To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

Really?!!

Is this some sort of joke thread?

I love people. They are fascinating. I love people-watching and i love talking to people. Everyone is interesting.

I'm an old person though. Is this what technology has done?! Or are you all old as well?

@pointswinprizes I’m not, I just responded to your response.

You do seem to have a milder and less paranoid version of the same outlook though.

Couldn't agree more.

And it was how I largely lived my life until I was recently diagnosed with cancer.
I'm now surrounded by people. I let them in because I thought that's just what you did.
Relying on the larger community.

I was just saying to DD1 this afternoon that I'd kept it just between closest family.

I'm overwhelmed and frankly peeved with all the messages and people reaching out. However well intentioned.

I liked it much better when it was just DH and my two DDs.

Felt much safer.

Now I've let people in I'm just disappointed in them.
They get bored, have had their fill of my illness and go merrily on their way back to their perfect cancer free lives.

Gosh that felt better saying all of that!!! 😂

Really?!!

Is this some sort of joke thread?

I love people. They are fascinating. I love people-watching and i love talking to people. Everyone is interesting.

I'm an old person though. Is this what technology has done?! Or are you all old as well?

I think you have missed that I am quoting someone else, and also missed my sarcasm. I am not a waiter hater, for want of a better word.

Wow, can see why you might have come to this thread.

Oh yes, that whole if everyone you meet is an arsehole then you’re the arsehole thing.
I never claimed to be the exception that proves the rule smart arse 😂

But self evidently “wanting to avoid people as much as I can until I die” is not going to oil the wheels of social harmony, so why involve other people into this fucked up perspective unless you want a reaction?

I mean be suspicious and isolated if that’s what you want: who is anyone on this thread to stand in your way? You clearly think it suits you.

What I don’t understand is the constant need for validation in this approach. Why do you want people to congratulate you for this? Why the need to start threads about how awful others are?

What do you want from these other people you profess to dislike so much other than to have a pile on on Mumsnet saying: “Ooh yes I hate people too! High five!”

What the OP says is self contradictory. She (I assume she’s a she) claims not to want to have contact with other people or to see any value in them apart from her “curated” few. But her behaviour on here is about seeking validation from the exact people she professes to hate. It makes no sense.

If she were entirely honest about her motives here I suspect this thread would be quite different in tone and people’s responses would be much gentler and more supportive.

Wow, can see why you might have come to this thread.

Well said @Anonymouseposter

Oh yes, that whole if everyone you meet is an arsehole then you’re the arsehole thing.
I never claimed to be the exception that proves the rule smart arse 😂

But self evidently “wanting to avoid people as much as I can until I die” is not going to oil the wheels of social harmony, so why involve other people into this fucked up perspective unless you want a reaction?

I mean be suspicious and isolated if that’s what you want: who is anyone on this thread to stand in your way? You clearly think it suits you.

What I don’t understand is the constant need for validation in this approach. Why do you want people to congratulate you for this? Why the need to start threads about how awful others are?

What do you want from these other people you profess to dislike so much other than to have a pile on on Mumsnet saying: “Ooh yes I hate people too! High five!”

What the OP says is self contradictory. She (I assume she’s a she) claims not to want to have contact with other people or to see any value in them apart from her “curated” few. But her behaviour on here is about seeking validation from the exact people she professes to hate. It makes no sense.

If she were entirely honest about her motives here I suspect this thread would be quite different in tone and people’s responses would be much gentler and more supportive.

I’m sort of in agreement with this. I think it boils down to the fact that we haven’t evolved to interact with 100s of different people. I work in an open plan office and absolutely hate it, all the noise and different faces that you recognise but don’t really know. Over thousands of years humans lived in family groups and saw others in the immediate area. Now we can hop in a car/train/plane and see thousands of new people over a lifetime, travel to work and see hundreds of different people daily, have to interact with strangers daily to get things done in life. The human lifestyle has changed rapidly in a shortish space of time, population has grown dramatically, we just aren’t designed for all this interaction and I’m not surprised that a lot of us don’t cope well with it.

Even if we managed to wfh, do all shopping online and never ever attend any events, you still get sick and must meet drs, others in the waiting room, get your eyes checked, see the dentist, take your pet to the vets, take your children and/or parents to many appointments, walk your dogs, pay the milkman, see the window cleaner and more.

Yes, it's terrible isn't it, having to interact with all these people who help you run your life, often for minimum wage. The temerity of waiters talking to the OP when she goes to restaurants! How very dare they. Or the bus driver catching her eye when she gets on the bus. He sucks! Or an overworked and underpaid GP with the audacity to have a full waiting room ( Personally, I would cut my arm off to get an in person appointment with my GP).

I am menopausal too. So fucking what.

Ps there's no bigger cunt than a cunt who says "mm maybe I'm not the cunt maybe YOU are"

No. I've got lots of friends, close family a nice relationship history. The problem isn't me.

And birth rates are declining across the world anyway.

That is incorrect @Lentilweaver

The global population reached nearly 8.2 billion by mid-2024 and is expected to grow by another two billion over the next 60 years, peaking at around 10.3 billion in the mid-2080s.

From the United Nations website.

You might like to read this thread, which is similar to many on mumsnet:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5205361-just-curious-whats-the-common-age-for-4th-baby?page=2&reply=139700093

Or all the threads which start with I want a third/fourth/fifth/+ baby