To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

Is it about people being awful though or really just about them not bringing anything positive to your life?

I know nice people. Do I necessarily want to spend time with them? No. I had a group of work friends. Nice people, we'd meet up outside work sometimes. But God all they talked about was work (we do an intense job). I tried so many times to talk about other things but it would be a 5 minute convo then back to work stuff. It also didn't help we didn't have anything in common other than work. I used to come back from nights meeting them and DC would say "did you have a nice time" and all I could really say was "it was ok". They're all lovely people, can't say a word against them but I realised it was boring. Then covid happened and we've not met up since but I don't miss it.

I don't want/need to spend my time in company just for the sake of it. I'd rather do something i enjoy alone because I find myself fun!

I am not awful, inconsiderate or flaky. But I do know I am not everyone's cup of tea thanks to certain traits.

The negative people on this thread seem to be making that task easy for everyone else.

What a sad thread. Don't let a few dickheads make you feel like this. People are the sane as they've always been. Some are idiots but mostly they're good, in my experience anyway

No

You just need to cut out the negative people and surround yourself with only the best ones.

Exactly.

This is what I was wondering too. If everyone on here is wonderful then people aren't awful are they.

Are you dreadful or is it just other people?

There are days I want to live on 100 acres with my sporting dogs and zero people around. I find I feel that way when I've been to Walmart.

What IS it about Walmart in the US that entices poor and negative human behaviors?

Agreed. I know there are still some good people around but on the whole they are dreadful.

Nobody has to use the dictionary version of old if they don't want to.

I don't hate people, there's some good ones out there. I just don't have much need of them.

I suppose I'm the definition of the cat lady spinster. If I didn't have my cats (i have 2) I think I would be lonely but they are quite needy cats (they never got the memo on being independant) so I've generally got one or the other on my lap every time I sit down. I don't plan to ever be without cats again whereas I do plan never to have a partner again!

I have a good relationship with my adult DC so they kind of fulfil any socialising need I have, as my need in that area is low so not that I'm always pushing myself on them or anything!

If I ever feel I need more I'll just join something! Have my eye on U3A in a few years maybe. Depending how I feel.

We don't all need the same level of socialisation. My mum is a bit of a loner and she's nearly 80 now. She moans about many things but never about being lonely.

That's really not what 'old' means. You can check in the dictionary. And 90 is definitely old. I know people like to say that 'young' or 'old' are a state of mind, but it's not actually true.

Anyway... I spend Monday to Friday with lots of people. I'm usually in a room with 30 people (no prizes for guessing what my job is!) and come into contact with hundreds every day. I do enjoy some solitude after all that - who wouldn't? But I don't recognise this 'cold, hard world' people are describing.

log off then

My mum is in her 80s and after being a social butterfly she became agoraphobic and spent the last 30 years not going out, as she had so many bad experiences with people. Not age related I don't think

Perfection. I would love this too.

35 is young. Half my age in fact.

I was out early and people were lovely.

When people are stressed and anxious in crowded situations that's when it all goes awry. Not only those but thats an example.

Me too. I'm also old.

You have no idea how comforting I find this thread - the irony of finding comfort in something so sad, is not lost on me.

I was thinking the same thing today.

The world seems very cold and hard.

I Feel like so much is expected of me as a single Mum with an 8 year old but so little is given. I have very little support and even for my child I don’t feel that most people care that much. I think there’s a very low threshold for saying nor doing the wrong thing with other women.

I often feel that it’s a dog eat dog world, even from other parents sometimes - people just see all the things I can’t do & think I’m not coping because I’m lazy not overwhelmed. One of my friends recently said “stop going on about finding a lawn mower guy and just do it yourself”. It’s always from people that don’t feel overwhelmed and who don’t have a lawn or have a husband who mows it.

It’s not just my lawn, it’s everything. I feel like I’m critiqued and judged for every failing and managing with so few resources in the impossible obstacle course that I’m not made for. Everyone is standing on the sidelines telling me to try hard and looking the other way.

Its like people want to be around success, happiness and all that glitters only.

They should just rename Mumsnet Misanthropes Anonymous and be done with it.

😁

40 isn't old. 65 isn't old. 90 isn't old.

Old is when you give up on finding anything new to think about and do; or just get worn out from living due to poor financial planning, making the same mistakes over and over again (never learn) or a severe medical issue.

I think I've stumbled across Misanthropenet.

Is anyone on this thread willing to admit they're one of these "awful people"

Or are they all just out there somewhere?