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Not to go and see my very elderly dad after a fall?

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BarbaraVineFan · 09/11/2024 15:12

My 86 year old dad has just rung me to say he fell over in the street today and has cut his hand and injured his wrist- possibly broken, he is at hospital now. I really want to go to him but

-I don't drive and we are almost 3 hours away by public transport
-the trains are messed up today and so we would need to change 3 times
-I have 5 year old DD who has a nasty cold and is very tired as she hasn't been sleeping well. I am a single mum and have nobody to leave her with overnight.
-I would have to go tonight and come back tomorrow, as I have to be at work on Monday

Is it very bad not to go and see him? He is adamant that he doesn't want us to come and is fine. But I feel guilty. What would you do?

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BarbaraVineFan · 09/11/2024 15:36

He said he just tripped :(

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PunishmentRoundupWithJoon · 09/11/2024 15:35

Don't go. Your dad has said he doesn't want you to, so that should help a bit. Let him know that you would like to, as you are obviously concerned, but explain that your DD is ill and it would't be right to drag her about in her conditions.

He's being looked after so he should be fine. Did he explain how/why he fell? Was anyone else involved or was it just due to old age unsteadiness?

BarbaraVineFan · 09/11/2024 15:29

Plus my DD just became inconsolable for ages at the thought of going. I think she doesn't feel well

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