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To think this a red flag? And either way be completely cringed out?

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tgatwas · 07/11/2024 19:32

Went on a third date with a man, and for relevance we have not had sex yet.

The conversation kind of shifted to exs (it was relevant) and he said he broke up with his ex as it became apparent she only wanted two things:

To live with him rent free
To have an incredible dicking every day (which he followed up with yeah I know that sounds big headed)

I just kind of said “oh right” and changed the subject. Maybe he is fantastic in bed, maybe not, but it definitely gave me the absolute ick.

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Combattingthemoaners · 07/11/2024 20:26

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The thought of Jacob Rees Mogg and incredible dicking 🤢.

Duckyfondant · 07/11/2024 20:25

Where have men found this 'good dicking' phrase and are there any women that don't immediately seal shut at the mention of it?

TheaBrandt · 07/11/2024 20:25

Sorry op I’ve quite a serious day but your post made me laugh!

pictoosh · 07/11/2024 20:24

Oh dear.

LozzaChops101 · 07/11/2024 20:23

Urgh. That's awful!

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Godoit · 07/11/2024 20:19

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Or someone with a bit of self respect wouldn't want to mention his or her previous sex life 3 dates in because there's so much more to get to know in a person than how incredible their dick is. But each to their own.

HowToSaveAWife · 07/11/2024 20:19

I'd give him a go and then give him a solid two for effort.

And if it is actually decent then... Win win!

Schleep · 07/11/2024 20:18

Any man who has to boast about how incredibly he is at sex is almost certainly really poor at it.

Also, the phrase "incredible dicking" suggests that he thinks his penis is the most important factor in sex - which also indicates someone who's bad in bed.

Regardless, it's a tasteless thing to say and I'd be making my excuses.

Pollypoorly · 07/11/2024 20:17

Run for the hills run 🏃🏼

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MoleAndBadger · 07/11/2024 20:17

The good thing is that you've only wasted three dates on him.

It sounds to me as if he has relaxed, dropped the airs and graces normally applied during the first date, and shown you his 'real' self. Throw him 🔙 into the sea.

DaisyChain505 · 07/11/2024 20:16

He may have just been trying to make light of what was actually a tough issue in their relationship.

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 07/11/2024 20:15

AConcernedCitizen · 07/11/2024 20:08

Tell him you're not so keen on an incredible dicking right out of the gate, at least not until you've had a rigorous finger-blasting.

Hahahahaha.

Urgh, don't. He seems the type to start waggling them around and winking.

Godoit · 07/11/2024 20:15

Hes got a chipolata

Americano75 · 07/11/2024 20:12

This really isn't the flex he thinks it is, if living rent free and having amazing sex every day isn't enough to keep her. 😆

NonPlayerCharacter · 07/11/2024 20:11

Can't imagine why the relationship ended.

Snowdrop80 · 07/11/2024 20:09

AConcernedCitizen · 07/11/2024 20:08

Tell him you're not so keen on an incredible dicking right out of the gate, at least not until you've had a rigorous finger-blasting.

😂

Sethera · 07/11/2024 20:09

Incredible dicking 😂

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Snowdrop80 · 07/11/2024 20:08

The fact that he has used the term “incredible dicking” would really give me the ick

AConcernedCitizen · 07/11/2024 20:08

Tell him you're not so keen on an incredible dicking right out of the gate, at least not until you've had a rigorous finger-blasting.

ohyesido · 07/11/2024 20:07

So the ick wasn't just the phrase itself?

OohShakiraShakira · 07/11/2024 20:06

Eurgh.

Never mind his ex, but the phrase "incredible dicking" will certainly be living rent free (in my head)

Mydahliasareshit · 07/11/2024 20:06

Gosh, someone is VERY full of himself isn't he.
The trouble with men like this is you can't help wondering right from the start what on earth he'll concoct about you should you have the temerity to leave.

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