Boyfriends kink

It’s a nappy isn’t it? He likes to dress as a baby

Farting in your mouth whilst dressed as Boris Johnson?

Just say:
“Sorry if I gave the wrong impression, and whilst I still think you shouldn’t feel ashamed of being into XXX, it isn’t something that interests me”. And leave it there. Either you will be important enough for him to stop mentioning it, or it’ll be something he’s so into that it will be a dealbreaker for him in progressing any kind of relationship with someone who isn’t interested in it.

There's a nasty, relentless little underbelly to scumsnet, with some really determined fetishists and "liberals" who consider themselves terribly open minded and who take enormous exception to the reality that they're in the minority. I'm glad they haven't descended on you or OP.

I was new to dating sites, and was polite to all of the men who messaged politely to start with. This was about two weeks in. After that I simply blocked anyone who gave me any sort of a bad vibe, with no explanation and not the tiniest bit of guilt :)

You have to take some responsibility in the way you are seeing this issue as hoot instead of being clear with him.

Your first mistake was laughing it off. You should have said that while you didn't judge him, his kinks left you cold and wanted to have nothing with them.

You've further aggravated the problem by not communicating clearly with him again. Sending him a text saying "Stop. I'm not interested. I don't want to judge you but stop sending me stuff I profoundly dislike. Again, I don't like or share your sexual preferences"

Trust me, he'll never send you stuff giving you the ick again.

Have been idly following this thread in case anyone mentioned the paraphilia enjoyed (well, needed apparently) by an ex-friend of mine. He has an injury fetish. Did anyone else see David Cronenberg's Crash? Beautiful and disturbing film; I thought it was some minority edge fetish until I met this guy. Turns out there's loads of them, both sexes. He's got a room full of prostheses, supports and mobility aids.

Most of them fake injuries and disabilities, but it's wildly exciting for them when someone gets hurt for real. Our mutual friend said he was incredibly helpful when she smashed her leg in a road accident - she knew why he was so interested, but all the same she needed lots of support and he had all the right medical equipment 😳😂

Thanks so much for making me laugh @Reserved101 and @TheHangingGardensOfBasildon . 😁😁😁😁

You probably feel like a bitch because the new 'kink shaming' is not shaming people who have the kink, but instead shaming people who don't have the kink in case they inadvertently shame the one who has the kink by being turned off by it 😵

I agree with almost everything in your post apart from the "scumsnet" reference. I find most of the suggestions on here absolutely gross. Despite calling myself libera,l which I am in some aspects (seemingly by this post vanilla). But what we do agree on is it is the OPs boundaries that needed to be respected. As I advised in my post.. Since I've posted I've seen there will be no meet up, so well done for OP asserting and maintaining their boundaries.

If it is anything to do with forced fem or the sissy community then RUN.

It isn't as simple as a man dressing up, that community has sickening ties to racism and misogyny. It is actually vile and not innocent fun whatsoever. I am extremely open minded and have my own kinks, but I couldn't even be friends with someone into that particular community.

If it is chastity/cock cages or things like that, you have to decide whether you are comfortable being the dominant partner and men like that tend to start slow and then get more and more hardcore as they get desensitised.

Male paraphilias get more obsessive and you will never be rid of this guy shoving it in your face and trying to coerce you into his kink. You either kick him out if you are not into his fetishes or you become a willing victim. No pity for you if you do not set your boundaries at this stage.

I am not meaning to at all place any blame towards you as obviously the guy on the site was a creep, but why did you feel the need to politely message back? Would it not have been better to ignore the message? On OLD you get to choose who you respond to and I think it's a good thing to promote that we, as women, don't always have to respond or justify ourselves. I would have done in the past for sure and found myself in conversations id rather not have.

Trump supporter?

I was on a dating site years ago and a man messaged me and said he liked to "explore his fem dom side" with his ex wife including cross dressing. There was nothing, and I mean nothing at all on my bio to indicate I'd be remotely interested in this. Anyway, I politely messaged back to say no thanks I don't think we have much in common, but good luck, and he went fucking crackers, off the rails with the slurs and insults. I messaged him back and said "You're a fucking creep, and you're blocked and reported".

So yep, maybe it's fear. I get angry when I'm attacked, a lot of women seem to get submissive and bend over backwards to avoid conflict with men.

Even if men don't respond quite that abusively, women are forever being conditioned to "be kind" at their own expense. I was never that sort of woman but I see it everywhere.

Tell this guy in no uncertain terms that you are not into whatever his kink is and are revolted by him 1 assuming you are and 2 sending you photos. If he can't stop himself doing that, block him.

Why are so many women unable to tell men that they aren't into something? How can you let someone you can't even have a conversation with put his dick inside you?
Is it fear? Is it the fear of what men will do if women say no?

I cannot boak hard enough at this concept

Next you'll be telling me that they also get their willies hugely extended and fitted with a spring, as their only realistic travel-based solution to the rocketing costs of buying pogo sticks!!

Inflating testicles with saline? Buuuutttt....... whyyyy?!
Have you seen the price of space hoppers these days?

Inflating testicles with saline? Buuuutttt....... whyyyy?! I saw a TV programme a few years back about a poor American man who had some kind of extreme health condition whereby his testicles just grew absolutely enormous. Considerably bigger than a football, iirc - a lot bigger, actually, I think. He had to wear a jumper as trousers and had great trouble walking and doing pretty much anything easily that most of us take for granted. Why anybody would ever actually choose something like that, just for sexual kicks, is insane (and likely very dangerous).

I've also heard on the grapevine of men who get off on women who inflate their bellies with air - not sure how they'd even do it, though; maybe by putting the hoover in reverse and sticking it in one or more orifices? Gross - and must be very harmful.

Not forgetting the classic MN thread that haunts me to this day, which featured a man (milkman? postman?) who went to a woman's house each morning and lay underneath her glass-topped coffee table to watch avidly and 'respond' accordingly whilst she squatted and curled one out into a Pyrex bowl on top of the table.

If you have a man for whom seeing you in a sexy matching underwear set in the bedroom is the pinnacle of his wildest desires, you probably need to at least count your blessings to an extent!

Come on, OP, spill the beans!

he dresses as trump and you as Vance....I would be a hard no on that myself.

Yes but none of them were into kink except one and that was just dressing like a lady. I told him my feelings about that!