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Boyfriends kink

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Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 22:27

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

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Caerulea · 10/11/2024 02:30

ACapybaraNamedFred · 10/11/2024 02:17

Oh for the love of puppies, why ??? Why are things like this a thing??

You've met men, right?

ACapybaraNamedFred · 10/11/2024 02:26

QueenBitch666 · 10/11/2024 02:21

@ACapybaraNamedFred let's face it. Anything the OP has suggested is going to be tame to what's been suggested!
And yes, it's a thing 😳

Euwww! Envy (not envy)

QueenBitch666 · 10/11/2024 02:21

@ACapybaraNamedFred let's face it. Anything the OP has suggested is going to be tame to what's been suggested!
And yes, it's a thing 😳

ACapybaraNamedFred · 10/11/2024 02:17

QueenBitch666 · 10/11/2024 02:16

A huge bollock fetish? Induced by a subcutaneous saline infusion. It's a thing, allegedly 😬

Oh for the love of puppies, why ??? Why are things like this a thing??

QueenBitch666 · 10/11/2024 02:16

A huge bollock fetish? Induced by a subcutaneous saline infusion. It's a thing, allegedly 😬

Citygirl17 · 10/11/2024 02:15

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 00:35

It wasn't i promise. It was just something he was wearing.

Had to be a tutu.

ACapybaraNamedFred · 10/11/2024 02:05

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:31

Quite. At least he's not asking you to stick a baguette up into his fundament and call him Marie Antoinette.

"Let them eat cack!"

Cerealkiller4U · 10/11/2024 02:00

Know it

dresses up as a baby!!!! Wants you to feed him and change his nappy?

DaftyLass · 10/11/2024 02:00

I guess he is into restraints on himself, so either cock ring/harness/gimp wear type thing

ACapybaraNamedFred · 10/11/2024 01:58

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 00:32

I actually did have a bf who did that! He once wrapped a hanky around it and pretended it was a cape. Just as a joke, not a kink.

I mean this kindly, but where do you go that you keep meeting these weirdos? It's kind of scary to think that these bellends walk amongst us.

Notaurewhy · 10/11/2024 01:44

I'm pretty liberal and we've seen a range of "experiences" here. Only you know if you are comfortable with it and you've rightly said you will tell him to knock it on the head. Be very clear, do not say thanks or sorry. Say something like; "Hi please don't send me these sorts of photos. It's not my cup of tea". It leave is open for a conversation if you want it but your kone is drawn. His reaction will tell you everything. If he persists leave this man from 15 years ago well in the past.

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 01:22

All joking aside, he really needs to be under no illusions at all that your boundaries matter, and that he cannot dictate to you what he wants you to tolerate, so that he can get off on it.

Even if his 'kink' were the tamest, most harmless vanilla thing ever, that still doesn't give him any right whatsoever to sexual (or any other) contact with you if you don't expressly and freely consent to it.

Kneebonefuture · 10/11/2024 01:12

Beesandhoney123 · 10/11/2024 01:08

You must be dreading meeting up in person. Also he knows you aren't interested in his dress up - if its 1 or 2 in the earlier list, whats against the law to dress up as? A police officer?

Before it goes any further tell him you aren't interested in x and will never do it.

I really badly don't see how meeting up can happen now, hes made it seem like its something that's going to happen between us and its a big no from me.

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Beesandhoney123 · 10/11/2024 01:08

You must be dreading meeting up in person. Also he knows you aren't interested in his dress up - if its 1 or 2 in the earlier list, whats against the law to dress up as? A police officer?

Before it goes any further tell him you aren't interested in x and will never do it.

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 01:05

Is it harem pants?

oakleaffy · 10/11/2024 01:02

Kneebonefuture · 09/11/2024 23:14

I'm not going to lie, its not that but he is into that aswel

Oh goodness...That's SUCH a revolting turnoff. Probably poos and pees into a nappy while wanting you to smack him.

WafflesOrIceCream · 10/11/2024 01:02

Gimp suit!!

Reserved101 · 10/11/2024 00:57

A chastity cage?

lucylulululu · 10/11/2024 00:56

He's a furry isn't he...

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:53

Does he dress up as Scrappy Doo and spend a lot of time in Clacton?

NigelHarmansNewWife · 10/11/2024 00:52

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:50

I said these fuckers irritate me on Tik Tok once. Someone got all up in my grill (digitally) and called me ugly and told me I'm not aging well.

I suspect he had extra curricular activities with his bicycle judging by how butt hurt he was.

As far as I can tell, these cyclist blokes are all about what they like doing...

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 10/11/2024 00:52

HappyNewYear2027 · 10/11/2024 00:48

At this point I'm thinking it either must be something absolutely horrifying like CBT or just plain ridiculous like multiple cock rings stacked up like the ring toss at the fair.

So you're suggesting that his Gladiator Name would be Hoopla - or, at a considerable push, HookADuck?!

Amybelle88 · 10/11/2024 00:51

HappyNewYear2027 · 10/11/2024 00:50

Just out of curiosity, his name doesn't begin with A does it?

Mic drop 🎤

Please make his name begin with A, pleaseeeeeee 🙏🏻

AdviceNeeded2024 · 10/11/2024 00:51

It’s a full on gimp suit complete with lead like the one in Pulp Fiction isn’t it…

And does he want to be walked on all fours and made to eat and drink out a dog bowl on the floor?

Pisssflapps · 10/11/2024 00:50

Happygogoat · 10/11/2024 00:49

It’s dressing as an animal isn’t it?!

i would say so but its been mentioned pages ago and no bites if you pardon the pun