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Boyfriends kink

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Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 22:27

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

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Mumtobabyhavoc · 10/11/2024 00:09

The true kink is talking about it when you are obviously not interested and uncomfortable. On that basis, I'd say "get rid" and no need to explain. Just ghost, block and avoid.

Itoldyousoo · 10/11/2024 00:08

Does he like to dress as Margaret Thatcher or the Queen?

Itoldyousoo · 10/11/2024 00:08

@MumOfOneAllAlone 😂😂

Pisssflapps · 10/11/2024 00:07

Does he give himself enemas and film it?

FFS Op its saturday night, the HRT is kicked in and everyone is high off strictly.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 10/11/2024 00:06

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:59

Well this pic, was a close up and you couldn't even see him in it. So I just said well I can't really see you in it.

Hes the kind of person who doesn't send a long message he'll send several messages in a row. So its been quite easy to ignore questions and comments and just reply to other things he's said.

Ah got you

Hmm you can't really see him - so is the photo taken from long distance? Does he roam in fields and pretend to be a cow

Doliveira · 10/11/2024 00:04

Courgettesandonions · 09/11/2024 23:48

This thread. Christ I feel so lucky that my partner just gets off on seeing my tits.

Same! Best possible partner ⭐️🫶🏽😍

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 00:02

Itoldyousoo · 10/11/2024 00:01

" see him in it " so it's something he wears. He also likes wearing stockings at times so .....? I really can't thing of anything that is any worse than what has already been mentioned.

No see him in it was in reference to the photo

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Itoldyousoo · 10/11/2024 00:01

" see him in it " so it's something he wears. He also likes wearing stockings at times so .....? I really can't thing of anything that is any worse than what has already been mentioned.

Itoldyousoo · 09/11/2024 23:59

How about a diagram?

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:59

SisSuffragette · 09/11/2024 23:56

Really, why?

Oh I should correct the post, I meant great actor, disgusting character

He was a guy in sex and the city that miranda dated - could only get it up in places they might get caught

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:59

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:56

Yeah, what do you say to them? 😄

Well this pic, was a close up and you couldn't even see him in it. So I just said well I can't really see you in it.

Hes the kind of person who doesn't send a long message he'll send several messages in a row. So its been quite easy to ignore questions and comments and just reply to other things he's said.

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295bkq · 09/11/2024 23:59

I really think you should find a man like Courgettesandonions describes and get the fuck away from this one. Non judgement has gone way too far.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:58

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:55

Oops don't want to turn on the boyfriend

😄😄😄

Pizzatrip · 09/11/2024 23:57

OP, put us out of our misery - is it adult baby??! Blink once for yes, twice for no 👶🏻 😉

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:56

VivianLea · 09/11/2024 23:54

So when he sends you a photo and asks if he looks good, what do you say?

Yeah, what do you say to them? 😄

SisSuffragette · 09/11/2024 23:56

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:15

Great actor - disgusting man

Really, why?

Sawlt · 09/11/2024 23:56

You need to tell him 100% no.

A friend in similar situation, she just giggled when he showed her & talked about his kink, which was just on display in his bedroom she did this on on few occasions.

Then found herself in situation where she felt SA. Bbut instead of speaking up, she giggled and found self in situation didn’t want be in.

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:55

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:55

I'm wetting myself!

Oops don't want to turn on the boyfriend

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MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:55

Pisssflapps · 09/11/2024 23:52

Toilet brush handle up the old back eye. Or a barbie doll.

Hmm, something from the kitchen I feel, like a carrot or cucumber (depending on experience obvs)

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:55

TwattyMcFuckFace · 09/11/2024 23:53

You've been used to the kind of bloke that gets off on seeing @Courgettesandonions tits?

😁

I'm wetting myself!

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VivianLea · 09/11/2024 23:54

So when he sends you a photo and asks if he looks good, what do you say?

HappyNewYear2027 · 09/11/2024 23:54

I wish that was the only role play kink. Honestly that one isn't really that bad in comparison.

That was in reply to @Pisssflapps
For some reason the quote didn't work

TwattyMcFuckFace · 09/11/2024 23:53

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:50

That's the kind of bloke I've been used to.

You've been used to the kind of bloke that gets off on seeing @Courgettesandonions tits?

😁

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:52

User364837 · 09/11/2024 23:52

I think he’s got very excited that he thinks he might potentially be able to do it with you.

and/or one of his (seemingly many!) kinks whether consciously or subconsciously is pushing boundaries, and probably just talking to you about it, sending you pics, etc is a big turn on for him maybe even more so if you’re not that into it.

Eugh thats really giving flasher vibes

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Pisssflapps · 09/11/2024 23:52

MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/11/2024 23:51

I got such a clear image of the long suffering wife

Toilet brush handle up the old back eye. Or a barbie doll.

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