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Wondering if colleague did this on purpose

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WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:24

Today I had an important meeting arranged which I have been organising since July. In the end I rearranged my schedule to work today (I work for this company and have my own small business where I usually see clients on a Friday so had a lot of logistics to arrange).

The meeting was at 12 and so our senior consultant wanted me to go through some things in the morning. I told our whole team where I would be, asking them to get me when the people I was expecting had arrived.

The layout is a line of offices which are tucked away. The senior consultant and I had the door shut as we were discussing confidential information, furthest away from the entrance. There is a junior colleague who always huffs that she has to show people where these particular rooms are (she is sort of part of our team but in a different capacity)

I came out of the office at 12.10 to see if the people I had a meeting with were here yet. No one had got me so I thought they might be late. After a bit of investigating, she said “I looked around and couldn’t find you, so they left”. She said she asked around. But none of my team saw her come up the corridor. All she had to do was ask my whereabouts and any of them would have known where I was/ to come and get me. They were all working with their doors open.

She has form for doing things “to prove a point” so I’m wondering if she has done this on purpose? I don’t know when I/they am going to be able to rearrange and we will probably lose work because of this.

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DreamW3aver · 08/11/2024 19:57

sprigatito · 08/11/2024 19:54

If she turned them away because she genuinely thought you weren't there, that's on you for not making her aware that you were in, that they were expected and she should let you know when they arrived.

But that doesn't explain why the people simply went away without making an attempt to contact the person they know they had a meeting with, something seems to be missing in the timeline

WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:56

I should have made it clear they are another team within the large company so didn’t come far - but they are an extremely busy one and trying to get a meeting with everyone needed is like trying to catch smoke with your hands. It’s still weird they left so quickly but not so weird when you realise they aren’t coming far to get to the meeting.

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sprigatito · 08/11/2024 19:54

WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:51

If your team were on point why didn't one of them go to meet your guests?

because our team are tucked out of the way and would see if the guests were here.

I actually walked out to see if I could catch them but they had gone as far as I could tell.

my suspicion is she didn’t even look because she thought they were wrong - she knows I don’t work on a Friday and I suspect she turned them away because of this.

If she turned them away because she genuinely thought you weren't there, that's on you for not making her aware that you were in, that they were expected and she should let you know when they arrived.

Octavia64 · 08/11/2024 19:53

Isn't there a receptionist?

If the meeting was at 12 you need to be there at 12.

It's question of piss off the senior consultant or miss the meeting.

In most businesses you'd need to go down and collect your clients. Is the colleague a receptionist?

timenowplease · 08/11/2024 19:52

She should have called you if she couldn't find you. Definitely an attitude problem.

That's a written warning I should think.

Mydahliasareshit · 08/11/2024 19:52

Not sure I understand this business arrangement.
Two parties take months to secure a date to discuss things that are presumably beneficial to both?
And then they trot off after 5 minutes because a junior 'can't find them'.
Not in any world I've worked in.
Unless they really didn't need or want to be there at all.

WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:51

If your team were on point why didn't one of them go to meet your guests?

because our team are tucked out of the way and would see if the guests were here.

I actually walked out to see if I could catch them but they had gone as far as I could tell.

my suspicion is she didn’t even look because she thought they were wrong - she knows I don’t work on a Friday and I suspect she turned them away because of this.

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forgotmypassagain · 08/11/2024 19:51

WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:42

I did but this but let’s just said he is very… set in his ways. I was not leaving until I was summoned or the conversation was at an end and so I finally got out at 12.09. He is also not happy about it on my behalf.

She is part of our team and isn’t at the same time, she works across an area rather than a team. If it’s not technically part of her job it is expected she (and the other woman she works with) would direct people around certain parts of the building.

Then you get up and go. Sorry but set in his ways or not you look unprofessional here.

i work in an investment bank with Ds and MDs who have egos that are enormous but if I need to leave then I need to leave and I excuse myself

LIZS · 08/11/2024 19:49

You could have rung them to call them back as they can't have got far in that time. You needed to be available at 12 if not beforehand , not rely on others to find you.

Littlemisscapable · 08/11/2024 19:48

Createausername1970 · 08/11/2024 19:44

It's odd all round.

You all work for the same company and depend on that company to be busy and profitable to pay wages. So the person who has first contact with a client/visitor has a responsibility to get the client/visitor to the right person/place.

You had a responsibility to either be ready to greet in person or ensure that the receptionist or whoever knew where you were.

But also I would have expected a client/visitor to have waited longer than 10 minutes. It's annoying, but delays happen.

No-one comes out of it very well.

Yep there is more to do this story..it makes little sense. If the meeting was so important surely you had no choice but to point out the time. Or alternatively make sure someone knew where the clients were to wait and that they were expected ?

