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When did you take your newborn out

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Dorynnemo · 08/11/2024 18:04

I have a 3 week old baby and I am breastfeeding. I have only taken her to see GP or get vaccine at hospital. She caught cold last week from her brother which kept me worried. I don't feel comfortable yet about breastfeeding outside. I haven't managed to take her out to other places yet like restaurant or coffee shop. Since it's flu season and baby doesn't gets first vaccine until 8 weeks, I feel bit anxious about taking her to supermarket etc. At what age did you start taking your baby out and any tips are appreciated.

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Incognitoburrito88 · 08/11/2024 20:24

Baby one - dog walk on day 3 John Lewis cafe day 7
baby two - music festival day 5 (my family run the event)
baby three - school sports day day 4
baby four - cafe day 3

I was a bit nervous first time I breastfed in public. I got my husband to sit in front of me while she latched on. You get good at it very quickly. Maybe try feeding in front of a mirror so you can see how little anyone else can see.

your baby is getting passive immunity from your milk so it really doesn’t matter that they haven’t had their jabs yet. Supermarket in a sling is definitely safe and at least would be a change of scene for you.

IsitanIssue · 08/11/2024 20:24

Three mile walk with her the next day. First and third definitely visited the pub within the first few days/week. Same as others have said that when they have school aged siblings you can’t avoid outside germs. That said, I kept them close and when you’re breastfeeding you create antibodies for the things things you’re both exposed to. Third is now 8 months and only had one two day case of sniffles since she’s been born (despite 4 holidays away!).

RedBulb · 08/11/2024 20:23

10 days, I was a bit of a state after episiotomy and forceps and couldn’t walk far, dragged myself to hospital appointments from day 2, but not out with baby until day 10. Just go when you are ready, someone else posted about not letting fear hold you back, I completely agree!

Littlebitpsycho · 08/11/2024 20:23

My DD was about 20 hours old when we went to the yard to sort out my 3 horses, luckily everyone was desperate for cuddles so it was easy.

I'd have gone bonkers staying indoors any longer, although I did have an easy birth - just a tear warranting the use of maternity pads the size of small mattresses 🤦‍♀️🤣

Laura36TTC · 08/11/2024 20:23

A couple of hours after we got home we went out a walk.
We were out every day after that, walks, coffee shops, out for lunch. All just out for an hour or two.

However my little girl is a summer baby xx

Fleurdalys · 08/11/2024 20:21

Gave birth at 8pm
Was on the school run with eldest and newborn in pram at 8am
Was lovely to see big brother so proud of his new bro
I loved it

Rachie1973 · 08/11/2024 20:19

Dorynnemo · 08/11/2024 18:04

I have a 3 week old baby and I am breastfeeding. I have only taken her to see GP or get vaccine at hospital. She caught cold last week from her brother which kept me worried. I don't feel comfortable yet about breastfeeding outside. I haven't managed to take her out to other places yet like restaurant or coffee shop. Since it's flu season and baby doesn't gets first vaccine until 8 weeks, I feel bit anxious about taking her to supermarket etc. At what age did you start taking your baby out and any tips are appreciated.

I get dreadful cabin fever so within days. My 3rd was born at 1am, I was in Asda by midday lol.

If you feel up to it, give her a feed then get out for a walk. Chances are she’ll sleep a while in the pram and it’s good for both of you to get out and about.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 08/11/2024 20:19

I don't remember,

but having 2 large dogs that got 2 good walks every day, I guess it was pretty soon.
as i can't remember how much paternity leave dh had/took.

I do know we took her with us in her carry cot to our favourite restaurant when she was 10 days old
( we did phone and ask if it would be ok, and she was bottle fed. she slept through the whole meal )

ChiliFiend · 08/11/2024 20:17

I tried not to take any of mine anywhere indoors and crowded for as long as I could (so - anywhere outdoors or just visiting with a few people was ok, but I tried not to get on crowded buses during rush hour etc.) Of course it doesn't matter in the big scheme of things if your newborn gets a cold, but it's pretty miserable while they have it - and some viral illnesses can be dangerous for newborns.

ReignOfError · 08/11/2024 20:15

Day 11 (the day after they let us out of hospital) and every day thereafter. Normally for a decent walk, for my sanity, but also to friends, family and the odd mother and baby thing. It was a long time ago, and you were expected to take your babies to the local clinic to be weighed once a week, which was a great chance to meet other mums and kids and catch all the germs! First flights at 6 weeks as they have overseas grandparents.

