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Lifts to school

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FloralCrown · 08/11/2024 17:41

My DC passed their driving test a couple of months ago and as we live in the country with the school 4 miles away down pavement-less, busy roads, we decided to buy a car for them to use.

This has made my life so much easier as the bus was really unreliable and I often had to do the school run last minute when it didn't show up/was delayed.

My DC has given their 3 friends a lift to school since the day after they passed, saving them time and the bus fare, but not once has any of them ever offered any money for petrol/car costs (like extortionate insurance 🙄)

AIBU to think that their parents should have at least given a fiver/tenner to pass onto the driver by now because that's what I would have done?

My DC feels awkward about asking for money, I don't really see the lift-receiving-kids as I'm working/commuting when they leave, so without sending a pointed text to their parents I can't really get involved, but I'm starting to feel like a bit of a mug here.

None of the three kids are close to taking their test, let alone passing (or getting a car), so the lifts are unlikely to ever be reciprocated.

Are they being CFs?

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BeatriceAndLottie · 08/11/2024 17:48

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You need to calm down.

StripeyDeckchair · 08/11/2024 17:47

Are you sure this is OK with your insurance?
Mine where prohibited from carrying passengers other than family for 1 year after they passed- it made their insurance quite a bit cheaper.

The stats for teenager drivers accidents are bad & I don't want mine showing off or being distracted by their friends

Trickabrick · 08/11/2024 17:46

Does your DC have to go out of their way to collect them? If so, the simplest way is to get them to tell their friends that you aren’t happy about paying for the extra petrol it costs so unless they pay or get themselves to your house, they can’t take them any more.

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 08/11/2024 17:46

I wouldn't be getting involved at ages (presumably) 16-18, and would assume they sorted it between themselves.

I wouldn't be expecting teens to contribute to insurance either, although it would be nice if they offered petrol money, but, as they don't drive and are fairly young, it may not be in their radar.

The person at fault is your dc for not wanting to ask. "If you give me fiver a week I'll take you to school", there's nothing awkward about that.

clearquote · 08/11/2024 17:45

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