Page 15 | To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

OptimismvsRealism · 2024-11-09T14:03:42+00:00

Sure there are still some great people out there but most are awful stressful thick rude shovey mean argggg Friends can still come to me but no outside

HaveToSaySomethingHere · 09/11/2024 21:05

People amaze me, in a good way. Like the love and care I see people giving to children and other vulnerable people.

LBFseBrom · 09/11/2024 21:03

I avoid people as much as possible because I'm a private person and cannot abide inane chit chat. However I am pleasant and engage with others when necessary. I'd also give a helping hand to anybody. Most people are OK. I'm now an elderly person and find a lot of people in my age group are great cacklers (laughing at nothing), nosy and gossipy, but not all. You don't live with them, when you're in your own home you can please yourself and nobody can come in without an invitation.

Em1ly2023 · 09/11/2024 21:03

TheTidyBear · 09/11/2024 16:20

So why did you come on here to discuss this with other people if you don't like other people?

And why are other people who don't like other people responding to you?

Shouldn't you all be playing with your pets?

Solidarity from likeminded people… Very different to having to interact with undesirables in person..

ForGreyKoala · 09/11/2024 20:57

Lentilweaver · 09/11/2024 15:58

I sometimes think I will be the last person to still be preferring offline interaction to online, newspapers to digital news, walking to driving....

No you won't. There are still a few of us out there. I'm just about to walk to the library to read yesterday's newspaper (not in the UK) and then do my usual hour long Sunday walk after that. I take what I want from technology and ignore the rest.

OrangeGreens · 09/11/2024 20:57

OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:41

I think the way you treat a retail or hospitality person is the way you are in your soul

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I agree with this but I’m not sure why you stop at retail and hospitality workers. Isn’t it just as important to treat everyone with kindness and generosity, assuming the best (or at least nothing negative) of them unless they give you real reason otherwise?

happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:57

BetterInColour · 09/11/2024 20:50

Ironically, when you actually start getting old and dying, you have to depend on other people, mostly strangers, more than ever. Hospital staff, cleaners, carers, social workers, nursing home staff, it's a time of life you often do want to pull away and hide, but the opposite happens. Just preparing you OP.

I’ve noticed this with my lovely dad. He was told had 6 months to live, and that was 6 months and 2 days ago.

He has help at home only, as he declined further treatment and so the doctor and nurse come to him. He tells me every day how thankful he is, how nice people are and how every cup of coffee with my mum is the best.

Thatsenoughcoffee · 09/11/2024 20:57

I wish I loved the Human Race;

I wish I loved its silly face;

I wish I liked the way it walks;

I wish I liked the way it talks;

And when I'm introduced to one,

I wish I thought "What Jolly Fun!"

Wallawallakoala · 09/11/2024 20:53

I’m all for this. On the way to my mums (dementia and terminally ill) just picked up some food from a supermarket, man shaking his head and tutting at me. Rolled the window down smiling said something wrong?! Had an argument he was telling me it was one way even though it clearly wasn’t (2 sides to the road, blah blah) just thought why, if I’m causing no one any bother, and it absolutely was one way!!!!! Aaarrrghhhh. Yeah pretty done with people.

ForGreyKoala · 09/11/2024 20:52

Anisty · 09/11/2024 14:45

Really?!!

Is this some sort of joke thread?

I love people. They are fascinating. I love people-watching and i love talking to people. Everyone is interesting.

I'm an old person though. Is this what technology has done?! Or are you all old as well?

I'm getting on in years too, and I don't think like that. If I can't get out once a day and see people I would go mad! I'm not a super social person, but I like the small day to day interactions with others and a chat with someone I know. What a sad outlook on life some people have, and where on earth do you live with all these horrible people surrounding you?

JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:51

Yes but @BetterInColour the OP doesn't intend to get old.

OrangeGreens · 09/11/2024 20:50

OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:39

I go out every day multiple times a day

Here to confirm

People suck and a good 50% reduction (if I could exclude the people I care about) would improve my quality of life considerably

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Where do you encounter all these people who suck? Is it work?

The only people I encounter regularly on a day-to-day basis (beyond colleagues) are friends and family. Other than that I mostly engage with shop assistants, waiting staff, occasionally people who ask for directions. A lot of people do start conversations because my toddler waves and smiles at them.

