to not let neighbour use my shower!

Personally I find it amazing she has even asked to do this!
I'm afraid I find it really quite cheeky to ask this of a neighbour. And especially a neighbour who is just a casual acquaintance.
I think I would be telling her it isn't really convenient OP. And I wouldn't feel bad about it.

Your post illustrates exactly what I mean.

We see these things as given. As "facts". But it's not the only way to see/approach the world. For example, you could feel/think more along the lines of "I currently have access to a working shower. Someone right next to me would like access to a working shower. I am no more deserving of this working shower than this other person. It therefore makes complete sense to facilitate this person using it". Now, obviously, taking this to an extreme would mean opening up your shower for the entire local homeless population. Which few would do (although really, perhaps we should). But not seeing any reason why your neighbour shouldn't use your shower is a step closer to that position.

Or just go to the gym/ pool

It's a couple of words which, much like your "naked and wet", are perfectly factual but designed to sound lurid and to make the act of having a shower seem unspeakably gross. As you well know.

Good grief, really? Over a couple of words?

You're right, you do sound a bit batshit.

But to each their own, which is the point really :)

Agreed
It might be difficult to say no, though.
I don't see why she can't have a bath until the shower is fixed. I couldn't imagine asking a neighbour this.

Omg. "Bodily run-off" has sent me over the edge. I am sitting at my desk half-gasping and half-cackling like a madwoman.

Peak batshit thread, this.

I actually think some of those thought processes are way out there.

It's not normal to jump straight to paranoia about people's hygiene. Yes we all know examples of witnessing manky behaviour but we also live in the world, sit on seats where ohers have sat, hold railings other people's hands have touched, exist in communal spaces with others every day. And we don't die from it. Most people don't go around in a state of germophobic paranoia.

And the whole "my home is my sanctuary and it will be irredeemably sullied if a stranger sets foot in my bathroom" attitude is honestly not one I have ever encountered in real life. Not once. And I have known some very odd people!

Wow! I can't believe the way this thread has gone - there's no way I'd want a naked neighbour and their bodily run off in my flat, and I am a perfectly friendly and helpful person!

Just checking this thread in my lunch break, goodness me I def did not expect it to have taken off like this…! Obviously I’m not going to be able to get through reading several hundred replies so I thought I’d just update with a reply I sent to my neighbour.

Essentially, I let her know that I was happy for her to come and shower a couple of times, but every other day would be a bit tricky for me to accommodate. She replied and seemed very grateful.

I’m allowed to assert my own boundaries after all. I don’t feel guilty about this decision, I’m doing what I feel comfortable enough to do, but still trying to help her out.

Sure, but it's not a way out there "mindset" to not want virtual strangers getting naked in your home - even if some posters are super hysterical about the factual word "naked" 😅

It's not out there either to imagine that if someone is cheeky enough to ask this they will push for more.

It's not hard to imagine many would worry about the hygiene of the person using their personal space.

And many people are just private and don't want people in their home unless it's really necessary.

I don't thnk any of those are out there notions, or particularly difficult to imagine or empathise with.

I don't know if I'd let them, but I didn't like the way the OP was being dragged and made out to be selfish or mad for not being over the moon about her private time for a week being interrupted by a cheeky neighbour who doesn't need access to her shower, she just wants it.

Just checking this thread in my lunch break, goodness me I def did not expect it to have taken off like this…! Obviously I’m not going to be able to get through reading several hundred replies so I thought I’d just update with a reply I sent to my neighbour.

Essentially, I let her know that I was happy for her to come and shower a couple of times, but every other day would be a bit tricky for me to accommodate. She replied and seemed very grateful.

I’m allowed to assert my own boundaries after all. I don’t feel guilty about this decision, I’m doing what I feel comfortable enough to do, but still trying to help her out.

Or in my case:

Neighbour on a friendly dog walk with OP: oh Sharon my shower is broken and i can't get a plumber in for two weeks.

Me, before she has a chance to ask: you are welcome to pop round and use mine. I am home most of the time anyway. If I'm not around, you have a spare key, just drop me a text before you come over.

Neighbour: thank you so much. <Comes over later, with wine>

I get to feel good for having helped someone, they get slightly less inconvenience.

the underlying issue that this (and so so so many other MN threads) shows is that:

People cannot have ordinary adult conversations.

Neighbour on a friendly dog walk with OP: oh Sharon my shower is broken and i can't get a plumber in for two weeks, any chance i could use yours every other day until then?

OP: oh sorry, i wouldn't feel comfortable with that

Neighbour: ok then, i thought i may as well ask, who knows.

It is very very simple.

To the extent of not allowing a (female) neighbour you have a friendly relationship with to borrow your shower during a week when you plan on being home? I'm not sure I know anyone who'd refuse that and would find it really unusual.

Neighbour isn't asking to join OP in her shower unless this is the biggest drip feed ever

Agreed
It might be difficult to say no, though.
I don't see why she can't have a bath until the shower is fixed. I couldn't imagine asking a neighbour this.

To the extent of not allowing a (female) neighbour you have a friendly relationship with to borrow your shower during a week when you plan on being home? I'm not sure I know anyone who'd refuse that and would find it really unusual.

Neighbour isn't asking to join OP in her shower unless this is the biggest drip feed ever