To think this a red flag? And either way be completely cringed out?

What an incredible prick

Using the phrase ‘incredible dicking’ is a major red flag and ick in itself..

I think it’s very hard to know without having more context about him ax a person. On the one hand he sounds like a tool, on the other, it is just about conceivable that some men may not want to be with a woman who isn’t bringing anything to a partnership beyond sex, at least not long term. If there is a scenario where he’s working hard to fund everything and is tired etc it is sort of possible to imagine.

but then again, on balance of probability him being a massive tool is most likely.

Off subject but I was once getting a pedicure and the therapist was male. Liked to chat, unfortunately. Anyway chatting about TV shows and we both liked said show and he exclaimed the below several times, very loudly:

'Yeah I was dicking it hard!'

I was aghast! Husband and and I now use this phrase quite a lot and have a good chuckle.

It's always disappointing when you've made it to date 2 or 3 and then a man does something like this.

I remember going on date 2 and towards the end after dinner we were walking to the tube, we passed an Ann Summer's shop (back when they were still around) and the date made some coarse comment about the outfits that he thought was really funny.

I just hailed the next black cab that passed, got in it and never spoke to him again.

Smut and the like can be sexy - but only when you're really into that person and it's a joke. Not like this. It's gross and very squirmy-inducing.

Crying with laughter at this.

Ew. Drop and run.

I think unless you’ve broken up with your ex on very good terms, then it’s always an awkward conversation to have whilst getting to know someone new.

Why do you need to have a conversation about it (especially the sex part) though? Just a general we didn't want the same things is enough.

Is he called Boris Johnson? That's just the kind of shit talk I could imagine coming out of that buffoon's mouth.

Sounds about right.

She dumped him as he paid for nothing and his willy was a tadpole!

She probably paid for everything and he has a limp dick

It would be interesting to hear the other side of the story....

The words aren’t the best lol but maybe he was trying to say it in a light hearted way.

I think unless you’ve broken up with your ex on very good terms, then it’s always an awkward conversation to have whilst getting to know someone new.

If your ex cheated on you, you would probably say it in quite a light hearted way to show a new date that you’re not messed up from it.

I met a man who was still obviously hurt over his ex cheating on him and although I understood, I felt it was a red flag and didn’t continue it.
If he said it in a more light hearted way, then I would have carried on seeing him.

It basically sounds like she used him.
Or he felt used.

I wouldn’t cross him off my list for that one comment if he seems otherwise ok, but it would make me less keen to see him.

Perhaps give him one more chance and see how it goes.

I think she deserved the free rent if she had to shag that every day (or at all).

Hmm sounds very bitter

twirls

Thanks for the NC inspo, OP!

Best laugh I have had today, thank you very witty posters.

Sounds like a keeper
When do you move in OP 🏡🍆

Is he public school??

It has echos of the infamous 'darling you smell like botty' comment from days of yore on here

Wow rent free and an incredible dicking?? How is this man still single 🤔

Gross.

I like my men to be more couth and respectful than that, sorry. Who the fuck says things like that on third meeting?

Bin, bin, bin. And tell him why if he asks.

(Also, I don't know why people are so hot to discuss prior relationships. I never have, and never will. It's irrelevant.)

I'm not that surprised he thinks a) having enough money to support his ex b) being good in bed are flexes. He clearly just wanted you to know this early on.

I wouldn't be interested in him giving me an incredible dicking though so I wouldn't see him again.

You saying absolute ick is as bad as him saying incredible dicking. Both dreadful

Maybe he thought you would be tempted. If it was that incredible he wouldn’t be single would he.

Creased laughing at both that expression and the comments on here. I would never be able to look him in the eye again.