To want to just avoid people as much as I can until I die now

… and yet you’re here, mocking. Why?

I think a lot of them are on other MN threads! 🤣

No. Nobody did. It's OP who has been using the word " cunt" for anyone who doesnt share in her misery.

Oh gosh, did anybody replied to you calling you a 'cunt' out of the blue?
Just because they disagree with you?
That's so awful, you are probably right then that the world is full of awful people who are best avoided.
They are probably making a void around them anyway, if they interact like that online with no pressure, who knows what they do and say in real life.
Just ignore them all and enjoy your many friends and family instead. It is great you have so many, also considering that you mentioned how you hated people very much already before lockdown and all of that.

@cardiffcatarrhalchoices I don't entirely agree, because if you are pleasant with the neighbours, chat for 5 min occasionally, pop over any spare veggies from your garden and are nice, then it doesn't matter that you are not friends. I think there's a big distinction between close friends, more distant friends, and people who are in your life that you are nice to but are not your friends. I don't have time for more close friends as I have not got time for the quite large amount I already have, and end up feeling guilty about that, but I hope I'm not negative or nasty to everyone else. There's a lot of value to be had in pleasant moments of recognition and interaction in all kinds of situations that aren't deep friendships, I value those anyway.

I'm not, but thanks anyway.

It sums up exactly the problem, to have in the same thread

• some who have met so many bad folks they are in despair to ever meet anyone nice
• others who naively think their present happy bubble with last all their life, + reject getting to know anyone new.

The entire nasty hard unfriendly idea of only wanting to cope with a limited maximum number of friends, hurts unnecessarily, takes even more chances away from, is part of the oppression of, the folks who have kept meeting too many nasties. Or of the shy or autistics - of all types of folks with a struggle to make enough connections.

I'm with you on this. People are people, just the same as they always were. I'm sick of all this 'These days, everyone/thing is awful' nonsense. You've got one life, live it!

Sad x

thnk god I’m not the only one’!!!
100% AGREE!!

Very glad to hear being able to say it here helped you.

I initially thought the OP had cancer or something, and that that was the reason for the thread.

It must be a horrible feeling to be so aggravated by others whenever you leave the house.
Whatever your views on people, they are an unavoidable fact of life wherever you go.
I thought I would share some quotes I feel helpful when I feel overwhelmed by my interactions with people:

'it's easier to put on a pair of slippers than carpet the whole world'

'whenever you can't change a situation, it's time to change your perspective'

'everyone is doing the best they can with what they know'

Yep. I’ve condensed my life so to not have to see the shitheap this country has become.

I honestly never use to feel this way but I do now. I struggle with the pressure of life and how I can't handle peoples bad behavior like I use to. I hate how rude and selfish people are I have less tolerance.lol

@HiEarthlings where was I judgmental I'm sorry that you have health conditions which limit you, at the charity shop I work at there are ladies with health problems too and they are lovely, I'm 68 so got more years behind me than I have in front of me so I make the most of every day I'm alive, overall I don't find people horrid or rude a few yes but they are not anyone I am going to see again so they do not impact my life oh well off to see squeeze tomorrow night so I hope everyone has a good weekend

My dad is 91 and has no friends - and has never had friends. He lives on his own. He has no carers. He takes part in no community activities whatsoever. And he is perfectly content.

And I'm like him.

I tried much more than he ever did with other people, but I'm realising what I like, and it's not hanging out with other people.

I want to say a big, loud, farty F*ck Off! to everyone except my honorary children and my fur babies and my wild babies. Just want to sit in a warm room with my kindle and the rain pelting against the window.

Said every introvert ever

I understand this.

I absolutely adore my child, husband and dog. Spending time with them makes me happy.

I have a couple of friends but out with that I'd be happy to never form relationships with any other person. I appreciate this isn't setting a good example for my child and so I'll happily fake being interested in others in public for their benefit.

We've been let down by too many people too many times. We're very comfortable financially (through decades of seriously bloody hard graft - not luck) and this also shows a very different side to people towards us.

I am not as fond of being a hermit as some on here, but I do think over the years you get tired of people who aren't your people. I wouldn't end up round at a neighbour's house socialising as I never socialise with neighbours as I like to be on 'friendly but not friends' terms, so when they invite me over I just make an excuse or don't go, but still chat when I see them. I get not wanting to make new friends past a certain point.

I do find people funny though and like having little moments with people over silly things. There are some wankers out there, and whoever said driving is stressful is right, but I have found even on the road, more people are friendly and thank you or let you out than not, it's just you remember the one nasty person. I once counted to check and had 10 times more positive encounters than negative ones, same in shops, everything.

I also like space, natural light and nature, but those I do on my own or with DH.

Book clubs and volunteering for me too.

I love the first 4 of these, and have found people to share them with simply via book clubs, choir and volunteering.

They have been lucky, found a people niche that works for them, matches something they had ability to do + be appreciated for. There are reasonable odds of ever finding something like that at some time in your life, but not all the time. Far chancer odds of always finding it whenever you want it. Also, because volunteering places consist of real people, humans, by definition they can go wrong unexpectedly and for no good reason and end in fallings-out.

I’ve been having exactly this thought myself. I’m approaching 50 and keep thinking how nice it would be to find a job that involved minimal contact with people, and to stick at it for the rest of my life. It’s not that I hate people. I don’t. It’s just that people don’t make me happy. I don’t enjoy socialising, and usually feel worse, not better, after I have done so. I’m generally pretty good at it, funnily enough. I wasn’t when I was young, but as I’ve got older I’ve kind of mastered the art. I can make people laugh, and I know how to sustain a good conversation. I just can’t be bothered. Plus, I feel exhausted afterwards.

The main problem, I think, is that I’m an introvert. People exhaust me. I don’t crave or need much social interaction, and I’m always relieved when things are cancelled. Tbh, I don’t think I have ever looked forward to anything that involves other people. Another problem is the U.K. It’s so unbearably overcrowded that I’m sick to death of people by the end of the week. I also have zero tolerance for people I don’t like. Some people seem able to endure the company of almost anyone. They’ll just shrug and say “oh, sure, we all know X is arrogant and rude and self-centred…but hey, that’s just X.” I’m not like that. If I don’t like someone, I can’t bear being near them.

There are good people out there. And it would be great to meet, say, Stephen Fry for a coffee one morning, Unfortunately, they’re a minority. Most people are competitive, boring or self-centred. I have a lot of sympathy for people, and I feel very sorry for them, but I just can’t be bothered making conversation with them. In general, they make me feel shit about myself as well. The other weird thing I’ve noticed is that horrible, narcissistic people seem to worm their way into your life no matter how you resist. It’s bizarre. My sister said this to me last week. She said she went for a coffee with a couple of neighbours and sat there thinking “how did I end up here? I can’t stand either of you. You’re both nosy, gossipy, spiteful, jealous and boring. Yet somehow, yet again, you’ve managed to get me socialising with you. Whereas I never see the people I really like.”

If I had to list the things that truly make me happy, they would be

Books
Learning new things
Art
Creativity
Silence
Space
Natural light
Nature
Dogs

Sharing those things with people I genuinely like would be great. But I’d much rather be on my own than be with the vast majority of people I know. Most people just aren’t worth the effort.