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Boyfriends kink

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Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 22:27

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

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Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:35

@Kneebonefuture it's got to be a close up of his arsehole or his bollocks. Got to be. Dirty little bastard.

Pisssflapps · 10/11/2024 00:34

Marrow up the ringpiece? Food fetish

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:34

@Pusheen467 Gonzo from the muppets

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Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 00:33

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:33

@Kneebonefuture you don't half know how to pick them 😂😂

So not being able to tell it's him, is it cos the camera is close up? Or too far away?

Giz a clue...

Close up

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Pusheen467 · 10/11/2024 00:33

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 00:32

I actually did have a bf who did that! He once wrapped a hanky around it and pretended it was a cape. Just as a joke, not a kink.

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A guy I was messing around with had a bow tie for his 😂

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:33

@Kneebonefuture you don't half know how to pick them 😂😂

So not being able to tell it's him, is it cos the camera is close up? Or too far away?

Giz a clue...

Pusheen467 · 10/11/2024 00:33

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:31

A close up where you can't see him in it, but it's role play.

Does he dress his cock and balls up as characters, OP?

The Grinch
The scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz
Pingu
The Joker
James Bond

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Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 00:32

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:31

A close up where you can't see him in it, but it's role play.

Does he dress his cock and balls up as characters, OP?

I actually did have a bf who did that! He once wrapped a hanky around it and pretended it was a cape. Just as a joke, not a kink.

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Pisssflapps · 10/11/2024 00:32

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:27

I wonder if it might be a close-up of a body part that, erm, isn't nearly as clean as it could be?

Not sure I actually want to know now, not gonna lie.

Like a geet big prolapsed anus?

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:32

@TheHangingGardensOfBasildon absolutely howling 😂😂😂😂

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:31

A close up where you can't see him in it, but it's role play.

Does he dress his cock and balls up as characters, OP?

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:31

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:28

Mine always says he would like more blowjobs (wouldn't they all) and I roll my eyes and tell him to be quiet.

Quite relieved that's all he asks for now tbh.

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Quite. At least he's not asking you to stick a baguette up into his fundament and call him Marie Antoinette.

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Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 00:29

I'm far too deep into this thread now to say what it is, from fear of being guilty by association.

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Pusheen467 · 10/11/2024 00:29

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:27

I wonder if it might be a close-up of a body part that, erm, isn't nearly as clean as it could be?

Not sure I actually want to know now, not gonna lie.

OP made a comment when someone said they were pissing themselves laughing about not wanting to turn on her bf so I reckon it's a close up of a pissy nappy.

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:28

Courgettesandonions · 09/11/2024 23:48

This thread. Christ I feel so lucky that my partner just gets off on seeing my tits.

Mine always says he would like more blowjobs (wouldn't they all) and I roll my eyes and tell him to be quiet.

Quite relieved that's all he asks for now tbh.

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:27

I wonder if it might be a close-up of a body part that, erm, isn't nearly as clean as it could be?

Not sure I actually want to know now, not gonna lie.

Pisssflapps · 10/11/2024 00:23

OP mentions a close up. And role play.

I thought id seen it all but I cant guess this one if its not something already mentioned.

welshmuma · 10/11/2024 00:23

fourelementary · 09/11/2024 22:37

Hey Friend
a bit awkward, but I wanted you to know that -insert link here- isn’t my thing at all. I didn’t want you to feel bad and put yourself down about it when you first told me, as it’s up to you what you like and no harm is being done so each to their own. However this didn’t mean it was something I’d like to hear about or be involved in. No big deal though, just wanted to clear this up.
Speak soon… etc.

Hit the nail on the head hear ^
If it's not you , you just need to be honest about it. It's not your fault that the miscommunication happened as you were trying to be kind but better to 'come clean' so to speak sooner rather than later or you'll just continue in these unwanted conversations and picture exchanges.
I've got to be honest if his kink isn't your thing, it's probably not going to be a good match sexually anyway xx

Pusheen467 · 10/11/2024 00:22

I'm starting to think OP's kink is making people on MN suffer.

Pisssflapps · 10/11/2024 00:19

Stone me , showing our age here.

Would you like me........... to be the cat?

Here puss puss. I once met Rula Lenska. She was tall as fook

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Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 00:18

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:17

<really desperately trying not to think of George Galloway>

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Omg! Iconic!

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TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:17

Pisssflapps · 10/11/2024 00:13

Other than a clown, a baby, a woman, a gimp what else do men dress up as?

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<really desperately trying not to think of George Galloway>

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:16

Icepinkeskimo · 09/11/2024 23:49

I’m sorry OP but some of the suggestions to what might be the kink are fantastic 🤣.
I’ve recently noticed something. I work in a medical setting let me just say some of the admissions due to shall we say “kinky play” that gone wrong are on the rise.
Literally sometimes I think you have got to be f*ing kidding me. However each to their own, what I don’t understand is when the admission is accompanied by the wife/partner/significant other. Most times they sit there prim and proper, as if a broken glass bottle inside a rectum is normal.

You may mock, but it's surprisingly easy to be walking downstairs naked, slip on the loose carpet just after your hamster has got loose from its cage and made a run for it and then, next thing you know, poor little Harold has plunged face-first into the mystic.

Pisssflapps · 10/11/2024 00:13

HappyNewYear2027 · 09/11/2024 23:54

I wish that was the only role play kink. Honestly that one isn't really that bad in comparison.

That was in reply to @Pisssflapps
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Other than a clown, a baby, a woman, a gimp what else do men dress up as?

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:12

YourRubyLion · 09/11/2024 23:48

I was dating a guy once and for a joke on the third date I joked about being spanked by a paddle. It was, I thought a funny joke about something i would not even ever want to do. It was a complete throwaway comment that I didnt think twice about. Next date he brings me a lovely gift bag with a proper paddle for sex games. I was mortified and gave it back. We were, I then found out sexually imcompatible as he was into really kinky stuff and I discovered I am quite prudish. We broke up shortly after . The moral is that you need to be honest with him and yourself as to where your boundaries are. If whatever his kinks are you will not ever participate in then tell him and he can make a decision as it might be something that is important to him sexually. You can tell him you respect his choices and have nothing against them but you do not want to ever participate. Then you can both decide if you want to continue. Honesty is key here, for some reasin he has the wrong idea and you need to set him straight

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