Moonlightstars · 08/11/2024 20:11

By 3 weeks DD had been to 2 weddings and a funeral!

With the others about 4 days but only for a coffee/walk. I would have gone a bit stir crazy otherwise.

Printedword · 08/11/2024 20:11

My baby was prem, we left hospital after a month. After getting home I tried the get out and about from around 10 days after we got home. My very badly indurated wound/scar was the main barrier to getting out.

pimplebum · 08/11/2024 20:09

Day 1 and every day but that was just me I wanted to go out

you do want suits you , happy mum happy baby
sounds like you are a bit anxious if you can Brest feed at home you can do it in a cafe / park bench
as fir colds , just follow medical advice but it is just a cold

MadKittenWoman · 08/11/2024 20:08

Day 4 to an NCT baby group around the corner.

Sii · 08/11/2024 20:08

The day we got home from hospital so 3 days old. I couldn't think of anything worse than staying in the house for 3 weeks. Even if you dont want to be around people go for a walk and get some fresh air (thats what we did)

Abitlosttoday · 08/11/2024 20:07

It's about when you're physically ready too. I took my first to Next (why?!) on day 3 and had to lie on the beds! So daft. I really wanted to be out in the world but I was very dizzy in that shop. Took my second to a political rally (very safe) on day 2 and was absolutely fine - much easier birth.

Psychologymam · 08/11/2024 20:06

Five weeks with the first as it was horrible winter weather and I struggled to establish bf and maybe the day after with the second as I was more in the swing of things and it was summer and she fed easily - all to say, it’s okay to do what works for you, there isn’t a right answer xx if you’re worried about bf in public, maybe go to a local peer group for a coffee initially, it’s a good way to practise in comfortable setting!

Orla32 · 08/11/2024 20:05

We had a nice pub lunch on day 2 by the river!

orchid81 · 08/11/2024 20:04

Dc1 at 3 days old, dc2 the following morning for the school run, he was less than 24 hours old, but dc1 had school.

claudiawinklemansfringetrimmer · 08/11/2024 20:03

Sayshesheshe · 08/11/2024 19:59

I honestly would have gone insane doing this.

We went for a walk on day 4 after a c section and have been out walking every day since (2 weeks in) via coffee shops. We’ve also had visitors near-daily.

I agree, I’m not a super active person but not leaving the house for 3 weeks would be a recipe for depression for me honestly.

Eviolle · 08/11/2024 20:02

Day 4 with baby 1 and day 3 with baby 2. Baby 2 was born in January, just wrapped her up nice and snug and we went to the park with the big kid. No difficulties at all. And she's never had a cold.

Chipsahoy · 08/11/2024 20:01

It’s hard isn’t it? Baby number one we didn’t leave much except for medical appointments. It was February and cold but mostly I had a birth injury.
baby number two came with me to preschool about a week after he was born.

Baby three was a summer baby so we spent a lot of time in the garden, he napped in his pram. We started walks after about a week but I stayed away from the school run for 4 weeks because chicken pox was going around!

You are allowed to stay home and rest. But do try and get some fresh air with the pram. Or perhaps try a breastfeeding group. Very supportive and gets you out and about.

claudiawinklemansfringetrimmer · 08/11/2024 20:01

First -about 4 days? We went to maccies lol
Second was in NICU so didn’t even come home until 10 days old, think he would have come to the park at about 2 weeks ish as it was the summer holidays

Sayshesheshe · 08/11/2024 19:59

NewNameShame · 08/11/2024 19:20

Just had 3rd baby at home.
Firstborn was a hospital birth, last 2 Homebirth.

Was very strict this time - week in the bed, week on the bed, week in the house.

I would have loved to have done "the first 40 days" but just wasn't practical with 2 other children.

As a doula, I encourage all my client to do this, how we recover during postpartum influences the rest of our life.

My bond with my last baby is so much stronger for staying in that oxytocin bubble for as long as possibles

I honestly would have gone insane doing this.

We went for a walk on day 4 after a c section and have been out walking every day since (2 weeks in) via coffee shops. We’ve also had visitors near-daily.

usernother · 08/11/2024 19:57

Within a couple of days. I needed to get shopping. Home delivery hadn't been invented.