All of those are brief exchanges and 99% of the time they’re polite or actively nice! Are people in similar situations being consistently rude to you or something?

BetterInColour · 09/11/2024 20:50

Ironically, when you actually start getting old and dying, you have to depend on other people, mostly strangers, more than ever. Hospital staff, cleaners, carers, social workers, nursing home staff, it's a time of life you often do want to pull away and hide, but the opposite happens. Just preparing you OP.

JaneFondue · 09/11/2024 20:49

RampantIvy · 09/11/2024 20:47

Because it's traumatic and makes me wish I didn't have to exist. Always have felt this way.

I think you need to see your GP. It isn't normal to feel this way.

How very bland and normcore of you to suggest that @RampantIvy!😉
Surely it's much cooler and oh so very subversive- on MN at least- to continue hating everybody.

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:48

RampantIvy · 09/11/2024 20:47

Because it's traumatic and makes me wish I didn't have to exist. Always have felt this way.

I think you need to see your GP. It isn't normal to feel this way.

It's normal to feel this way

Doping yourself up to convince yourself that the awful dynamics of human existence are cool beans isn't particularly worthwhile imo

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RampantIvy · 09/11/2024 20:47

Because it's traumatic and makes me wish I didn't have to exist. Always have felt this way.

I think you need to see your GP. It isn't normal to feel this way.

tobee · 09/11/2024 20:45

Do you really mean traumatic op? Because it's a pretty strong term.

tobee · 09/11/2024 20:44

I think you could do with some therapy op. Obviously not in person though coz the counsellor will be stinky.

Anyway, you seem determined to carry on with your dislike (hatred?) of people so maybe you should just crack on and stay at home. We probably won't miss you.

happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:42

OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:41

I think the way you treat a retail or hospitality person is the way you are in your soul

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Ooh I agree with this with my whole heart

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:41

Titsywoo · 09/11/2024 20:38

I have been guilty of saying I hate people but I run a retail business and people can be dicks in that environment. Mostly people are lovely when you know them properly!

I think the way you treat a retail or hospitality person is the way you are in your soul

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:40

tobee · 09/11/2024 20:38

And if people are "dickheads" why is that stopping you from going out? Why do people seem to expect that they will fall to pieces if they encounter dickheads? We're much more resilient than we give ourselves credit for.

Because it's traumatic and makes me wish I didn't have to exist. Always have felt this way. But now I have reached a position where I think

Fuck it

Why should I give anything to this world

People suck

I don't want to engage with them

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happybluedog · 09/11/2024 20:39

Abracadabra12345 · 09/11/2024 20:36

I think that the more you work from home the more you hate people and think the world is shit. It’s only your few friends who happen to be nice and good people. It’s not true

I think @happybluedog has nailed it

I really do think it’s a huge problem @Abracadabra12345. Maybe especially to younger people.

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OptimismvsRealism · 09/11/2024 20:39

tobee · 09/11/2024 20:35

I really like people and enjoy meeting people. Even when they're not 100% lovely.

This is a very Mumsnet thread. I think it's such a shame that people are becoming more and more introverted.

I also think people having some bad experiences with other humans deciding to hide away is this best solution are profoundly wrong. It feels like there's more of an expectation that you should not have any interactions with anything in life that are even slightly negative. It's like some depressed people think the answer is to lie on their beds but that's the worst thing you can do.

If you never go out and see other people you're constantly reaffirming your original opinion.

I go out every day multiple times a day

Here to confirm

People suck and a good 50% reduction (if I could exclude the people I care about) would improve my quality of life considerably

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tobee · 09/11/2024 20:38

And if people are "dickheads" why is that stopping you from going out? Why do people seem to expect that they will fall to pieces if they encounter dickheads? We're much more resilient than we give ourselves credit for.

Titsywoo · 09/11/2024 20:38

I have been guilty of saying I hate people but I run a retail business and people can be dicks in that environment. Mostly people are lovely when you know them properly!

Abracadabra12345 · 09/11/2024 20:36

I think that the more you work from home the more you hate people and think the world is shit. It’s only your few friends who happen to be nice and good people. It’s not true

I think @happybluedog has nailed it