Omggg 🤭🤭, free yourself from him girl

CandyCane457 · 09/11/2024 23:15

You don’t need to die of embarrassment, this is an annonymous forum, just say it!

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:15

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:13

Omg its will Arnett !!!!

Great actor - disgusting man

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Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:14

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:13

Omg Omg yes he's dressed up as a woman sissy

I'm not going to lie, its not that but he is into that aswel

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serendipity70 · 09/11/2024 23:14

Got to be wearing women's stockings!

Pisssflapps · 09/11/2024 23:13

Gifs are wild

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thistimelastweek · 09/11/2024 23:13

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:07

Absolutely not. Can you image the photos lol

Sorry I'm not being a prick tease. I just can't even talk about what it is. I'd die of embarrassment

Which is worse?
You die of embarrassment, we die of curiosity?

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:13

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:12

You're right tbh, piss and a third party?

What if he likes to get caught and wants to get caught by his parents, like this guy from sex and the city?

Marked as sensitive because the character gives me the absolute ick

Omg its will Arnett !!!!

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MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:13

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:10

The last message I had was a photo and then "how do I look" like as if he wants a compliment and he's proud.

Omg Omg yes he's dressed up as a woman sissy

Cerealkiller4U · 09/11/2024 23:12

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Hmm. Dressing up? Some type of shaving?

dress up? Latex?

im just throwing something out

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:12

Cerealkiller4U · 09/11/2024 23:10

That’s not out there at all though.

You're right tbh, piss and a third party?

What if he likes to get caught and wants to get caught by his parents, like this guy from sex and the city?

Marked as sensitive because the character gives me the absolute ick

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Pisssflapps · 09/11/2024 23:12

Dressing up as a sissy/femboy?

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:12

NinaLively · 09/11/2024 23:10

Starting to think OP is trolling us now.

Lol I really wish I was

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CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 09/11/2024 23:12

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Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:11

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 09/11/2024 23:10

It's basically now compulsory that you tell us 🤣

When he next messages about it just say "omg bob can you stop going on about dogging? I don't judge you for it but it's not something I want to talk about"

Thats a good idea, and sounds like something I'd say. I've been so panicky about it I couldn't even come up with that as a message.

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NinaLively · 09/11/2024 23:10

Starting to think OP is trolling us now.

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:10

The last message I had was a photo and then "how do I look" like as if he wants a compliment and he's proud.

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