Not even a card!!

I didn’t give my brother a card, we were strapped for cash at the time (they would never have known this) and I didn’t want to give a card with no money. For weeks and months I kept saying’oh I must give you your card’ and then finally I was buying gifts for a new baby instead. I really regret it but we just had zero to spare

I actually remember a missing point from the story about my husband's brother. MIL bought him a card to give to us 'because she knows what he's like' and apparently he said no we don't do cards and binned it. You couldn't make it up with him 😂all he had to do was sign his name! He also doesn't acknowledge our children's birthdays in any way yet we always give his card, gift and money.

No, I’m not any of your other guests either.
Not sure what’s so hilarious about being this grabby, tbh?

I wouldn't expect a card from a sister or any of my immediate family for my wedding and I'm 100% I didn't get any from my 4 sisters or 2 brothers. I'd actually think it odd. Cards for my wedding is what people who don't know me well would give.

That's extremely selfish of your sister and I imagine that she is jealous of you currently being in the limelight while hers has been long forgotten. I would be very upset about this tbh. If I were you I'd cool off on the contact with her , you don't need that negativity in your life. Also what planet are people on that they think this is ok? You completely went out of your way paying for everything. What an ungrateful b*h!!

You were still able to pinpoint who hadn't made the list, op 😂

Some people are just like this op, don't dwell on it. My husband's brother didn't give anything on our wedding day either, no card, nothing and to add insult to injury he only attended because we paid for his taxi fare!

pimplebum · Today 19:52
Bit shocked you asked her where here card is !
maybe she genuinely took it home she was busy and had kids after all
it may not be her top priority to post it to you fast, just a card
Thank you but please read the thread as I didn’t directly ask her where her card was - there were cards left on the table with money in and I initially asked as I was worried that a card had been lost amongst all the moving around etc. We are quite open with each other so believe me she would have no qualms about calling me out on something like this 😂. Maybe I am in the wrong and I’m being over -sensitive but I just couldn’t attend a wedding and not bring a card - I think it’s is really bad manners

I read your tread carefully. You asked her about the card to the point she had to reply and give you and explanation/ lie/ excuse

you asked !
she replied!

I do agree it’s etiquette to bring a card and you did for hers so bit odd that she didn’t so I would be inclined to believe her

I wouldn't give it any head space. You sound a bit needy to me.

If there had been nothing from one of your other guests, would you have questioned them on it, too, just in case it had gotten lost? (What are the chances?)

So you asked her indirectly 🤷🏻‍♀️
What’s the difference? You still trawled through the envelopes to make sure there was one from everybody, and then followed up on the one which was missing.

Bit shocked you asked her where here card is !
maybe she genuinely took it home she was busy and had kids after all
it may not be her top priority to post it to you fast, just a card

Why would you expect a card? She was there and part of it all.

My brother in law was my husband's best man. Didn't give us a card or a gift, he's generally not good for gifts although he does usually bring the kids home something small when he's been traveling. Really didn't phase me at all, he was there on the day and we all had a great time. I would have been mortified to message him and ask why he didn't give us a card but like I said, it really wasn't an issue for us at all.

I can’t believe you messaged her to ask where your card was! 🤦‍♀️

I would presume the amount of time invested by her whole family in the prep for your wedding would be worth far more than a card

I am British born and bred and I didn't know you were meant to take cards or presents to a wedding until my mother asked me what present I was taking to my friends wedding. I then also had no idea that people expected you to still bring a gift if you were in the wedding party. Clearly I hadn't paid attention to weddings on TV or in film up until that point, but other than that - I'm not sure how I would have learnt this information if someone didn't tell me! My parents didn't go to any weddings when I was a teen who might have paid attention to the fact they were taking a gift! I have met other people.like this too - you don't know what you don't know, after all!

@Foxblue

"Another thing is, getting someone a card is a tradition - but it's not a tradition to everyone, and we are not all aware of everyone else's traditions, nor are we actually obliged to follow those traditions."

I imagine that the sister in this case is British born and bred and is also, obviously, a fully grown adult. She would be perfectly aware of the most mainstream traditions unless she's been locked up most of her life. She may not be aware of other culture's traditions, or really niche and obscure UK ones (like Cornish hurling or wife carrying for example), but buying a congratulatory card for a wedding does not fall into any of these "out there" categories. I've never been to a wedding where guests have been scratching their heads in bemusement about buying a card, or a gift, whilst saying "what is this strange tradition that they speak of".