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Wondering if colleague did this on purpose

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WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:24

Today I had an important meeting arranged which I have been organising since July. In the end I rearranged my schedule to work today (I work for this company and have my own small business where I usually see clients on a Friday so had a lot of logistics to arrange).

The meeting was at 12 and so our senior consultant wanted me to go through some things in the morning. I told our whole team where I would be, asking them to get me when the people I was expecting had arrived.

The layout is a line of offices which are tucked away. The senior consultant and I had the door shut as we were discussing confidential information, furthest away from the entrance. There is a junior colleague who always huffs that she has to show people where these particular rooms are (she is sort of part of our team but in a different capacity)

I came out of the office at 12.10 to see if the people I had a meeting with were here yet. No one had got me so I thought they might be late. After a bit of investigating, she said “I looked around and couldn’t find you, so they left”. She said she asked around. But none of my team saw her come up the corridor. All she had to do was ask my whereabouts and any of them would have known where I was/ to come and get me. They were all working with their doors open.

She has form for doing things “to prove a point” so I’m wondering if she has done this on purpose? I don’t know when I/they am going to be able to rearrange and we will probably lose work because of this.

OP posts:
Mmmkaay · 08/11/2024 19:30

Has she been contrite since you told her about the huge mistake she made? I'd have been furious! Was she aware of the meeting?

WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:30

Doggymummar · 08/11/2024 19:27

Why weren't you waiting to greet them at 11.50 if the meeting was at 12? I would have been in reception ready.

Because when the senior consultant keeps asking you questions on a project, you answer them. They had rearranged their day too, it’s a busy time of year for us and they asked to see me so I utilised it.

its not an unusual arrangement in our offices to have a colleague fetch you for your meeting. I had everything ready.

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anon2022anon · 08/11/2024 19:29

I would be asking very quickly who she asked, and follow up with them to confirm whether she did.

Pandasnacks · 08/11/2024 19:29

Ultimately this is on you, they were your guests and you just assumed this woman would do all the greeting for you even though you know she has form. Greet your own guests when they are that important!

Raise it to her line manager if you want as she was clearly immature, but those guests leaving is still on you.

TeenGreenBottles · 08/11/2024 19:28

Doggymummar · 08/11/2024 19:27

Why weren't you waiting to greet them at 11.50 if the meeting was at 12? I would have been in reception ready.

This. What she did was wrong too but if the meeting was that crucial I'd have made sure to finish the previous meeting before time.

anon2022anon · 08/11/2024 19:28

Was she definitely there when the team was told where you would be? Or was she not there, but took it upon herself to 'help' even though she's not part of the team, and should have asked?
Either way I imagine a formal chat would be fitting of this.

DoYouReally · 08/11/2024 19:27

If It was that important, you should have started looking for them yourself at 11.55am.

You allow this happen. No one else.

Doggymummar · 08/11/2024 19:27

Why weren't you waiting to greet them at 11.50 if the meeting was at 12? I would have been in reception ready.

CountFucula · 08/11/2024 19:26

If she is junior then I would escalate that to her line manager. It’s completely incompetent. You might get some posters saying that she isn’t your secretary and you should have been waiting for the attendees but that’s bollocks. You work as a team and she isn’t.

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