Boyfriends kink

You get a high from telling people you're vegan? That's quite unusual. Most people are just explaining why they're declining the cake.

Think it can be more common with those who work in high pressure jobs. Like going back to be looked after, rather than wanting to have sex dressed as a baby.

It would give me the immediate ick but to each their own as long as they're not hurting anyone...and keeping it away from me!!

@Kneebonefuture has the kink been suggested on this thread?

Or she could just say No.

He’s done the “poor me, I’m a loser, boo hoo you won’t like me any more” to make you feel sorry for him and therefore easier to reel in.
He then becomes more affectionate, bombards you with his kink material so it feels more normalised to you.
Shows he’s manipulative.
And if he gets you involved how do you know there won’t be photos, film that can get online.
I’d get rid.

Didn’t realise you have a child. Definitely dump and block him.

Everyone is getting carried away with the laughs and forgetting the actual original post.

Op has a daughter and needs to keep safe.
If you are not into kinks then stop entertaining this man.

That alone is enough to end it. He isnt respecting you it will all be about what he wants. No future here.

@Interl0per this is really useful

OP, you seem really funny and smart! You deserve better than wasting time being nice to this creepy eejit. Good luck with telling him off!

This thread is a delight btw. Bring back shame!

This this this!!

Like vegans, part of the high is telling people, whether they want telt or not.

And for some paraphilias, the shame is also part of it, so OP is right not to engage at all. Just step away.

I feel sorry you ever had anything to do with this man OP. I would have ran for the hills the first time he suggested whatever it is that gave you the ick.

You could just reply no thank you and block. He doesn’t care about your dignity and boundaries. Do not give him any care either.

Ffs we're all adults. Just say what it is for goodness sake.

I hate when people do this in threads. Half a bloody story

Your boundaries are clearly very flaky. You need to put a stop to it now and make it crystal clear that you are not interested in any of this and he needs to stop messaging you about it. Whatever it is!

Eww he is giving serious ick vibes

Yes they do. A group of them even booked out a private party at a soft play in West Sussex and it was in the local papers.

Eww. Do people really do this? It's sexualising babies and things to do with babies. So so gross. Surely it's one small step away from being a paedophile?! Surely any sane women not being paid or drugged to do this would run a billion miles from this? Just horrible!

Sounds like a misunderstanding. Because you weren’t clear it wasn’t appealing to you, he’s trying to get you into it.

If you’re still interested in a relationship without the kink, I’d word it like: “I’m still interested in getting together but I’m 100% not into that myself. So, if it’s a deal-breaker for you, let’s stay as friends”.

If this has put you off getting together with him, something like: “I’m glad you’ve let me know about this, and obvs won’t tell a soul, but I’m 100% not into it. Looks like we’re not well matched when it comes to sex, so let’s stay as friends”.

Good luck!

He’s an adult baby isn’t he? Wears nappies?

I would cut this off. There are so many things in this situation that rub me the wrong way.

It almost seems manipulative with the seeming shameful about it and then a complete turn around to almost obsession over it after you didn't even give a clear preference.
Like he was using the shame so maybe you would push your own boundaries as to not make him feel bad about it and then because you didn't give a definite stance on it he is pushing more and being way over the top about it. Then the photo sending is completely inappropriate and absolutely pushing boundaries. With this type of person trying to logically tell them it isn't something you are into isn't going to do anything. I can see him still pushing the issue.

Trying to read between OP's lines, I am getting dresses as a young girl. Either school uniform or frilly dress with little girl pants that he has wet himself in.

Cross dressing

Also, please don’t respond OP because I really don’t want you to, you don’t want to and that’s what it is, I’d hate to have pressured you.

this is directed at the other posters…

I was just about to post about the role play of being a baby and being burped. My money is also on this.

I don’t think baby men are that rare, he’s just taking it to another level.

I think just say that on further thought, while you don’t judge him or think it’s a big deal, you think that you’d be sexually incompatible. Maybe say it made you realise how beige you are and unadventurous and what you truly want. That you want the sort of man who is excited by good old fashioned vanilla sex & seeing you naked. Tell him you have moved into an era where you want emotional, traditional, pillow princess sex with a connection. Maybe you could also say that it’s not primarily about the kink but that you realise you want the real thing and to build a relationship with someone you want mystery, romance, rhat there’s too much water under the bridge & you just feel like there’s not that deep connection you need.

next time he messages you just say look I hope you know that I am not going there. Better though is to throw him back. He isn’t respecting your boundaries at all and I wouldn’t put yourself in a position where he tries to force this onto you. He needs to respect you said no, and mean no.

Absolutely my money is on this! He likes wearing nappies......👶