For context - me & some of my best friends (we’ve been pals since primary school, all in our late 30s now) spend days out with the kids quite frequently.
Particular friend has 3 DC under the age of 6. Which yes, it’s hard, I’ve been there.
The problem is, when we are out it can be so emotionally draining. All she talks about is her own children, who are present and has 0 interest in any of ours, the convo always reverts back to her kids. She never has conversations with puts, when we all take an active interest in hers… she expects us to remember every detail of their lives and gets agitated if we don’t… if one of them falls and we don’t see it she gets stressed as if we were meant to have. Wouldn’t mind but she never ever reciprocates. If her kids are doing anything they shouldn’t be, she’s defensive if we gently redirect them, but very quick to tell ours off… as in snappy. I feel like we are on eggshells!
Don’t get me wrong, I love her kids, they’re brilliant. She’s a brilliant mum and as a person she’s great! We can’t avoid not going out with her or not seeing her as she’s a best friend. If this was discussed with her it would cause a HUGE racket.
Just don’t know what to do!