To think living at home at 27 isn’t shameful?

but your post wasn’t anything like what the poster was referring to 😕

What a ridiculous comment!

Exactly this. Projecting much?!

I don't have a problem with people living at home, but I do think it's very entitled to say you're doing so because of house prices as if you're too good to rent like everyone else.

I think it’s important for a person’s development to move out at some point in early adulthood. However, I think as long as this has been trialed, it doesn’t hinder anyone to move home (e.g. after uni).

It is so hard right now to afford rent or a mortgage on your own. It sounds like a mutually beneficial solution for both you and your mum. Also, I realise some people love their own space and living alone, but having company at home is really important for others and there’s nothing wrong in that at all.

If you look, nobody is quoted but in case some of our posts may be being misinterpreted as smug without anybody knowing the background I just wanted to point out that sometimes its actually quite the opposite. Hope this is ok.

Well, yabu if you plan to go through life worrying about what others think - trust me, the sooner you stop doing that the happier you’ll be!

You are also bu to think it’s too old to be living with your mum. Honestly - there are many, many people in our society who don’t live with a partner/kids. That’s what most advertising is aimed at, but it really is not the case for everyone - there are so very many people who alone, with friends, or with other family members.

it sounds as if you and your mum are happy with your current set up - I’m happy for you!

you weren’t quoted in that post so why so indignant?

Agree, I’m incredibly envious as my mother was an alcoholic in and out of violent relationships and I wish like anything we could have had a strong relationship so there is absolutely nothing “shitty” in my post thank you, just trying to make light of a very traumatic situation for a young person. Your post on the other hand..

Yeah definitely!

also makes you wonder how they are with own adult child doesn’t it?

@ilovepuppies2019 · Today 16:16

There’s a disappointing bingo sheet in these types of threads where posters let the OP know that they moved out as soon as possible, they can’t fathom how another person could live with their parents, they strongly suggest there’s a form time limit and usually remind the OP that they aren’t really truly living an adult life until they live alone. It’s a bit sad to read these posts.

I thought this too. The smuggery is strong from a few posters on this thread.

Oh I could NEVER have still been living at home with my parents at 27! Perish the thought! 😱'I prefer independence, oh I am sooooooo superior, oh how SAD is THAT still living with parents at 27! la la la!

That snarky attitude just tells me that the OP has a stronger/better relationship with her mum than they do. (And the smug posts have a faint whiff of envy about them.) There are some proper shitty posts on here!

I would have been living with my folks at 27 had I not met my DH at 23, and moved into a housing association flat at 25 with him! £23 a week it was then (early 1990s.) Good times. Even now that would only be £55-60 a week.

Then after 3 years we bought our own house! But yeah, you're doing nothing wrong or 'shameful' @Isthismykarma

Well it's going to be 'sad' for a lot of 27 year olds then as where I live, they are all at home, and if single, which a lot are then they will be there for a long time to come.
I really don't like the patronising talk some give. Rents and housing costs are out of control, nobody should be made to feel like they are pitied but sadly there are always those who judge.

I think it's sad if you had never left home and at 27 were still living with your mum but your circumstances mean that you are returning home temporarily and you and your mum get in so it's a great time for you to spend time together, you can save and she gets some extra financial help if she needs it.

i absolutely love this post

Longer ago it was completely normal to live at home with parents as an adult. DH lived with his until we got married and his parents lived with MIL's parents until they had saved up a house deposit.

As long as you and your DM are both happy with the arrangement it is fine. DH was treated more as a housemate by his parents and did his share of housework, cooking, and looking after the house and garden. It wouldn't have worked if I had lived with my parents as my mother insisted on treating me as a child - I had a 10 p.m. curfew at the age of 21 and generally smothered me.

I'm expecting my DC to be living with me for quite a while, they are currently at uni.

I would rather they live with me than in an HMO or paying private rent. I'm predicting a steep rise in council tax. Utilities are pretty much fixed costs so it makes sense that people live together. We're lucky though as it's a good size house.

Think my 19 daughter will do the same tbh. She's autistic and boys seem to irritate her. She hates being in debt and says she will save for a deposit on a house. She also loves living with me. I don't think I will mind one bit if she's 27 and still living with me.

You sound like you are doing fine op, dont feel bad.

Not at all. It’s not a failure to launch on your part, you launched very successfully and life has just happened to you as it will to most of us. I think I’d quite like to live with my dc as adults in the right circumstances but couldn’t have stood to live with my own mother past 18 and was gone as soon as possible, I was poor for a while but it was preferable.

Of course it's not shameful, some people literally have no choice.

I'm a mum with a son currently in your situation of living at home in his mid twenties, and this is my perspective as the parent when an adult child returns.

My son was a tough teen to live with. Couldn't be told a thing. Always knew best. He had two cracks at university, then travelled the world, all while working and fiercely independent. I never imagined he would be the one to come home for a few years, and tbh, I had mild dread when he asked to return 😂

My god, it's been brilliant. Just brilliant.

I seriously wouldn't have missed a minute of getting to live with him as an adult. Of getting to truly know him. It has more than made up for all those teen years. Now he has a decent deposit and will shortly move into his own place, I will REALLY miss him.

It's been such an unexpected joy. Hang on to that thought maybe, if anyone negs you.

was it in Glasgow?

OP, I'm also with parents, and I am much older than you. Mine is for health reasons - I had my own place for many years but sadly my health took a sudden and unexpected nosedive a few years ago and I could no longer afford, or manage, to live on my own.

I don't care what anyone thinks. Everyone in my household is happy with the arrangement, and we're trying to make the best of a bloody rotten situation. The last few years have been hell. I am so grateful to have the support of my parents, without them I would have ended up on the streets, through no fault of my own. People who judge for living at home don't understand how quickly life can fall apart - and lucky them.

Crack on doing whatever is best for you and yours, OP, and forget everybody else. It's not their life and they do not get a say.