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Original poster

To be absolutely disgusted at my date?

145 replies

lullabellee · 08/11/2024 00:08

He drove and when we got back to mine and parked up we had a kiss. I had a top on with a zip down the middle and he went to pull it down and I said no, this happened twice. I then got out the car and he quickly apologised that “he gets a bit carried away”.

Surely my first no should have been enough?

OP posts:
staceyflack · 08/11/2024 00:31

Yes, I think so @HermoinePotter . Glad it worked out for you both.

bluecampbell · 08/11/2024 00:28

staceyflack · 08/11/2024 00:19

First date?
If so... you are being completely unreasonable to be in his car.

Are you serious?

What a stupid, victim-blaming comment.

staceyflack · 08/11/2024 00:28

No, not victim blaming - safety advice.

Of course, no means no, first time, second time.... permanently, basic. Anything that isn't yes, is no. End of.

mathanxiety · 08/11/2024 00:25

Hope there won't be a second date.

HermoinePotter · 08/11/2024 00:24

staceyflack · 08/11/2024 00:19

First date?
If so... you are being completely unreasonable to be in his car.

First date with my DH I drove. Was he unreasonable to be in my car? No means no, no matter where you are.

HermoinePotter · 08/11/2024 00:21

Grim. Throw it back.

staceyflack · 08/11/2024 00:21

And yes of course, no means no - the first time.

SendMeHomeNow · 08/11/2024 00:20

staceyflack · 08/11/2024 00:19

First date?
If so... you are being completely unreasonable to be in his car.

Victim blaming much!! She should be able to trust that he won’t act without consent wherever they are.

NavyOrca · 08/11/2024 00:20

Don’t ever see him again. And block him.

staceyflack · 08/11/2024 00:19

And show him where you live.

staceyflack · 08/11/2024 00:19

First date?
If so... you are being completely unreasonable to be in his car.

HRTQueen · 08/11/2024 00:19

well he has told you he gets a bit carried away

when someone tells you who they are listen!!!

block him op

nadine90 · 08/11/2024 00:15

If that's his behaviour on a first date I dread to think how he might behave further down the line. Creep

R41nb0wR0se · 08/11/2024 00:12

YANBU. He should have asked before trying the first time!

GreengrassofW · 08/11/2024 00:11

Not a good start, throw him back

Happygogoat · 08/11/2024 00:11

Block!

Kitkatcatflap · 08/11/2024 00:11

Cringe. A definite No

username7891 · 08/11/2024 00:11

Quite right.

Tink3rbell30 · 08/11/2024 00:10

Massive ick.

ConiferBat · 08/11/2024 00:10

Yup. It should.

What a turn off.