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To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

586 replies

OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 14:03

Sure there are still some great people out there but most are awful stressful thick rude shovey mean argggg

Friends can still come to me but no outside

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WhosACleverClogs · 09/11/2024 15:55

StarSlinger · 09/11/2024 15:45

MN is full of people, yet here you all are.

To be fair, technically, MN is full of words on a screen. Quite different from actual people. It's why some people can handle online interaction much more than offline.

99victoria · 09/11/2024 15:54

Wow - I'm really surprised. Sure there are some awful people in the world but I'm always amazed that most people I come across in my life, I actually like. I try to start from a position of assuming I will like new people when I meet them and mostly I do. I love getting involved in new things and travelling the world and I think it's good for my mental health to realise that there are more lovely people in the world than there are horrible ones

Fevertreelover · 09/11/2024 15:54

I'm surrounded by lovely people so I'm quite happy spending time with them. Maybe find nicer friends.......

StarSlinger · 09/11/2024 15:45

MN is full of people, yet here you all are.

UggyPow · 09/11/2024 15:39

Yes!!!!
And all the people that pretend to be you friends but can't even be arsed to acknowledge the question when you need a small favour
I'm just totally fed up & done with them all.
Can I downsize & run away to the seaside??? I can't but I currently look at Rightmove every single single day

Lentilweaver · 09/11/2024 15:38

I will say that many disappoint me these days, more so since the pandemic. No doubt I disappoint them too.

PyreneanAubrie · 09/11/2024 15:37

Yes. Me too. Don't understand the modern world/way of thinking.

I love my dog and my cats.

CustardCreams2 · 09/11/2024 15:36

People are just out to use you for their personal or financial gain. You really do have to advocate for yourself these days.

WhosACleverClogs · 09/11/2024 15:32

Lentilweaver · 09/11/2024 15:25

I like people. I feel like this makes me an outlier here.
Maybe because I don't have that many in my life.

It might make you an outlier on this thread where people are talking about not being too keen on people but I doubt it makes you an outlier in the world in general or the rest of mumsnet.

drivinmecrazy · 09/11/2024 15:31

Couldn't agree more.

And it was how I largely lived my life until I was recently diagnosed with cancer.
I'm now surrounded by people. I let them in because I thought that's just what you did.
Relying on the larger community.

I was just saying to DD1 this afternoon that I'd kept it just between closest family.

I'm overwhelmed and frankly peeved with all the messages and people reaching out. However well intentioned.

I liked it much better when it was just DH and my two DDs.

Felt much safer.

Now I've let people in I'm just disappointed in them.
They get bored, have had their fill of my illness and go merrily on their way back to their perfect cancer free lives.

Gosh that felt better saying all of that!!! 😂

betterangels · 09/11/2024 15:28

Tcateh · 09/11/2024 15:01

I'd love to live in my immediate world only.
Like in 1982 or something.

Diaries, landlines, calendars, newspapers only. Postcards, letters and a paper savings book.

Discos, phone boxes, great TV.

I would love this.

Lentilweaver · 09/11/2024 15:25

I like people. I feel like this makes me an outlier here.
Maybe because I don't have that many in my life.

notanothernamechange24 · 09/11/2024 15:25

I fully agree too. This weeks events have been the final nail.
I would love to live in the middle of nowhere with only a few select people.

On the whole humans are awful

anareen · 09/11/2024 15:22

I fully agree with this ! 😊 it's such an ugly world.

ByMerryKoala · 09/11/2024 15:20

Anisty · 09/11/2024 14:45

Really?!!

Is this some sort of joke thread?

I love people. They are fascinating. I love people-watching and i love talking to people. Everyone is interesting.

I'm an old person though. Is this what technology has done?! Or are you all old as well?

They should just rename Mumsnet Misanthropes Anonymous and be done with it.

Mittens67 · 09/11/2024 15:18

Yes. Cats are much nicer.

WhosACleverClogs · 09/11/2024 15:17

Tcateh · 09/11/2024 15:01

I'd love to live in my immediate world only.
Like in 1982 or something.

Diaries, landlines, calendars, newspapers only. Postcards, letters and a paper savings book.

Discos, phone boxes, great TV.

I agree. Access to the wider world, though it has its advantages, seems to have exacerbated the problem. I've seen it all. I'm not a young 'un. I'm ready to narrow back my world again. I used to love people watching too and I 'saw' people - different kinds of people for what they are. Nothing more to see here and I'm happy about my world and in myself - not so much with the world and human beings in general ( of course there are exceptions and lovely people but they're not the majority. The world wouldn't be this messed up if they were). If only I had the power to fix it all...but I don't. So I'd live in my own world.

InWithThePlums · 09/11/2024 15:10

Tcateh · 09/11/2024 15:01

I'd love to live in my immediate world only.
Like in 1982 or something.

Diaries, landlines, calendars, newspapers only. Postcards, letters and a paper savings book.

Discos, phone boxes, great TV.

Me too!

Mebebecat · 09/11/2024 15:07

Yup. I'll keep DH though and once a month I will accept one visitor of my choosing.

Back21970 · 09/11/2024 15:04

I feel a bit like this myself at the moment ☹️

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 09/11/2024 15:04

Well, I mean... if that's how you feel, then YANBU to avoid people. I find that most of the people I meet are nice.

MysticCatLady · 09/11/2024 15:02

HRT might help

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 09/11/2024 15:02

WhosACleverClogs · 09/11/2024 14:33

Yeah me too! I'm sort of already doing it as much as I can but can't completely avoid people 100%. I hate the world. It's completely messed up! And I hate the world for turning me into a cynical person because of everything I've seen. I only now interact with people as necessary and I'm happier for it. Each time I try to do the opposite, I'm reminded why I don't anymore.

💯

femfemlicious · 09/11/2024 15:02

I want to live on a deserted island with my kids. People are just horrible.

AnotherChildFreeCatLady · 09/11/2024 15:01

Anisty · 09/11/2024 14:45

Really?!!

Is this some sort of joke thread?

I love people. They are fascinating. I love people-watching and i love talking to people. Everyone is interesting.

I'm an old person though. Is this what technology has done?! Or are you all old as well?

Would you call 35 old?