Dora33 · 08/11/2024 19:48

You should have been ready in your office meeting room, at 12pm for your meeting with clients.
Something similar happened to me as a client a few years ago when I turned up on time for a meeting.
They had to look for the person that I was to meet. I was left waiting nearly 15mins until the person turned up.
I had an hour scheduled for the meeting and at 1 hour passed the original start time, I thanked them for their time and said I needed to go. They asked me to stay on,as they weren't finished giving me all the information.

I said sorry, that I can't be late for my next appointment.
It's really annoying that I was able to factor in the journey time, to meet them on time at their office. While they couldn't even ensure they to be ready in their own office meeting room.

Wannabelegalsmeagol · 08/11/2024 19:45

I'm surprised they walked out only 10 minutes past time.

Pistachiochiochio · 08/11/2024 19:44

Surely you can't think the senior consultant would have minded if, at 12 , you'd have said "right let's go and get our attendees".

Is it part of this junior colleague's job description to help guide people to the meeting room or is she constantly interrupted from her actual work because of where she happens to sit?

If your team were on point why didn't one of them go to meet your guests?

Createausername1970 · 08/11/2024 19:44

It's odd all round.

You all work for the same company and depend on that company to be busy and profitable to pay wages. So the person who has first contact with a client/visitor has a responsibility to get the client/visitor to the right person/place.

You had a responsibility to either be ready to greet in person or ensure that the receptionist or whoever knew where you were.

But also I would have expected a client/visitor to have waited longer than 10 minutes. It's annoying, but delays happen.

No-one comes out of it very well.

luckylavender · 08/11/2024 19:43

forgotmypassagain · 08/11/2024 19:36

You’ve been organising a meeting since July and you didn’t think to say to the senior consultant at 12 noon “I need to see where they are?”

sorry but you need to start being more forthright and assertive.

i would take up what your colleague has done as a separate issue with her boss.

It's perfectly normal In my office and clients I visit to have visitors brought to you. It would also be totally inappropriate to wait in Reception.

KrisAkabusi · 08/11/2024 19:43

A meeting that important, but they didn't even wait ten minutes? Something is fishy. You need to ask them exactly what was said to them.

But you also need to say "Sorry, i have to go to that important meeting". You said the senior consultant knew about it and rescheduled his day around it, so he knew it was important.

WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:42

forgotmypassagain · 08/11/2024 19:36

You’ve been organising a meeting since July and you didn’t think to say to the senior consultant at 12 noon “I need to see where they are?”

sorry but you need to start being more forthright and assertive.

i would take up what your colleague has done as a separate issue with her boss.

I did but this but let’s just said he is very… set in his ways. I was not leaving until I was summoned or the conversation was at an end and so I finally got out at 12.09. He is also not happy about it on my behalf.

She is part of our team and isn’t at the same time, she works across an area rather than a team. If it’s not technically part of her job it is expected she (and the other woman she works with) would direct people around certain parts of the building.

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nopenotplaying · 08/11/2024 19:40

Just do the meeting on teams

WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:36

DreamW3aver · 08/11/2024 19:34

Why did the people go away without trying to contact you to find out where you were? Seems odd that they just left after 10 minutes when they knew there was a meeting

This is exactly my thinking and I wonder if she has said something to them to purposefully mislead them. I contacted them and they are going to call me Monday.

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forgotmypassagain · 08/11/2024 19:36

You’ve been organising a meeting since July and you didn’t think to say to the senior consultant at 12 noon “I need to see where they are?”

sorry but you need to start being more forthright and assertive.

i would take up what your colleague has done as a separate issue with her boss.

Delatron · 08/11/2024 19:36

It sounds like she did this on purpose so you need to get to the bottom of what happened - have you spoken to your guests?

However, a meeting that important I wouldn’t be relying on non team members who have form for being difficult. I’d have told the senior consultant at 11.55 that I was going to make sure I welcomed my guests as they arrived. Then you ensure they are welcomed properly and professionally.

gamerchick · 08/11/2024 19:34

I'd definitely make a big deal of this tbh. She needs reining in.

DreamW3aver · 08/11/2024 19:34

Why did the people go away without trying to contact you to find out where you were? Seems odd that they just left after 10 minutes when they knew there was a meeting

WilloWhisperer · 08/11/2024 19:32

anon2022anon · 08/11/2024 19:29

I would be asking very quickly who she asked, and follow up with them to confirm whether she did.

She certainly didn’t ask anyone on my team. They could be lying, but my team are generally pretty good at owning up to mistakes, and I will often do things for them as much as they do for me.

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GoldenSunflowers · 08/11/2024 19:32

Did you contact the guests and is their story the same?

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