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To take my DC with me into Anne Summers?

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Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 20:10

Serious question, regular poster with a name change as well.. it's a bit embarrassing, isn't it?

I want to buy a nice waspie, needed by tomorrow as we've got, erm, plans. It has to be a waspie as I'm trying to cover up my stretch marks and wobbly bits 😐

It's too late to order online. The only place I can think of on the high street for something like this is Anne Summers. (If you know of anywhere else please do reccomend)

The problem is I've got no way of offloading my DC (7 and 5) in order to go alone.

I'm considering just taking them with me, being as quick as possible and keeping them away from the adult only area, but is that unreasonable?

Would you judge somebody for going in with children?

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Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 21:00

DoYouReally · 08/11/2024 20:53

You're not an idiot.

You are just a little anxious and not thinking straight.

If someone judges your body, they aren't the right person to sleep with.

Unless you were super deceptively, flattering clothes, they have a fair idea of your shape anyway. (PS- if these magic clothes existed, we would all be wearing them).

Relax, chill and enjoy yourself.

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Thank you 🥺

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lasagnelle · 08/11/2024 21:00

GroovyChick87 · 08/11/2024 20:53

Have any of you actually been in an Ann Summers? It's a knickers and bra shop. The toys are in an enclosed section normally at the back. Obviously ideal to not have them with you but if you're in and out buying underwear, no big deal.

She's not buying knickers she wants some racy underwear.

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Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 20:59

Thank you for the helpful suggestions, I'm going to sign up to amazon prime.

Also next - I didn't know they did next day delivery. Thank you!

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HappyNewYear2027 · 08/11/2024 20:57

Amazon has some great bits for.. adult activities. Plus next day delivery

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Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 20:56

yingyanglife · 08/11/2024 20:53

I worked in Ann Summers for 4 years and despite a lot of these comments it was soooo common for people to bring their children in when shopping. It never caused any problems and no one ever made any comments about it, you have to be 18+ to even go into the toy section and we just made sure that kids were properly supervised at all times.

Thank you so much for this. They've made me feel like some sort of deviant.

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Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 20:55

I've asked MN to remove the post.

Whilst yes it's not an ideal place to take children some of you are carrying on like I was going in to show them porn. From what I've read children are permitted in the normal part with parents, I ascertained that much, but obviously there's the moral aspect.

I've had my DD with me when buying bras in M&S and it didn't feel a million miles away from that.

The underwear is at the front of the shop and the over 18s section is to the rear. Children cannot go in there. You need to pass the cash registers and sales assistants to even get near it.

Jesus christ I'm not going. Let's leave it at that.

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scotstars · 08/11/2024 20:55

You can get one on amazon next day delivery

Unreasonableexpectation · 08/11/2024 20:54

Have you tried next online? For most things they do free next day delivery to the store if you order before midnight.

GroovyChick87 · 08/11/2024 20:53

Have any of you actually been in an Ann Summers? It's a knickers and bra shop. The toys are in an enclosed section normally at the back. Obviously ideal to not have them with you but if you're in and out buying underwear, no big deal.

yingyanglife · 08/11/2024 20:53

I worked in Ann Summers for 4 years and despite a lot of these comments it was soooo common for people to bring their children in when shopping. It never caused any problems and no one ever made any comments about it, you have to be 18+ to even go into the toy section and we just made sure that kids were properly supervised at all times.

DoYouReally · 08/11/2024 20:53

Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 20:48

It's a bit of both tbh. I'm probably worrying over nothing I just don't feel completely comfortable with how I look and its been a long time since I've even entertained the idea of being intimate again.

I feel like such an idiot I wish I hadn't posted 😔

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You're not an idiot.

You are just a little anxious and not thinking straight.

If someone judges your body, they aren't the right person to sleep with.

Unless you were super deceptively, flattering clothes, they have a fair idea of your shape anyway. (PS- if these magic clothes existed, we would all be wearing them).

Relax, chill and enjoy yourself.

namechangeGOT · 08/11/2024 20:53

@Amibeingabadmum

Ah love ignore the posts regarding the item you're wanting to buy. There's nothing wrong with it, there is nothing wrong with wanting to cover up bits of yourself you're not happy with or reduce your self confidence, it doesn't make whoever you're wanting to wear it with a shallow person and you're not a weirdo for wanting it quickly.

No, I wouldn't take my kids in Anne Summers, mainly because mine would wander off and be poking butt plugs. Have you a friend you could nip to the shops with who can stand outside while you nip in? I'd come with you and go and get it for you if I was anywhere near. I hope you have fun whatever your plans are.

SweetBobby · 08/11/2024 20:52

GroovyChick87 · 08/11/2024 20:50

Just don't go into the vibrator section, it's normally separated

No it's not, there are even toys on the till and there's usually a stand full of random crap right next to the tills that is completely inappropriate, that an average 7 year old could definitely read.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/11/2024 20:51

Just checked out the website. 🫣
A visit with dc in tow would definitely lead to questions...

GroovyChick87 · 08/11/2024 20:50

Just don't go into the vibrator section, it's normally separated

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Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 20:48

Hoppinggreen · 08/11/2024 20:46

Don't sleep with someone if you have to cover up your perfectly natural body with something like that for them.
If its for you thats different

It's a bit of both tbh. I'm probably worrying over nothing I just don't feel completely comfortable with how I look and its been a long time since I've even entertained the idea of being intimate again.

I feel like such an idiot I wish I hadn't posted 😔

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Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 20:46

As above, again, I'm not taking them.

It was an impulsive spur of the moment thought, which has now been put to bed.

No need to carry on chastising me.

I asked for input, people answered, I've given my head a wobble.

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Hoppinggreen · 08/11/2024 20:46

Don't sleep with someone if you have to cover up your perfectly natural body with something like that for them.
If its for you thats different

lasagnelle · 08/11/2024 20:44

Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 20:42

As above, I won't be going.

it's worrying you even considered it

lasagnelle · 08/11/2024 20:43

Are you planning on getting laid?

If so I think it's grim to take your children along while you choose underwear. They shouldn't even know you're dating if it's early days.

Get your priorities straight.

Ps. The right wo/man wouldn't care about stretch marks

Catandsquirrel · 08/11/2024 20:43

I don't think Ann S is suitable for kids that age. A tiny one who wouldn't have a clue what was happening, maybe. Is there a Boux Avenue or Victoria's Secret in your town? They might have similar.

SilverChampagne · 08/11/2024 20:43

Has your partner made a last minute request for this, op? Hmm. The urgency is quite strange.

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Amibeingabadmum · 08/11/2024 20:42

As above, I won't be going.

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TheGoogleMum · 08/11/2024 20:42

There's some on amazon next day delivery. But I really don't think having one is quite so essential it's worth exposing the kids to inappropriate things. I'm sure your partner will find you very attractive without it