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To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 14:03

Sure there are still some great people out there but most are awful stressful thick rude shovey mean argggg

Friends can still come to me but no outside

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tobee · 09/11/2024 20:35

I really like people and enjoy meeting people. Even when they're not 100% lovely.

This is a very Mumsnet thread. I think it's such a shame that people are becoming more and more introverted.

I also think people having some bad experiences with other humans deciding to hide away is this best solution are profoundly wrong. It feels like there's more of an expectation that you should not have any interactions with anything in life that are even slightly negative. It's like some depressed people think the answer is to lie on their beds but that's the worst thing you can do.

If you never go out and see other people you're constantly reaffirming your original opinion.

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:33

happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:32

But OP, find people that are not stinky or cruel. Like yourself. You are not the only one. No need to depart anywhere.

Unless you find someone who chews an apple too loudly and fast with an open mouth. Then I’d join you and happily leave too.

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I've got enough already. Wall is going up. No new colleagues will get to enjoy my friendship. No neighbours my jam. Everyone who isn't already in the circle is essentially dead to me because people suck.

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happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:32

OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:26

No, I smell fine thanks 🤣

Don't understand people who are scared to depart this mortal coil, though. Rather stay here to experience sickness and pain and cruelty for as long as possible?

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But OP, find people that are not stinky or cruel. Like yourself. You are not the only one. No need to depart anywhere.

Unless you find someone who chews an apple too loudly and fast with an open mouth. Then I’d join you and happily leave too.

SabreIsMyFave · 09/11/2024 20:31

Thanks @RampantIvy Smile

RampantIvy · 09/11/2024 20:31

I always feel a mixture of exasperation and pity at all of these "people are shit" posts.

So do I.

You're wrong to assume that those on my side of the fence don't enjoy carefully curated and beloved relationships. But those who don't get in suck

That's a very black and white way of looking at it. I have friends, I also have one or two people I know that I don't care for, and I am neutral about everyone else. I don't dislike someone unless I have reason to.

So, to dislike anyone who isn't a friend is a very negative vew of life. If you weren't so negative maybe your life wouldn't feel so bleak. You sound like a glass half empty person.

Excellent post @SabreIsMyFave

Most people stink everywhere. Bodies and food conspire to appal.

Are you OK @OptimismvsRealism?

Oh well, you need to see your GP. You may hate me but your posts are weird. I would say concerning, but that sounds patronising. So, deeply weird.

I agree @JaneFondue
I suspect that the OP is ND.

SabreIsMyFave · 09/11/2024 20:30

OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:15

Most people stink everywhere. Bodies and food conspire to appal.

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Are you OK @OptimismvsRealism ? Serious question.

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:30

JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:28

Would be hard to like someone who kept boring on about stinky humans, yes.

😭😭😭😭

Humourless people like yourself are the main reason I look forward to the cooling soil that precedes the abyss.

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krisspie · 09/11/2024 20:30

Anisty · 09/11/2024 14:45

Really?!!

Is this some sort of joke thread?

I love people. They are fascinating. I love people-watching and i love talking to people. Everyone is interesting.

I'm an old person though. Is this what technology has done?! Or are you all old as well?

I think this is the result of being brought up and encouraged to be glued to a mobile phone or tablet from 18 months old. Result is people who can’t interact or think for themselves. When they have to they come across badly as OP describes.

Yes I agree with you OP. If I could retire tomorrow I’d be happy to not bother with people again.
I’m in my 50’s and see a negative change in society. Poor manners and no consideration for others are the main ones.Not to mention the snowflakes and the entitled. Gosh the list is quite long so I’ll stop there.

JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:28

Would be hard to like someone who kept boring on about stinky humans, yes.

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:28

ilovesooty · 09/11/2024 20:26

I suspect that whatever the OP and people who agree with her say, other people don't like them much either.

If only nice people like you would suspect otherwise 🥲

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ilovesooty · 09/11/2024 20:26

I suspect that whatever the OP and people who agree with her say, other people don't like them much either.

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:26

happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:23

I agree with most of this. But I don’t live in a city, because it’s not for me. It sounds like you’ve had enough of everything. Even yourself.

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No, I smell fine thanks 🤣

Don't understand people who are scared to depart this mortal coil, though. Rather stay here to experience sickness and pain and cruelty for as long as possible?

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happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:23

OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:21

The human body stinks, hbd. Food, cigarettes, the shit of your dog. Stink.

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I agree with most of this. But I don’t live in a city, because it’s not for me. It sounds like you’ve had enough of everything. Even yourself.

JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:23

I rest my case.

SafeandZane · 09/11/2024 20:23

As you get older and realise what truly matters in life , your circle of family and friends gets smaller and tighter .

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:22

JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:19

Oh well, you need to see your GP. You may hate me but your posts are weird. I would say concerning, but that sounds patronising. So, deeply weird.

Yeah I think blands like yourself are easily startled. Away back to Gogglebox.

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:21

happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:18

You must not have travelled much if you think most people stink. And I say this as a person highly sensitive to people, smells and surroundings. You must live in an absolute dump, and should move.

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The human body stinks, hbd. Food, cigarettes, the shit of your dog. Stink.

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Stopsnowing · 09/11/2024 20:20

Tcateh · 09/11/2024 15:01

I'd love to live in my immediate world only.
Like in 1982 or something.

Diaries, landlines, calendars, newspapers only. Postcards, letters and a paper savings book.

Discos, phone boxes, great TV.

I agree. Pre internet people coexisted in smaller real life groups

happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:20

JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:19

Oh well, you need to see your GP. You may hate me but your posts are weird. I would say concerning, but that sounds patronising. So, deeply weird.

I’d say concerning.

JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:19

Oh well, you need to see your GP. You may hate me but your posts are weird. I would say concerning, but that sounds patronising. So, deeply weird.

happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:18

OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:15

Most people stink everywhere. Bodies and food conspire to appal.

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You must not have travelled much if you think most people stink. And I say this as a person highly sensitive to people, smells and surroundings. You must live in an absolute dump, and should move.

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:16

JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:14

Op, I can only assume you have something else going on, judging by your statement that you can't wait to get out, whatever that means. I assume by your latest post it means that you want to leave this world for a less busy one by 70 or earlier.

Anyway, you hate loneliness, but also want to avoid everybody. Make it make sense!

People saying make it make sense are one of my reasons for hating people.

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happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:16

TheEyesOfLucyJordon · 09/11/2024 19:19

They're not. They only give a fuck about themselves from what I see 😮

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Just like OP.

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:15

happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:13

Where do you live if most people stink?

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Most people stink everywhere. Bodies and food conspire to appal.

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JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:14

Op, I can only assume you have something else going on, judging by your statement that you can't wait to get out, whatever that means. I assume by your latest post it means that you want to leave this world for a less busy one by 70 or earlier.

Anyway, you hate loneliness, but also want to avoid everybody. Make it make sense!